Daddy left and vanilla relationship

[JustASimpleFox]

Me and my daddy broke up. The relationship wasn't healthy. We argued and just didnt agree on a lot of stuff. I still love him, but he doesn't love me anymore. Then my friend decided it was his time and asked me out. I asked him to wait. Since I just got out of my Dd/LG relationship yesterdat and he asked an a literal hour after the breakup. He said he would wait. But I'm very scared to go into this relationship with him. I like him, but it would be a vanilla relationship (he's not into dd/LG) I don't know if I can handle that. Don't know if this would change anything or not. But the dd/LG relationship was online, while my friend who is vanilla is in IRL Edited October 9, 2016 by JustASimpleFox

[Guest LiddlePwincess]

If a vanillia relationship isnt what your after then its ok to say no. Also if you have literally just broken off a relationship the last thing you should do is jump into another one, especially one your already not 100% on. I totally get how lonely it can seem to be "single" but its always best to take some time out and take care of your own needs and deal with the after effects of a breakup, messy or otherwise.

 

It is ok to be single and it is ok to say no to something you dont want. I hope things get better for you <3

[Antoinette]

You should wait, yourself. Going into this relationship isn't fair to yourself or the guy who asked to date you, and it was very unfair and insensitive for him to ask you to date him anyway. You need time to get over your relationship, and that's not going to happen in a day. Are you sure you like him? It could just be you being confused due to the amount of emotion you're feeling at the moment. Just be careful, put yourself first. 

[Guest MisterBrownEyes]

I'm sorry to hear your relationship didn't work out.

 

I think you need time to heal first before being in another relationship.

 

There is no rush to go from one relationship to another. Give yourself as much time as you need to feel better about things.

 

From what you've written, you sound pretty switched on, in what you do and don't want from a relationship. This is really refreshing to read. Follow what your instincts are telling you here...

[PapaMax]

Giving it time is never a bad idea... and I'm probably not the best person to advise right now but.. when a similar thing happened to me (well, as regards the breakup, sadly there's no one waiting to ask me out ) I asked myself, am I happier on my own or in a "vanilla" relationship.. and honestly I think probably happier on my own.. but that's only a question you can answer for yourself.

[Daddy Dominic]

But the dd/LG relationship was online, while my friend who is vanilla is in IRL

The thing is, Fox, there is a HUGE difference between having a digital DD and a real life one.

 

Now, I understand that your friend is Vanilla, and that's cool for him. But if it's not something you'd

see yourself doing, then be upfront about it. Let him know. And if he wants you bad enough, he'll 

challenge himself and rise to the occasion (no pun intended). 

 

If he doesn't, then that's okay, too. Because believe it or not, sweetheart, you have the power as a 

Sub/LG... and you can pick and choose from dozens of DD's that would be more than willing to 

throw themselves at you. 

 

So... take time, but don't take time hiding. Take time filtering through your LOCAL options. Find

someone that you think is worthy of you, and see if you trust them enough to submit yourself

to their power... 

 

... it's a very different experience when your DD is in the room with you, Fox. (BTW... I actually 

have no idea if you've had a DDLG relationship with someone local before. I said all of this with

the assumption that you haven't.)

 

Hope this helps. 

[JustASimpleFox]

Thank you everyone who replied! I always throw myself into relationships to get over the other one and not to think about it. I haven't taken good care of myself in a long time, ignoring my mental and physical health. I did talk to my friend, and he said he would be fine with doing that, but the answer just put me off. It's the fact that he had just gotten out of a relationship too that's putting me off. And the fact I don't know if I have feelings for him or not. I think my feeling's for him have been almost as if he's a little brother than to be my daddy. I'll hopefully figure this out and not be left heartbroken again.