been punished unfairly?

[Maddie9770]

I'm just curious to ask this to all the littles out there! have you ever been punished for reason you thought were unfair? and what did you do if you have? go along with the punishment because daddy/mommy is always right or say something? how did you feel if you went along with it? did you ever tell your dom how you felt? how did they react? please tell!

[Guest ~*QueenSaiya*~]

Actually I have been in a situation where I felt I was being punished unfairly and while I let the punishment happen because at that point it was already out of my hands I said something to my partner after the fact. Communication is a very important part of every relationship, if one feels they are being treated unfairly its always better to speak up about it. My partner reacted in a fair manner when I brought it up to him. Ironically the punishment had resulting from a miscommunication due to technology hating us and once that was discovered apologies were made and everything worked out alright in the end. I feel we grew stronger from it in some areas ^-^

[Guest NotSoLoneWanderer]

I have been punished unfairly in the past, as a daddy ignored me as a punishment (which I think shouldn't even be considered). But it happened and we had a discussion about it, but he just believed that he could do whatever he saw fit to punish me. Now this is where communication comes in. If we had this talk earlier, it's probably wouldn't have happened because a. I wouldn't have stayed with him having that mindset or b.we could have worked something out as far as punishments go. I unfortunately do not deal with punishments very well because I hate disappointing people, by it doesn't mean that I'm not a brat sometimes haha. My current daddy am for I made sure to set guidelines early in in our relationship as well as adding more as we went on, as it can be a "learn as you go" thing, especially if you're new to the community! I suggest having a sit down talk with him, and if that doesn't work out, I would advise you to maybe do some soul searching about this Dom. Have a good night, I hope I could help!

[MisterMomo]

I usually think the punishment is unfair... ... I get punished for my stuffies mistakes all the time! .. hehe ... (they did it!)

 

Seriously, if the punishment is something you can handle, I would go along and talk about it later. Afterward, you can tell your daddy how it made you feel, when the heat is on a lower level. In the action, saying "It is unfair" = you would mainly seem to argue and try to escape... this is rarely a good thing from my experiences. lol ..

[SharkPrince]

Occasionally miss will make assumptions that turn out wrong and will punish me for things I didn't do and I will tell her before, during, and after the punishment. We always have a chat when we can about past punishments and if they were unwarranted or not. As people above said, communication is key

[Maddie9770]

iv been in quite a bit of trouble for calling a punishment out before it happened for being unfair, i think from your guys comment it seems the best way to deal with it is to talk after it all ..i can have quite a temper sometimes so that was my problem haha but thanks guys! very helpful

[Lil' Miss Dolly]

If it's against a hard limit, you don't have to do it! If it makes you extremely uncomfortable then state it immediately! If it's just minor and you think the punishment doesn't fit the crime then id just take it like a big girl but make sure he knew how I felt afterwards. At the end of the day you give him your submission and can take it back just as easily if your feelings and wellbeing aren't being considered.

 

Contract contract contract!!!!!! Outline acceptable punishments! Negotiation is so important. Leave no room for misunderstanding.

Edited October 11, 2016 by Lil' Miss Dolly

[PrettyLittlePrincessAlison]

 

This! When Daddy and I were transitioning from a vanilla relationship, we worked to figure out what punishments would be based on comminicating with each other. We then outlined a set "punishment process" which entails exactly what punishments will be. This is a list posted on the fridge on a laminated paper. It starts with a verbal warning from Daddy then profresses theough writing sentences and time outs to sleeping on the floor at night. If I make an oopsie, then one step gets checked off and I do that punishment. It keeps us both in check because the severity of the punishment does not necessarily coincide with the severity of what I did, but rather how many i have made that week. On Saturday night it all gets erased and is reset for the next week. This is something we implimented by communicating with each other at the beginning and it is something that works very well for us and prevents me whining that something isn't fair.

[MadameButterfly]

Punishments should be explained why they're happening before they happen. If you really feel like it's a unfair punishment, then don't do it. You can always say no to something, and then talk about it with your partner. Have a set list of rules that are punishable if you break. That way its been agreed upon by both people in the relationship.