Having problems with friends for being a little

[fluffiepinkiecutie]

Well, first...hi everyone! This is my first post here ^^

I'm having problems with my best friend. We are in that type of friendship where you talk about everything, from your problems to your pubic hair without getting embarrassed or something, so I know everything about him and he knows everything about me. Well, maybe not everything at all...I always kept being a little a secret, even with him, because I'm scared of what he could do, say or think if he knows. And maybe I was right, considering what happened yesterday...since I'm a little without a daddy, I feel a lot of longing to talking about ddlg, and nobody to satisfy it with. So yesterday, while we were talking, my intentions to buy a new paci just slipped out and he got crazy on it. Not that he was mad at me or anything, but he was really shocked and he started asking me questions about it, saying that, in his opinion, I'm kinda mentally ill and in needing of love and attentions. It was really mentally painful for me and I cried a lot. Fortunately, we were talking through messages, so it was less hard to face than it could really be. At one point I started to ignore his messages, even his goodmorning one. I don't know what to do. I mean, if he acted like this only because I want to buy a new paci, what he could do if I tell him all the truth? I'm really hurt and confused...

[Guest Prat]

Some people just don't understand it and there's really nothing you can do about it. I'm sorry about what happened btw. There's a chat room here where you can be little and do ddlg stuff without being criticised btw . Welcome

Edited October 3, 2016 by Prat(Praetorian)

[LittleLily1996]

I think it is best not too bring it up for now. I only brought it up with one friend who understood. The other? Not so much. But i am also without a Daddy/Caregiver too.

[Antoinette]

My best friend is also a little, so I understand the need to share things with other people and how much that can be beneficial towards your health and well-being but, sharing with this particular person probably won't help you any. I hope that you wouldn't be best friends with a closed-minded individual, but, everybody is different and holds their own views and some views cannot be changed despite what evidence or persuasion being used. The way I see it, you have this community (every single one of us is here for you, we've gotta stick together!) and you can keep your best friend too. 

 

If you want to talk to your best friend about it desperately, well... The only advice I could give is to debunk some CG/l myths that he may hold. Talk to him about why you find it to be something you are interested in, possibly relate it to something 'odd' that he may like and just try to find some common ground. The more people are exposed to it the more they're desensitised and overall more accepting of the act altogether. 

 

Or, of course, just don't mention it again. 

[Oliver]

He sounds a bit silly.

[Panserbjorn]

In my opinion it might be best to point him in the direction of some educational material on the subject, maybe even these forums. He can read about it rather than just make judgements based on his misconceptions. Once you have given him a place to read up about it, it's then up to him if he wants to be grown up about it. If not, then there's no reason you can't be friends, just don't talk about this side of your life! There are plenty of people here who I am sure would happily be a friend for you to talk to about your dd/lg thoughts and feelings!

 

Best wishs

[Guest ~*QueenSaiya*~]

Unfortunately as some have said not everyone is going to understand and at this point it would, in my opinion, be best to not disclose anything more. Give him some time to come around and maybe communicate to him that he's really hurt you by how he acted and what he said.

[fluffiepinkiecutie]

Thanks for all the replies, it really made me feel better...I loved the "you can have us" type of message, now I know I can count on you all. ♡

Anyway, I got new messages from him saying that ignoring isn't what he was expecting from me and that we should talk about what I said. I read them with my new paci in my mouth, I'm not gonna give up on what makes me happy only because him can't understand! c:

[Lucas_drago]

My bestfriend and me are the same way. She was nervous at frist to tell me. and we tell each everything. It gets werid cause she tell me when she on her period all the time lol. but i love my best friend reguardless. Sometimes we share porn it gets weird. Although we're not togather or nor well ever be her choice lol. She was scared to tell me. I knew she was hiding something so i asked. She told she was scared that i would leave. That i think she a freak. I told her no matter what i'll stick by her side. So have an hour telling her why I would leave. She came out with. any we talk more and more what she like and doesn't like. But I still like her the same. She still me best friend. Luckily I was in to ddlg to and I told her that. I'm not her daddy but if she feel alone and her little side comes out. I talk to her and make sure she having fun. But the point is friends don't turn one friends be honesly with him and met in person and tell him how you feel. Rather it be sexual or just the caring taking side of things.

[Guest KikiMay10]

My friend Jay was the same way. I accidentally let it slip out that I needed to get more diapers.He kept asking me all these questions and saying a bit of mean things about how weird it was for me to wear diapers. Unfortunately we were at school and so I couldn't really escape him. For a couple of weeks he kept trying to bring it up and finally I just told him I didn't really want to talk about it with him. Now we don't talk about it, but it makes me feel a bit trapped that I can't really be myself around my friends.

 

I wish you all the best though. I know it can be a bit challenging having friends that don't understand your lifestyle, but it will all work out in the end.

 

On a side note. YAY on the new paci. I love ordering a new paci's. It gets me all giddy inside. I only really have one adult pacifier at the moment, but I just ordered one so 

I'm excited to be getting it in the mail.

[spaceprincess_]

It's sadly something which is widely and easily misunderstood, and as it gets more well-known there's more and more people outwardly hating on it in a knee-jerk kinda way. A few good online friends always joke and kinkshame it and I'm just sitting there like yuuuppp, GG guys -___- But as I'm not comfortable with outing myself in public at this point there's not much I can do. I do have a Daddy and some really good little friends thought which I can message, which really helps. It's all about timing and educating your friends, or picking your battles and keeping such conversations to like-minded people.

Whatever you choose I hope it works out for you ♥

[Lil' Miss Dolly]

Personally I'd like to know his credentials to diagnose you with mental illness! He should probably leave that to the professionals *points to degree on wall* if being a little makes you mentally ill... well... we're all screwed.

 

People are clueless sometimes and there's no escaping that. If he's your best friend he will get over the shock and you can open the lines of communication if you wish to. I totally agree with other posters - he is in dire need of some educational material on our lifestyle. Mainstream society likes to paint a picture and it's not very accurate so if thats what he's been told or shown about ddlg or abdl he is naturally going to think you're a little cray cray.

 

Our chatroom is a fantastic place if you would like to talk to other littles about little stuff! This board is also full with amazing and accepting people from all walks of life!

 

Let me be the first to welcome you to the Blanket Fort!

[Guest dus10]

This is awful to read and I hope you're okay.

 

My advice would be: don't let the judgment of others determine your happiness. I know, it's easier said than done, but remember that life is complicated for everyone and that he may well have his reasons for acting this way. People usually judge stuff because the subject makes them angry at themselves, or they do it because some things happened in their life that made them feel judged, too. Yet, the close-mindedness of someone else should never be a reason for anyone to change the way they feel about something, because only you can know what's best for you. If it makes you happy, it makes you happy. Damn anyone who tries to steer you away from happiness.

 

If you think he wouldn't understand even if you tried: don't try. But there's no reason to get angry either. If I were in your shoes, I'd tell him I'd be disappointed in his reaction. I'd be disappointed about him jumping to radical conclusions about something that matters most to you. It can break a friendship and sometimes it's hard to believe people would rather trust their own judgment instead of hearing out the other first. But that's the way it is sometimes. Remember to trust yourself .