Can a little be to clingy

[JustASimpleFox]

My last daddy broke it off because we argued too much and I was to clingy he said? So is it possible for a little to be to clingy?

[lilsnoopy]

No... I think he just wasn't daddy enough to handle it. It longer terms what I mean is, being a little doesn't come with a rule book and qualifications. As a little there is not a right: age, body type, gender, brattiness, appearance, favorite color, or clinginess (this list could be a lot longer). If being really clingy is who you are as a little there is nothing wrong with that. Sometimes people just look for something to say to hurt the other person during breakups if it's really bad. He did not understand that being clingy can be a wonderful thing. I am every clingy, like when I'm attached to someone (maybe a friend or usually daddy) I will follow him/them every where because I hate being left alone. I also text obsessively or call and talk for hours because I need that type of closeness. They guy you were with might not have been ready to handle that or may have even said it to be a meanie. But I am sure you'll find the right guy who accepts how clingy you are and loves it and maybe returns that clinginess. You did nothing wrong, don't let him make you question your validity as a little. Being clingy is normal I assure you, especially in littles.

Edited October 9, 2016 by lilsnoopy

[JustASimpleFox]

Thank you for replying! I was just unsure... I really did love him and still do. I always took what he said to heart. It was the first time ever for him being a daddy. So, it just made him probably not really knowing of what to do. Hopefully though I can find someone that loves my clinginess!

[lilsnoopy]

I understand how you feel... but it will get better and I am sure you'll find your perfect daddy dom! If you ever need someone to talk to about anything please feel free to message me, I'm good listening and I try to give the best advice I can ^.^

[Guest ZenDD]

I know that many littles would like to hear that you could never be too clingy, but this is more complicated than a simple 'yes' or 'no'. First off, "clingy" is a relative term. What can be considered clingy by one person may not be clingy to another. Only those involved in the relationship can define for each other what "clingy" actually means, and what actions are indicative of it. Often, littles who could be considered clingy are those for whom their adult side is difficult for them to be comfortable in, to feel happy with, or fully integrated with.

 

To me, the word has a very negative connotation to it. It relates indications of someone being overly-dependent. and even obsessive. And while littles, by nature, enjoy being dependent of and "obsessed" with their Daddies/Caregivers, they are often plagued with guilt and the question of "how much is too much." Daddies/Caregivers are people who understand a little's nature, and who themselves are attracted to being needed and obsessed on by a little. So to begin with, if there is anyone in the world who would be okay with a little being clingy, it would be a Daddy/Caregiver.

 

But in this general sense, the real answer is "yes", a little can be too clingy --- if a Daddy/Caregiver isn't properly guiding and nurturing a little with the proper tools and techniques to learn to be more independent and confident. Problems with clinginess could also ensue if maybe a Daddy is doing those things, but the little isn't being a willing or cooperative participant. In addition, perhaps the little isn't quite ready to receive the instruction, or the instruction isn't quite tailored to the readiness level of the little.

 

A little's clinginess is one of the beautiful characteristics of a DDlg relationship, but it should be something that is guided into being an acceptable, comfortable, appropriate amount for both involved. It should be enjoyed, played with, and not feel like a burden. If it feels like a burden, then it should be addressed and worked on. It should be a healthy, happy dependency. Good luck!

[LolitasDaddy]

Of course you can be too clingy. You can be too anything.

[Mikaitaku]

being clingy means that you need extra reassurance, regardless of the reason there is nothing wrong with being clingy. Anyone who says that someone is too clingy does not understand this and is not worth your time and emotions.

[sugaaar]

i think as a little having a clingy daddy make me feel just as unattracted so i wouldn't want to be a clingy little..it's good to show that you care about the person but when they're there and you demand all of your free time, i think it gets irritable in any type of relationship. this is just my opinion.

[pinkypromises]

I agree with most of the responses here.

 

Yes and no, I believe. It really just depends on the individuals in a relationship! Each daddy and little is different, and each has their own personal limits on how clingy is too clingy. My daddy, for example, actually loves it when I'm clingy, even though in other relationships I was told that it was too much and a bad thing so I toned it down. Littles are broadly defined as being clingy, so a daddy should have perhaps a higher limit than others on how much is too much - but many still have a limit. It all comes down to finding a relationship where you're both happy and reach a kind of equilibrium really! It sounds like your daddy didn't quite know how to handle that much, but you are by no means a burden! Your emotions and your value in a relationship and as an individual are still incredibly important, and I wish you all the best in finding the one who is 100% right for you <3

[Guest Mr.Cuddles]

i believe it can be considered too clingy when you arent able to do simple things in life~eg sleep/eat/hygene stuff without feeling bad? its also about how the little goes with their clingyness to an extent.  there are some guys out there who love it!!!!!!!!!! like i love being adored/needed but for some its not for them. personal preference to be honest. you will find someone who loves it! and you will be happy!