My worth = Zilch (Rant)

[Guest ChubbyBabyBoy]

So apparently im not even worth the time of day anymore. I start talking to a Mommy/Mistress and they wait till I get attached and then say "oh I don't think I can do this anymore" and then turn around and post AGAIN looking for a little a couple hours later. Like okay, if you don't want me to be yours just fu**ing tell me!! It's not that hard. This has happened twice in the last week and I am sick and tired of it! I just want to be loved and cared for and punished and pounded by a woman who has my best interests at heart and doesn't break my heart. Is that too much to ask for? I think not.

 

Rant over. Sorry for wasting your time with my worthless words.

[LolitasDaddy]

Maybe it's time to work on being attached WAY too quickly. These relationships should take considerable time and communication before they develop into anything substantial.

 

Is it too much to ask what you want of another? Not at all. Is it too much to have any expectations of inside a week? Absolutely.

[Guest LiddlePwincess]

I would have to agree with the above comment. These things take a long time to develop and having a little become so attached early on can be a very scary thought for some Mommies/Daddies and ultimately lead to the little one getting hurt also.

 

Your not worthless and deserve to have the perfect Mommy/Daddy to look after you not just the first one you find. Please please please dont rush into these things, thats to you and all the other littles/caregivers out there making the same mistake.

 

I hope this didnt seem too harsh as I really didnt mean it to do so, I wish you all the best!

[Guest Princessaj]

You are worth so much to all of us here.

You trusted us to reach out and ask for help.

 

Value yourself first.

That takes a lot of love, acceptance, practice and time.

 

Just found this....

"Never chase love, affection or attention.

If it isn't given freely by another person,

it is isn't worth having."

 

I am old and when God was handing out patience, I was chasing butterflies.

Yet, I put researching the DDlg Lifestyle and investigating my "middle" self ahead of seeking a Daddy.

 

I have found a sense of peace knowing that I will make certain I am ready, when the right one comes along.

 

The forum is a great source of learning the basics of the DDlg Lifestyle. Here are some links to DDlg knowledge

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/11829-slow-steady-wins-the-race/

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/12727-a-starting-point-for-rules-rewards-punishments/

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/12332-long-distance-relationships/

 

Best of luck and dive into the community.

[HeCallsMePrincess]

your words are never worthless. you need to take the time to discover your own value. to love and be comfortable being alone with yourself. it may be you'll discover you came on too strongly too soon in your past relationships. I encourage you to take time before jumping in again, because you are worthy. worthy of being loved, desired and cared for. good luck.

[Guest Nobodyspecial]

As hard as it is to see everyone saying good things about you it really is time to start believing them. I know I seem like a huge hypocrite in saying this as I'm going through the same thing...only my caregivers leave me after months of getting to know each other and suddenly they stop talking to me all together or show me how much better my replacement is to get rid of me so I know what its like to feel what your feeling. And its ok to feel that for a little bit but cry and get it out and journal about it and rip it up helps me a lot and you may still be sad but don't beat yourself up about it cuz that makes it harder for you to open up and trust the next caregiver to try ..and I know its not as easy for caregivers as we think..they get needy too and we should be taking care of them as well.