ana88a Posted October 15, 2016 Report Posted October 15, 2016 Okay, so i met this guy a month ago via instagram. He is into ddlg so am i and we started chatting and he was the nicest and cutest person ive ever met. Honestly, hes too perfect. Like he wakes me up with cute good morning messages and sends me cute pictures on snapchat, praises me and compliments me every chance he gets, hes my daddy and im his kitten. But a few days ago i found his facebook account, his relationship status said single (we made it official that we are dating), and with that i found his ask.fm acc too. There his background is a picture of some girl standing with her ass sticking out (not a celebrity) i cant se her face. if hes with me then why would he keep that, and hes using his ask.fm its not like hes not using it. Plus he puts stories on snapchat and instagram and captiones them like " Just came back from school, wanna chat?" or " Someone to talk?". But we talk aaall the time, why does he want someone elses attention when he has mine? im sure nes not posting those up bc he wants his guy friends to message him. Also he says he can only text when hes at home, because he doesnt have internet on his phone, but i see him posting snapchat stories when hes out. Weve even said "i love you' and he hasnt asked for nudes or anything like that cause he doesnt wanna rush me. i confronted him about it once and he said that he only loves me and that i make him the happiest and that i shouldnt worry about it. someone please help me bc im lost and scared. p.s hes talked about us growing old together and that he cant wait to meet me (its a long distance relationship), he planned our future and everything.
Guest LiddlePwincess Posted October 15, 2016 Report Posted October 15, 2016 Hun you have to have a real good talk with him. Ask him point blank and explain your concerns. If your still unsure and dont trust him or his answers dont add up then please dont stay with him if its making you unhappy. There are other Daddies out there. On the flip side if you have a serious talk and it all adds up on his end then you need to stop worrying about it. This isnt a grey area in my mind. Relationships are built on mutual trust. 1
keymonkey82 Posted October 15, 2016 Report Posted October 15, 2016 If it's a long distance relationship, it may be just a fantasy to him and may think in the back of his mind that it's not real so is also looking for someone closer aswell... A month is not a long lime, so don't pin all you emotions on it yet, take a step back and don't get too committed straight away. With LDR just see it as fun, unless it goes on for like over a year or so, or you meet up regularly. All this is maybes! But I wouldn't say someone you've been messaging to for a month or so means anything. I've chatted to girls on dating sites for over a month and didn't even end up doing on a date with them, so will chat and have dates with different women at the same time now because what if I miss talking to the "one" when I'm talking to the wrong one... I don't see it as cheating, but this is just my opinion. My advice is relax, take it lightheartedly, and if it's meant to be, it will be. I wish you the best of luck, and I hope it works out for you 2
Guest QueenJaylen Posted October 15, 2016 Report Posted October 15, 2016 ask him if he's cheating tell him to be honest with you. but honestly it IS a possibility that he is cheating because your relationship IS long distance just because you are all in doesn't mean he is but i wish nothing but the best for you. 1
Guest GrapeApe Posted October 16, 2016 Report Posted October 16, 2016 (edited) This is just another instance of young people rushing into things, made available by the internet and cell phones, and then not understanding the true dynamics of a relationship, monogamy, LDRs, the future, etc. People: Chatting online is not authentic. I don't care how often he says good morning, he sounds like a scum bag. And you sound very naieve. Stop treating online relationships like real ones. Geez. Focus on your REAL life. Online stuff is fake, phony, it is a SCAM! Update: I mean, of course, only purely online relationships. With no real world contact of any kind. When you invest your entire emotional life in messaging someone, then there is an issue. You have to meet someone before you can 'fall in love', whatever that means. Take that as you may. Edited October 31, 2016 by GrapeApe 1
stargirl Posted October 16, 2016 Report Posted October 16, 2016 (edited) this guy sounds like a joke, even if he's not cheating it's still completely disrespectful. I say move on! You deserve better. Edited October 16, 2016 by stargirl 2
lilsnoopy Posted October 16, 2016 Report Posted October 16, 2016 This is just another instance of young people rushing into things, made available by the internet and cell phones, and then not understanding the true dynamics of a relationship, monogamy, LDRs, the future, etc. People: Chatting online is not authentic. I don't care how often he says good morning, he sounds like a scum bag. And you sound very naieve. Stop treating online relationships like real ones. Geez. Focus on your REAL life. Online stuff is fake, phony, it is a SCAM! Ok this is too harsh, I personally am not in a long distance relationship but i'll stand up for those who are. I think this is completely uncalled for. You're offending people who are in long distance relationships. They can take it very seriously and I think it was rude to dismiss them. Online relationships can be valid relationships. I understand that I have my opinion and you have yours but this is a site based on understanding and respect and I respect other peoples types of relationships if that is what they choose. Don't belittle her or her relationship choice, you don't know her. You're stereotyping. ana88a I'm sorry i don't have a lot of advice besides moving on. Long distance can work but both sides have to really work on it and it doesn't sound like he is as committed as you are. I'm sure you could fine a better guy out there. But at the end of the day it is your choice and i wish you the best! 5
ana88a Posted October 16, 2016 Author Report Posted October 16, 2016 Thank you all so so much. And i will talk to him straight away.
Antoinette Posted October 16, 2016 Report Posted October 16, 2016 Stop treating online relationships like real ones. Geez. Focus on your REAL life. Online stuff is fake, phony, it is a SCAM! While I agree this sounds like an instance of somebody rushing into a relationship when they have no idea what they're actually doing I don't think that gives you the right to claim that online relationships aren't real. They are very real. I met my first daddy online, we met multiple times and he was the first person I'd ever truly loved. It was very 'real' and implying that online relationships aren't real is like devaluing the very real emotions people have experienced from others they have met online. Try to be a little more sensitive, please. 2
Dragon Child Posted October 16, 2016 Report Posted October 16, 2016 I agree with the others. This guy sounds like a closet douchebag. You deserve better, sweetie.
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