Interracial DDLG Couples?

[Guest RedDragon]

Hi everyone! Back on the site after a few months off. Its fun to see old (and new) faces here. So... I'm wondering if there are any interracial DDLG couples out there? I usually don't have issues with insecurity so this is kind of hard for me to admit. But 'Ive always felt safe and welcome here so I decided to post this.

I'm bi-racial myself, but I look black as opposed to anything else. I love me and I love the way I look so that's not the issue. I feel a very strong attraction to Caucasian and Hispanic littles though and for whatever reason it has been so hard to connect with anyone. It hasn't really been an issue with vanilla dating in the past, only DDLG. I'm starting to feel like I'm not young enough or white enough though for many of the littles out there who are looking for a Daddy. I think I'm wrong, I mean I really want to be wrong, but I just have this horrible feeling inside that I'm passed over because I'm not young and white.

 

My search started a few years ago on Fetlife. I've been a part of ALT and many popular dating sites/apps. I don't hide who I am or what I'm looking for. I see all these people connecting on these sites and it's (mostly) always white girls and white rocker or gamer guys. Anyway, I never want to be labeled as a complainer. I just want to find someone like everyone else does but I feel like I'm at a disadvantage? And I need a hug:(

[Daddybears PLB]

Awh Lots of little huggies being sent your way ♡

 

This is a form of social media which these days seems to be a necessary evil... I'm not a lover of fb insta etc for the reason that we end up comparing ourselves to others and their perceived popularity...but try not to do that... quality of connections is better than quantity

 

I really don't think you need to worry about it being a race/age thing at all but I do understand the age concern as I am 33 so sometimes I feel Daddies (even older ones) tend to prefer littles in their twenties. Although I do feel older littles and Daddies hav alot of advantages in the sense we can be more experienced in life and hav a better sense of who we are and what we want in my opinion and also have the experience of learning from past relationships vanilla and ddlg ones which can only be a good thing going into a new relationship.

I myself personally look for older Daddies as I want a manly man who has maturity and experience with their life together as I feel they emotionally better equipped to look after me but I also feel more submissive to them for some reason.

As for race...I'm irish so I'm as Caucasian as they come but I can't really see why colour of your skin is a thing.. I thought most littles are more interested in finding a nice caring honest Daddy and obviously attraction is important to everyone but shouldn't be the only factor...but that's just my thoughts.

 

There is someone for everyone and I remind myself of that alot Don't worry you will find the perfect little for you one day and it'll be like the past worries never existed xx

 

I'm not good at explaining my thoughts so I hope this makes sense....hehe

Edited October 16, 2016 by Carebearsub

[Antoinette]

Well, first and foremost *hugs* I'm sorry you're feeling this way.

 

I can only speak from my experience and how I go about relationships. Which is, I don't care for age (as long as the person is of age) or race, if I love the person's character, their personality, their mind and I am attracted to them (attraction usually comes from me liking them as a person, tbh) then I will be with them. It's as simple as that, to be honest.

 

I understand the insecurity, for me it's nowhere near as bad though. It's not race or age for me, it's style. Because I have quite an alternative/'punk' style I feel as though many daddies would be turned away and not find me as 'little', it's something I worry about a lot but I have to learn to get over it and realise that just like I look passed things that daddies may be insecure of, they'd look passed or even embrace the things I'm insecure about. Don't hide your insecurities, embrace them. If someone doesn't want you because you're bi-racial, good you don't need somebody like that in your life anyway.

[roseyposey]

I know on Fetlife, there are groups for interracial relationships and those interested in them. How about joining some of them? Don't feel like your race is holding you back from finding a special someone.

 

I will say that it seems on this particular site there's more of what you described- young, white littles and both younger and older white Daddies. I think that's just the demographics for this site but not reflective of the DD/lg community as a whole. Don't give up!

[MrB]

Hey man I can relate not on an interracial level but certainly on a level of seeing so many other people manage to hook up and be happy and then looking at yourself and thinking why not me? So it's natural for you to try and find a reason but the annoying truth is it's just life. You need to keep putting yourself out there and trying even though I do know how depressing and hopeless it can feel but trust me it can pay off. I hope you find the little your seeking and I'm sure when you find her you will treasure her and she will see that and treasure you too

[Guest RedDragon]

Thank you all for the sweet words. I feel silly having felt this way it's frustrating:( Sometimes I need a gentle kick in the rear to remind me that I'm on the right course. Thank you for the hugs and kindness littles:)))

[Guest *Aurora*]

Hiii *sends you all the virtual hugs*

Being mixed as well, I understand completely. Whether you're talking about this community, the dating community or just ANY community there's always this reoccurring thing in the back of my head "maybe I'm not dark enough, maybe I'm not light enough. Not thin enough, not young enough" just not enough for anything or anyone. It can be difficult to get out of your own head, especially if you see others obtaining what you want and it seems effortless 

 

Don't be discouraged, continue to put yourself out there and don't give up. Once you do find what you're looking for it'll be worth it. So if no one else tells you, I'm going to tell you. You are enough.

[Michael]

I'm a black guy, and I've been with lots of different types of women, and I don't think race has ever been an issue for me in relationships, and even less in the dd/lg community (people are generally more open minded and liberal). I think what's happening is you're letting your race affect your confidence, and littles are picking up on that, and passing you over.

 

With respect to your age, you're probably at an advantage to be honest. A lot of littles don't like young daddies at all, and actually prefer their daddy to be older and have some life experience. Keep at it, be more confident, and I'm sure you'll get results.

[Guest RedDragon]

Thanks for the comments everyone. Nice to hear from other Daddys too I appreciate it a lot!

[Daddyslilhoneybee]

Edited October 16, 2016 by Daddyslilhoneybee

[SierraFox]

I'm also bi-racial and have felt the same way a while back. There isn't a whole lot of people of color content for cg/l stuff. I agree with everyone else though, don't give up and you have nothing to worry about! You'll find someone right for you eventually! I have been happily taken in an interracial relationship for almost 6 months now

[froggietiff]

I don't ever even give it a thought really. I am white and my daddy is black. Its just normal to me and no one ever seems to bat an eye at us. 

[CallmeCoups21]

I'm black and my daddy is white. It's pretty normal to me.

[Foxcatcher]

Whatever you like is fine.

I only like pale girls.

And I'm white as a sheet.

But that's MY thing.

Don't care what anyone else thinks.

Neither should you.