I'm Grounded

[unillama]

Hello people Perhaps I'm here to vent...

 

My daddy has been spending lesser and lesser time with me. He locked me up in the room before he went out for work today. He goes out to work at 11am, and comes home at 12-1am every night. He said I've been overly needy, and that I've been very whiny. He also said I should appreciate the time we spent together instead of complaining the time when we're apart so much. Because he has to work, and I understand that. I shouldn't but I sneaked on my phone for some entertainment...

 

Should I give up or stop being needy?

 

Anyway, I cried so much, I'm okay now

Edited October 3, 2016 by unillama

[Guest SaladHater]

Give up. He's not "punishing you" he's finding an excuse to distance himself from you so it's less harder for him to finally abandon you.

[Guest ZenDD]

According to what you've written here, i'm interpreting that you were locked in a room for over 12 hours, is that correct?? I hope i'm not, because if i am this is just abuse. Is this a punishment that was discussed before you two started the relationship? Are you on board with this punishment, did you consent to it? I find this disturbing.

[unillama]

According to what you've written here, i'm interpreting that you were locked in a room for over 12 hours, is that correct?? I hope i'm not, because if i am this is just abuse. Is this a punishment that was discussed before you two started the relationship? Are you on board with this punishment, did you consent to it? I find this disturbing.

Yes, you're correct. No, it wasn't a punishment discussed. I did not consent to it... It's the first time daddy has locked me in a room  

[Becky Binkie]

I don't think that's very daddy at all, locking you in your room for a ridiculous amount of hours like that.

What are you supposed to do when you need food or need to take care of business? Basic human needs!

Especially when it was something not previously being given consent to, how are you supposed to trust him not to do something else that he shouldn't?

 

Honestly, if I were you, I would leave him. There's crossing boundaries and then there's this. This really is disturbing.

[Guest sweetbabibunny]

I would run for the hills. As hard as it may be. There is always a time and place and because this was not agreed upon beforehand, (which if it was then fine but because it wasnt...) this is abuse, neglect, and everything in between. Stay strong and if you need someone to talk to Im here. 

[Guest Moonpie]

This is just...seriously just leave. It's actually very scary to know he's keeping you locked up for long periods of time and you did not even consent to that punishment. It almost sounds like he's punishing you for being a little. And I don't see why you can't go on your phone for entertainment. Does he expect you to sit there doing nothing? My advice, leave and never look back.

[Guest MasterPhotog]

I fully agree with ALL posts. A real Daddy would not abuse his babygirl or little like this.

The ONLY thing you need to do is LEAVE ASAP. Good luck! 

[dididarling]

I wish I could put my two cents in.. but I would just be repeating everyone else. #LeaveHim

[Panserbjorn]

Yeah, definitely sounds like abuse

[Johnny Hammersticks]

Id say maybe a support system of friends would be a huge help to you in your situation. If you are able to reach out to some of the kind people, even on this forum, to give you the support you need. To help you figure out if this is maybe what you want? I dont know, maybe you love this guy and are willing to accept this type of punishment?

 

In a way, by you allowing him to do this, youre saying "i accept this punishment".

 

Talk to other littles, make friends, get support. Thats an awful punish, unless you just WANT to stay in bed for twelve hours.

[LoralieHaze]

Id say maybe a support system of friends would be a huge help to you in your situation. If you are able to reach out to some of the kind people, even on this forum, to give you the support you need. To help you figure out if this is maybe what you want? I dont know, maybe you love this guy and are willing to accept this type of punishment?

 

In a way, by you allowing him to do this, youre saying "i accept this punishment".

 

Talk to other littles, make friends, get support. Thats an awful punish, unless you just WANT to stay in bed for twelve hours.

 

I agree that she would benefit from making friends and having a support system, though I'm slightly appalled at the rest of what you're saying. It's extremely clear from both the original post and her later response that this is not what she wanted, nor did she consent to it. If she was willing to accept this type of punishment, she wouldn't be asking all of us for advice. I know that some subs would be okay with it but it's overwhelmingly obvious that this isn't the case here.

[Johnny Hammersticks]

I agree that she would benefit from making friends and having a support system, though I'm slightly appalled at the rest of what you're saying. It's extremely clear from both the original post and her later response that this is not what she wanted, nor did she consent to it. If she was willing to accept this type of punishment, she wouldn't be asking all of us for advice. I know that some subs would be okay with it but it's overwhelmingly obvious that this isn't the case here.

Sorry that youre offended, but its her choice to stay or not. I mean, shes doing the punishment, right? Thats all im not saying. Im by no means saying its ok. Im just saying maybe this is their dynamic, we dont know from the one paragraph she typed how their relationship is. Maybe she has to stay in bed all day for medical reasons. We DONT KNOW.

 

I was simply advocating that she try to make some connections of quality people that could help guide her in the right direction. Of whats best for her.

 

I apologize if i didnt put this in more agreeable terms.

[unillama]

Sorry that youre offended, but its her choice to stay or not. I mean, shes doing the punishment, right? Thats all im not saying. Im by no means saying its ok. Im just saying maybe this is their dynamic, we dont know from the one paragraph she typed how their relationship is. Maybe she has to stay in bed all day for medical reasons. We DONT KNOW.

 

I was simply advocating that she try to make some connections of quality people that could help guide her in the right direction. Of whats best for her.

 

I apologize if i didnt put this in more agreeable terms.

