New mommy dom?..

[BabygirlsShadow]

Recently, my SO told me that he's a switch, meaning hes a dom most of the time, but also very little sometimes. I've just come to terms with the fact that I can be a dom.. does anyone have any advice for a new mommy dom? Or can anyone in a relationship like this give me some tips/pointers? Thank you so much   

[Guest Bam Bam]

The role of a mommy/daddy dom is to show guidance and to nurture their little not to restrict and control them. Every mommy/daddy is different just like how every little is different. You just need to be yourself. Always remember if you was the little would it be fair for your dom to do this to you or treat you this way. My princess and I are both switches. I'm mainly a dom and she is mainly a little. She's a very loving mommy but firm on a lot of things, and she says I'm a strict daddy >.<. Sorry I couldn't help much. But it's best for you to learn yourself. Don't worry about mistakes, everybody makes them.

[Thequeen]

I don't want to cause a fight or anything but I have to disagree with part of your statement. You said that it is not to restrict or control and maybe I just misinterpreted your statement. But as a mommy dom you need to have rules and guidelines to ensure the safety and happiness of your little. Without said rules and guidelines they could get seriously hurt or sick.

 

I do agree with everything else you have said though. Figure out yourself and be yourself it is the best advice anyone can be given both in life and in any relationship- whether it be vanilla, bdsm, ddlg, or anything else. I also always suggest figuring out what is most important to you in yourself. For me, I care about self hygiene so I enforce those rules heavily on my little so try finding the same things in yourself. 

 

The other best piece of advice is to remember that you are their caregiver you need to love, care for, and support them through anything and everything. Yes there is tough love in it too, but never leave them in their time of need which is almost always since little always need and want their caregivers.

[Guest]

As a mommy, I agree with Bambam, I'd rather suggest and nurture than restrict and control.

All littles don't need rules, in my opinion, it depends on the relationship. 

 

As a little, I am quite independent, rules and comments would only make me bratty. 

 

Really, you should sit down with your SO and ask them what they want, and tell them what you would like, relationships are all so unique, it would be hard to give really detailed advice. 

However, I think you should always keep it fun and make sure you communicate a lot  

 

I wish you the best of luck ! 

[Guest]

As a mommy, I agree with Bambam, I'd rather suggest and nurture than restrict and control.

All littles don't need rules, in my opinion, it depends on the relationship. 

 

As a little, I am quite independent, rules and comments would only make me bratty. 

 

Really, you should sit down with your SO and ask them what they want, and tell them what you would like, relationships are all so unique, it would be hard to give really detailed advice. 

However, I think you should always keep it fun and make sure you communicate a lot  

 

I wish you the best of luck !