"Single" but taken?

[TheTaoOfChao]

Daddy and I have a very complicated history with one another. Actually, more like I have tried to "leave" him several times even though we've never officially been a couple. I even left our state and got married (and had a child) with another man... but Daddy always takes me back. It frustrates me that Daddy says I'm "his" and tries to chase off any men who try to get close to me - yet he refuses to call us a "couple" or call what we have a "relationship".

 

More recently, he's actually talked about moving in together. He has told me for over 14 years we don't need labels because what we have is "for life" and will always be evolving. After a recent stint in the joint (during which some online friends suggested I look into DD/lg because that's what they say we are) he is now suggesting learning & adding some light S&M and bondage into our times together. I felt like he'd somehow read my mind & everything I'd been thinking about for the last 2 years while he wasn't available and I began to better understand & find myself.

 

I guess what I'm asking is... has anyone else's relationship evolved or transformed into more after starting as 'Fuck buddies'? We now talk daily on the phone for hours at a time, spend time together not only outside the bedroom but also out in public. He even jokes that I am on a restricted schedule and puts me to bed by 10:30 p.m. on weeknights. He even sent me home with his throwback Simpson jersey *nervous giggles* which I'm not sure is cute or a threat >_

[Guest LordEmtheDinosaur!]

Yes!! We were fuck buddies for a few months and eventually turned into a power exchange dynamic when I told him that I was into kink.

We started as Master/slave and added Dd/lg almost 2 years ago to it.

It works fine for us, hopefully it will for you!

[StarEyed]

There seems to be a lot of information missing from the original post that brings up a lot of red flags to me... The question is about 'fuck buddies' being more though, and I say that yes it is possible. However in your case I have no idea... Are you still married? Does your husband know about your Daddy? Because this doesn't sound like a safe situation to me...

[TheTaoOfChao]

StarEyed - my husband and I separated in 2009 although technically we are still legally married. He does know about my Daddy... as a matter of fact, it was a point of contention in our marriage (even though we lived in another state and we had no contact). I have not spoken to my husband since 2011 and he resides halfway across the country.

 

Basically any relationship I've ever tried to have outside of this thing that's more than having sex & frienship, but less than a full time relationship ends in the new partner being jealous that Daddy *exists*. I am questioning myself on whether or not this is healthy. Sometimes I feel like it's my choice to always end up back in his arms. Other times I feel like I'm being watched, monitored & prevented from being happy with anyone else. I've never had anyone directly say he'd contacted them...but I also know he's always play-threatening about my "boyfriends" and to "get rid of them" :/

[LoralieHaze]

I think it would be a good idea to read this:  https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/13644-is-my-relationship-abusive/

[Lil' Miss Dolly]

Oh honey, this is toxic. The whole "I don't want you but no one else is allowed to either" is a huge red flag. This doesn't sound like a healthy dynamic or safe. Most of the time the "jokes" about getting rid of boyfriends and the obvious jealousy are just signs that this is not a good place to be. This seems like he doesn't view you as anything but property and thats not fair. Please walk away, sweetheart! Starting off as hump buddies is great and pretty common but 14 years is just stringing someone along. Move on. That's my honest opinion.