Our relationship is getting boring..

[thepricewepay]

Me and my little are for together for like 2 weeks.

But I haven't felt the connection with her yet, and our relationship is really getting boring. Especially from her side. She barely talks. Majority of the time she only replies with one word (yes, no, maybe, sure). She's nice but if it says that way i may leave her but i dont want to hurt her. Any suggestions please?

[~Lost_Little_Searching~]

Maybe talk to her about the boredom you're feeling? She is probably feeling it too. Maybe find something you're both passionate about, or take turns discussing topics you really love. You could explore your shared topics or different topics together and maybe go from there? Maybe you could take turns asking each other random, silly questions and see what comes of it? I'm sorry you don't feel a connection yet. I wish you both luck!! Edited October 5, 2016 by ~Lost_Little_Searching~

[LoralieHaze]

To quote Belle: "Yes, but have you communicated?" Have you told her that you don't like when she only responds with one word? And are you sure you're asking open ended questions that require longer answers? 

 

Also, and perhaps most importantly, why are you in a relationship with someone if you don't feel a connection with them yet? I'm getting a strong vibe that both of you are brand new to this and therefore, with all due respect, neither of you know what you're doing. 

 

I have additional thoughts on this but I'll wait until you give us more information.

[Panserbjorn]

It sounds as thought maybe she is a little shy. I would agree though that it would make sense for you to get to know one another better before engaging in a relationship, especially one of a less vanilla nature.

Talk, do things together and really get to know one another! as others have said, communication is key.

[Michael]

If a relationship starts out boring, it usually isn't a good sign. She's probably feeling it too. You two should talk to each other and try to figure out if you have a connection and if it's something that a relationship can be built on top of.

[HeCallsMePrincess]

2 weeks is way early to be getting bored. the relationships barely started! you need to talk to her about it. like Michael said, she is probably feeling it too.

[Antoinette]

Ehhh, I mean... If you've felt bored since the beginning it's really not fair on either of you to continue the relationship, tell her how you feel and just move on. In my opinion, no amount of communication will make your relationship more 'interesting' if you've been bored since the start. It's only been two weeks as well, these are supposed to be the times when you're most interested in each other - everything is new and exciting, etc all that jazz. 

[Guest ZenDD]

Have you only known each other for two weeks? Or have you just been in a relationship "officially" for two weeks? If the answer for both of those questions is yes, then that may be your problem right there.

 

If the above is correct, and you didn't know each other well before deciding to become each other's DDlg partner, then there was no way you guys had enough time to determine whether you were both compatible and had shared interests.

 

Just because two people happen to be heterosexual, or love Thai food, doesn't automatically mean that they are compatible. In this same regard, just because two people are into DDlg doesn't mean they're automatically compatible. It's important that we don't make stereotypical assumptions based on just a couple of shared interests. We humans are far more complicated than that, and it takes some time and effort to investigate, understand, and determine if we want to connect to the complexities of others.

 

Maybe you could tell her that you feel that you guys didn't get to know each other well enough before entering into this relationship, and that maybe you could reel it back a bit, slow down, and start fresh so you can take the time to learn more about one another and become friends. Then over time you can both decide if it's something that you'd like to pursue. Good luck!

[Princess-P]

If your bored already and only 2 weeks in then you two shouldn't be together. This sounds like a classic case of rushing into something new with no experience.

 

It happens to a lot of people, too much excitement not enough knowledge base and sonething flairs up, they grab at it,and it burns out quickly.

 

You can try communicating what you feel to her but it doesn't sound like she's that interested in you as she's not trying to make it better either. Your vest bet is end it, move in, learn more about the kind if relationship you want and let thing happen naturally with the right person over time.