STRESSED OUT LITTLE :(

[Guest thequeenslittle]

im a little boy and im a freshmen in college. My course work is very demanding as is my class schedule and i also have a lot of issues going on with my family. ive been trying to balance everything because thats what everyone expects me to do and everyone keeps telling me ill dissapoint them all if i dont do it all but i am way too stressed out and overwhelmed and am terrified im going to fail all my college courses. personally i dont really care if i fail because i dont want to really go to college and i know my mommy has said she doesnt care if i go to college if its not what i want to do but i also know that since i have all these other people in my family who have all these expectations of me that its really stressful and i kept trying to cope with the stress and ignore it but then i had a couple minor panic attacks so i was getting a  little more worried that my anxiety levels were way too high and such but still i was trying really hard to ignore it and now i literally cant cope with it anymore today i had a panic attack that lasted about 2-3 hours and was one of the worst ones i have ever had. I dont know what to do i feel like i have to stay in college and if i dont the world is like going to end it seems at least thats the way my family has made it seem but i also know i cant continue living with this insane stress level its not healthy for me and i cant cope with it. i know this doesnt necesarily apply directly to being a little but any advice is very much appreciated as to what you think i should do in this situation and how i could possibly explain to my family that i dont want to continue my college education because its too much fo rme to cope with and because i dont want it or need it fdor my life and that im honestly not ready to go and feel like im wasitng their money and my time since i dont even know what i want to major in any help is greatly appreciated on coping or talking to family about it or talking to my mommy about this all and finding ways she can help me

thanksies fwiendsies!!!

 

[Dumbledork'sPrincess]

Try explaining it all the way you just did?

[lilsnoopy]

In general what you do with your life is up to you, and your queen. I have seen her posts on here (I'm assuming TheQueen is, if not I apologize ignore this sentence) and it's not hard to tell she cares for you a lot. SO even if you get scared of telling your family that you don't want to go to college you always have her support. College is expensive and it takes a lot of work, and if you aren't doing it because you want to do it then it will be even harder. Maybe even switching to a community college might be good since it's a little easier and you don't have to stress about knowing your major, it is also cheaper. Whatever you decide to do keep in mind you'll be happier if you do what you want to do. 

 

Sorry if I wasn't much help, if you need someone to talk to You can add and message me. 

[Guest Princessaj]

Hi, in Europe and other countries there is a tradition called "taking a gap year."

They take a year off between high school and university.

 

Look here for more in general and by country...  https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gap_year

 

From Wikipedia

Taking a year off has recently become slightly more common for Americans, with prevailing reasons as

-a feeling of being burned out of classroom education and

-a desire to understand oneself better.

 

I am old, never finished university and have so much life experience for at least 10 people.

I am accepted by the traditionally educated and the entrepreneurs.

Ran my own company for 18 years and competed with the best of them.

I am still learning. I never stopped. All the best to you.

[Princess-P]

Do what's best for you and drop out if you need to. Or talk to a councilor about taking some time off or scaling down your class load. Nothing is more important than taking care of yourself.

 

You can explain this to your family but if they don't accept it.. Well do it any way. Your an adult.

 

Honestly I feel there is way to much pressure for young people to jump right onto a career path out of highschool. I know I started university at 17, got my BA and have done absolutely nothing with it. Its completely useless and was a HUGE waste of money.

 

And if your worried about finances well I can tell you that even though I have a university education I have a career that does not require one at all and make rather good money and excellent benefits for my whole family. I also love my job and feel its what I was meant to do.

 

Trying to live up to someone else's expectations will wear you into the ground. If they don't want what's best for you then you have to know when enough is enough and choose your own path.

[Lil' Miss Dolly]

The struggle!

 

My family put a Ton of pressure on me to be in uni and make a career! In the end I pretty much said eff it, wasted 8 months and a Ton of money because I dropped out. It wasn't the life path I wanted and I wasn't ready.. that was in like 2003 and the pressure now is way worse than when I went to school.

 

Don't let anyone push you around when it comes to your life and your journey. Only you dictate it's direction and it's pace.

 

I went back to university at 22, got a degree in social work and I'm pretty happy about that. Wait until you know what you wanna do and where you wanna be! There's no rush!!!

[Guest GrapeApe]

As a college professor, I see kids stressed out all the time, more and more.  It is all too much for their young minds to handle.

 

I suggest withdrawing from your classes ASAP, and taking time off until you are ready to go back to school.  It may take years, or months.  Who knows? 

 

In the meantime, you can work, or do something else with your life.  These expectations are not fair, and are making you crazy. 

[Guest Daddy's☆treasure]

Hi thequeenslittle!

 

You have to do what's best for you. Not to switch the conversation over to me, but I am in a position right now where I am  trying to juggle a lot of things and it's at the expense of my health and happiness. If you don't really want to go to college, then I would take a look at your other options and maybe sit down with your parents and explain how much you have on your plate and that perhaps college is not something you want to continue with. Focus on your health and try not to let your stressful situation get the better of you. Do what makes you happy not what's going to make everybody else happy, its your life after all. Something I have had a tough time learning but am now finally beginning to see.

 

I wish you all the best!

[HeCallsMePrincess]

Take a breath! you are so young right now. if you want to drop out, you should. but please please please think of the long term. you don't have to know what you want to major in right now, that's not your job this early. maybe you could look at anything else you can cut out. if it's social or family obligations you may have to say "I'm sorry, but I can't do XXXX right now because I'm trying to focus on school". it's really up to you, but I do believe anyone's best bet in life is a college education. good luck.

[Guest thequeenslittle]

thank you guys so much for all the great advice!! yes lilsnoopy TheQueen is my mommy. i talked to her about everything yesterday and have made the decision to withdraw from school. Im terrified of what my family will say and do but your right shes very supportive and i know shell be there for me through it all and will take care of me. I think i was just scared cuz shes been so busy working that i was feeling like the support wasnt there as much but then last night she showed how much she supported me and it all got better thank you all for helping me figure this out!