Not good enough for anyone

[Guest Nobodyspecial]

I know this is supposed to be where caregivers talk to each other but I need some help...o can't figure out what it is that I'm doing so wrong..I never seem to be good enough. The worst part is that I get my hopes up every time I meet a potential caregiver that really seems to genuinely like me and the relationship grows to a point of the caregiver saying I love you and it feels like they mean it but then one day all communication just stops..there's always an automated message saying their phone is off and I eventually give up trying to contact them..as you could tell from my status post today I am currently going through this heartbreak again. I just want to know what I keep doing so wrong..he never told me I was doing anything wrong and we were very open about everything...I can't understand what's so wrong with me that everybody leaves me. Its not that I'm unlovable or why would it get to that point of telling me they love me after months of talking and spending all our free time together. But I'm tired of feeling like I'm not worth it, like there's something wrong with me. I don't understand what I did to deserve always being left without warning or reason...

[Tasha-Pasha]

Oh nobody! You don't deserve that. Everyone deserves respect. Communication is so important even when things are falling apart. It's not your fault if someone leaves without giving a reason - that is on them. They need to learn to use their words. All the words.

 

I'm sorry you are feeling down and sad and not deserving of better. You are worth so much more than that.

 

You can have my lollipop and play with my stuffie if you want. Stuffie makes everything feel better.

[Guest Nobodyspecial]

Oh nobody! You don't deserve that. Everyone deserves respect. Communication is so important even when things are falling apart. It's not your fault if someone leaves without giving a reason - that is on them. They need to learn to use their words. All the words.

I'm sorry you are feeling down and sad and not deserving of better. You are worth so much more than that.

You can have my lollipop and play with my stuffie if you want. Stuffie makes everything feel better.

Thank you sooo much ..that's very sweet of you to share your stuffie with me... It did kinda help a little bit to see someone say its not my fault but I still feel like it is cuz everyone leaves me..

[Guest QueenJellybean]

Oh, you poor thing. I know I'm not a Caregiver, but I can't help but comment here.

 

You are absolutely worth good things. 

You absolutely deserve happiness.

You did nothing wrong.

You did not deserve to be treated the way you did. 

 

I'm sorry you had so many negative experiences, but they are not indicators of who you are as a person. People can be really cruel, and I hope that communities like this one will help you lift your head up high again. 

[HeCallsMePrincess]

not a cg but you are worthy of all things you want and need in life. step one though? being good enough for yourself. more important than anything else.

[TheGambler]

Don't blame yourself, please. In this world of internet, long distance relationships and especially in DDlg this is something VERY common. Many wanna-be-caregivers just feel bored or lonely and start to talk with someone like you but when things get serious they just disappear. It's sad but this happen.But don't let it turns you depressed, is just a matter of time that you know someone perfect to you. 

[TheGambler]

Take a look about this, a wonderful explanation of this things written by Spooky:

 

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/11758-ghosting-or-slow-fade/

[DaddyBrew]

As everybody said here, its not your fault! the supposed CareGiver its a fake, a real one never left you alone, for example we use to have a schedule with my lg, because of our works and we know that if we don't text back or call back is because we were busy, but as soon as we can call or text back. 

 

if he do that, he don't deserve to be called daddy. and never think you don't deserve the best or your are not good enough.

 

take care!

 

I know this is supposed to be where caregivers talk to each other but I need some help...o can't figure out what it is that I'm doing so wrong..I never seem to be good enough. The worst part is that I get my hopes up every time I meet a potential caregiver that really seems to genuinely like me and the relationship grows to a point of the caregiver saying I love you and it feels like they mean it but then one day all communication just stops..there's always an automated message saying their phone is off and I eventually give up trying to contact them..as you could tell from my status post today I am currently going through this heartbreak again. I just want to know what I keep doing so wrong..he never told me I was doing anything wrong and we were very open about everything...I can't understand what's so wrong with me that everybody leaves me. Its not that I'm unlovable or why would it get to that point of telling me they love me after months of talking and spending all our free time together. But I'm tired of feeling like I'm not worth it, like there's something wrong with me. I don't understand what I did to deserve always being left without warning or reason...

[jibbityjabber]

relationships like that arent something you blame yourself. Don't think that if you cg stops talking to you that its your fault or somethings wrong with you.