 

 

I agree that she would benefit from making friends and having a support system, though I'm slightly appalled at the rest of what you're saying. It's extremely clear from both the original post and her later response that this is not what she wanted, nor did she consent to it. If she was willing to accept this type of punishment, she wouldn't be asking all of us for advice. I know that some subs would be okay with it but it's overwhelmingly obvious that this isn't the case here.

 

 

Yeah, definitely sounds like abuse

 

 

I wish I could put my two cents in.. but I would just be repeating everyone else. #LeaveHim

 

 

I fully agree with ALL posts. A real Daddy would not abuse his babygirl or little like this.

The ONLY thing you need to do is LEAVE ASAP. Good luck! 

 

 

This is just...seriously just leave. It's actually very scary to know he's keeping you locked up for long periods of time and you did not even consent to that punishment. It almost sounds like he's punishing you for being a little. And I don't see why you can't go on your phone for entertainment. Does he expect you to sit there doing nothing? My advice, leave and never look back.

 

 

I would run for the hills. As hard as it may be. There is always a time and place and because this was not agreed upon beforehand, (which if it was then fine but because it wasnt...) this is abuse, neglect, and everything in between. Stay strong and if you need someone to talk to Im here. 

 

 

I don't think that's very daddy at all, locking you in your room for a ridiculous amount of hours like that.

What are you supposed to do when you need food or need to take care of business? Basic human needs!

Especially when it was something not previously being given consent to, how are you supposed to trust him not to do something else that he shouldn't?

 

Honestly, if I were you, I would leave him. There's crossing boundaries and then there's this. This really is disturbing.

 

 

Give up. He's not "punishing you" he's finding an excuse to distance himself from you so it's less harder for him to finally abandon you.

 

 

According to what you've written here, i'm interpreting that you were locked in a room for over 12 hours, is that correct?? I hope i'm not, because if i am this is just abuse. Is this a punishment that was discussed before you two started the relationship? Are you on board with this punishment, did you consent to it? I find this disturbing.

Thank you for the advice, people. I didn't mean to cause any drama here.

 

I don't want to paint a different picture of my daddy. He is one of the best people I've ever met. Although I can't say he is now that he's finally locked me up. Like I said, perhaps I'm overly needy. We've been together for more than two years, and I love him so very much. We've talked about me needing his attention. Things just get worse... He denied me lesser time and attention. I'm confused... I feel it wasn't right that he really locked me up for more than 12 hours (and yes, I wasn't allowed to use any gadgets.) I want to leave him but I can't bring myself to really do it. I gave him two years and I'm very attached to him.

 

I'm sorry.

[Guest ZenDD]

Yes, you're correct. No, it wasn't a punishment discussed. I did not consent to it... It's the first time daddy has locked me in a room

 

This is yet another example of someone using BDSM as an excuse for abuse. This man is not a Daddy, a Master, a Dom, or any other archetype/title of BDSM. This man is an abuser. With all due respect, please reconsider your relationship with this person. I know it will be difficult, but i believe it's for the best. If someone is capable of this kind of abuse, who knows what else they are capable of. Call a friend or family and get away from this situation. You can do it, littles are strong. Take care.

[Guest ZenDD]

Thank you for the advice, people. I didn't mean to cause any drama here.

 

I don't want to paint a different picture of my daddy. He is one of the best people I've ever met. Although I can't say he is now that he's finally locked me up. Like I said, perhaps I'm overly needy. We've been together for more than two years, and I love him so very much. We've talked about me needing his attention. Things just get worse... He denied me lesser time and attention. I'm confused... I feel it wasn't right that he really locked me up for more than 12 hours (and yes, I wasn't allowed to use any gadgets.) I want to leave him but I can't bring myself to really do it. I gave him two years and I'm very attached to him.

 

I'm sorry.

 

Don't apologize for anything. You haven't done ANYTHING wrong. HE did. You're not causing drama at all. Everyone is just genuinely concerned. See how everyone is responding? That's how abnormal and unsafe your situation is. He may have been good to you in the past, you might have a good history, but that doesn't negate what is happening now. If all of what you are telling us is true, then this man is cruel, and is only concerned with control. You may have slowly become used to it over time, and you seem to have normalized it. This is common with victims of abuse. Listen to your inner voice. I would bet if you did that you would really know you shouldn't be in this relationship. Maybe he was good once, but the truth is that he isn't good anymore. Please talk to someone close to you to get help since you're incapable, and rightly so, of doing this on your own. Keep your head up, you can do this.

[stargirl]

I hope you find a way out of this. I'm here if you need to talk

 

Also, please wake up and smell the coffee. This man is abusing you! You are a victim, tell someone you trust what is happening and accept help.

Edited October 4, 2016 by stargirl

[Thequeen]

the sadest part about this whole thing is you dont even know your being abused. Its so common amongst the abused people these days its scary. You grow to be hurt by this person so many times then they fix it (usually awfully and half heartedly if any heart at all) but you become so happy because guess what!? he fixed it!! so you stay and you develope this fight or die instinct instead of fight or flight. This person becomes so engraved in your mind you could never possibly think they were doing anything wrong.

 

Look sweetie, abuse is not always the easiest thing to spot. it comes in so many different forms its hard to see anymore. You know your going to have tons of free time when he leaves for work next so use these many hours to do some self reflection. Remember all the things you wanted in your future, with the person you loved. Did you imagine your self in a cage? being left alone for hours? only for him to return upset and angry? I have a feeling it didn't but either way that's for you to decide. But if it didn't you need to stop and stand up for yourself and say enough is enough! no more of this you are worth so much more than any of this.

 

We are all here for you to be friends, you ear to listen, or your shoulder to cry on. Friend me or anyone else, everyone loves a new friend

-TheQueen