DDLg vs. College

[Dovie]

Herro! My name is Dovie... 

 

I wanted to go over the discussion of littles/caregivers in

college. I am a freshman in college this year and am trying

to figure out how you behave at the college? I have a 

gazebo i chill at called the butt hut where you can smoke

cigarettes and vape, and we had this discussion today.

Everyone was aware of BDSM and DDLg, but they 

weren't apart of it. I don't dress like a little, i dress like

a farm girl and a redneck. But if you saw my room, 

you would know instantly that I am a little. I met someone

who is 30 or so years older than me and he asked me from

day one if I was a little, and he said he was a Daddy Dom,

and he has been helping me get by as a little, since I am single.

He isn't wanting to be my Daddy, but he takes on the role, because

I guess he needed, and I needed it. But other than that, I spot 

out littles all over the place. I have questions though!

 

1.) How do you behave? Act?

2.) Do you have little/caregiver friends?

3.) Can you see other DDLg members in the college?

4.) Anything else?

 

Thankies!<3

[Princess Puppers]

I left college back in April - I'm just kinda taking a break from it right now. (I was in a program I hated & it made me super depressed.) But during that past year of college was when I really realized that I was part of the CGl/DDlg lifestyle. I had bought some pacis for myself, would buy anything that was cute or pink, but outwardly I didn't seem to change much and I don't think many people suspected it. It was just a sweet little secret that I kept to myself and I was content with that.  

 

Sometimes I got vibes from others - I tended to pick out Doms/Daddies easier than other subs/littles funnily enough. But since I was going through depression at the time I found it significantly harder to connect with others.

 

Now though I'm fully into DDlg and next year I'm hoping to go back to college...so I guess I'll see if anything has changed and if I'll be able to meet others in the BDSM (and, more specifically CGl) community.

[Guest ZenDD]

"Acting" or "behaving" like a little should come naturally to a little. As littles are adults, they know that there are times when you have to put that child-like psychology away in order to take care of adult responsibilities.  If someone is comedic, and humorous by nature, for example, they have to figure out ways to sometimes be serious in order to take care of important issues where being funny isn't conducive to the task. Same thing if someone is a little by nature; busy, responsible, littles find ways to manage their lives and find time to explore little space. As you are in college, it would probably behoove you to concentrate on your adult studies while not in little space, unless you believe you can somehow be in little space and be productive with your school responsibilities at the same time. Maybe you can, only you would know by experimenting. 

 

One thing puzzles me though: I'm not sure how you can "see" or "spot" a little. I'm sure you can spot people who are into products/characters that are mainly marketed to children. But that's not what a little is, with regards to DDlg/CGl. Someone who is into hello kitty, stuffies, and pigtails, is just someone into hello kitty, stuffies, and pigtails. And that's ok, there's nothing wrong with that. A little in DDlg/CGl is an adult who finds ways to manifest a child-like psychology and take part in a D/s dynamic exchange with a Daddy/Caregiver. Otherwise it would just be called lg or l.

 

Spotting "little" style is easy, but spotting "little" psychological-motivations can't be done with the eyes alone. I think there are many so-called "littles" (especially underaged/minors and even some 18-21 year-olds) who are actually people into "little style," and not actually psychological littles. There is nothing wrong with being someone into "little style," it just isn't DDlg. This is a generality of course, there are always exceptions, but this perspective is based on my experiences, conversations, and observations. What do you think?

Edited October 6, 2016 by ZenDD

[Guest NotSoLoneWanderer]

Hello! I am actually in the same boat myself. I love being little and I actually spent the entire summer with my daddy being completely little and free. This obviously changed a lot when I headed off to college. Hmm the best way to describe my experience was almost like giving up everything I had that summer to be come big, which was extremely odd and difficult for me. And I'm actually leaving the college this weekend, not because of this but because it was a place that made me feel very trapped and not just disabling me from being little, but also from being my peppy and happy self that I had been working so hard to be over the summer ☺️

I don't really think that there's any specific way you should be acting at college. If you feel little, it's okay! You don't have to completely hide it. When I was feeling little in classes, I'd doodle pictures or I'd listen to Disney music if I was able to. These are just small steps to take to continue being in a little space. I also carried around a back-up paci in my backpack, some colored pencils, a very smol stuffie, and a water bottle that almost felt like a bottle. The only thing I wouldn't use out in public public was the paci. I also made all my notebooks very pretty for all my classes, pretty pink composition books with lots of sparkly pens that were fun to take notes with!

As for having little/caregiver friends, I don't really have many. And I especially don't have any on campus. I think it's just a very testy subject to bring up in a group of people who you don't know are going to accept it fully, but that's just my outlook. If you feel comfy coming out to people about it, go for it!

There's also no real way of spotting Little's or caregivers. I suggest maybe joining kik groups or talking to people here who might be near you/in your community!

[NomenLo]

I find this an interesting topic to bring up, particularly when thinking about how (at least in my area) DD/lg is becoming increasingly popular as a style. 

 

I wanted to quote ZenDD here: 

"Spotting "little" style is easy, but spotting "little" psychological-motivations can't be done with the eyes alone. I think there are many so-called "littles" (especially underaged/minors and even some 18-21 year-olds) who are actually people into "little style," and not actually psychological littles. There is nothing wrong with being someone into "little style," it just isn't DDlg."

 

And in relation what he said, I think that regardless of where you are/go, the part of your mind that is "little" will always be with you. Sure, the goodies add to the experience, but I don't feel there's a need to be inhibited by an inability to dress little etc. on campus when psychologically you have that little side with you. Regardless, you are still you. The stuff doesn't make who you are. And, as is one of the facts of life, there is a time and place for things. If I have an interview, I'm not going to be behaving in a little manner or dressing up in a little style because it's just not appropriate for the time. And there's nothing wrong with that. I shouldn't feel that my little side is inhibited because of this, as anyhow nothing can change who I am psychologically (except maybe if I fell on concrete... and part of my brain was damaged... hmm... LOL). 

Edited October 5, 2016 by NomenLo