my boyfriend kind of guessed himself about me being a little

[nymphetdoll00]

So, long story short. I'm a little (or rather a nymphet, because I don't feel like a baby but a 10-12 year old when in little space) and when I was in a previous relationship, I exposed it which was fine to my boyfriend/Daddy but as time passed it became toxic - he was basically treating me like shit and couldn't understand that being a little doesn't equal being a stupid person that doesn't think. But I was very traumatized and thought I'd never show my little side to any guy. Now I'm in a happy relationship but I never really talked aboout ddlg much. I mean, I am a little as a person-i love cute things, im often childish and infantile, i love when someone takes care and resposibility of me when I need it. However I never really told him, like, hey I'm a little, you heard about ddlg? Yeah, be my Daddy. No. I guess I was afraid that he'll act as it's weird.

We were Laying on bed and talking about the roles in relationship and he was like "you want equality, but you like to be dominated and taken care of, right" and i was like UMMMMM idk I guess so 8--))) and inside i was like HELL YE BOI

He also choked me and pulled my hair when kissing; i was surprised but positively. I'm wondering how to take it to next level. How do I know if he wants to be my real Daddy. How do I know if he's ready and hoe to not ruin a relationship with that. Thank you!

[HeCallsMePrincess]

well, he's already opened the door he's just waiting for you to walk through it! it sounds he's not only open and receptive, but possibly hoping you are a little. just talk to him. it's clear you already have great, open communication.

[Guest ZenDD]

You don't want to ruin a relationship, I get that. But not being yourself by keeping an important part of who you are a secret will end up ruining you. Your own identity is not worth sacrificing for the sake of a "good" relationship. The relationship actually isn't as good as you think it is, because you're keeping your true self from your partner. If he doesn't appreciate or understand who you really are, and can't be with you because of it, then you aren't right for each other.

 

Honesty and communication are two of the utmost important qualities of a relationship, and right now you are not sharing either of those things completely. I understand wanting to be in a quality relationship, but the truth is that the quality of your relationship right now is just surface. It's not real yet; not until you discuss your real feelings and communicate who you really are. All of what i've said, by the way, is assuming that being a little is an important and true aspect of who you are and that you feel the need to manifest it more in your life in order to feel fulfilled. If it's something you can live without then you've got no problem if he doesn't want to explore it further. Good Luck!

Edited October 2, 2016 by ZenDD

[PrincessHarleyQuinn101]

i was scared to tell my boyfriend too...we recently got back together and he never knew about it....he's about 4 1/2 years older than me.....and my friend slipped up and told him.....he's trying to learn more about it.....id say tell him.....it might be worth it.....good luck!

[princess gremlin]

This sort of sounds like where I'm at with the guy I'm seeing. We were totally on the same page about being rough in sex - he's extremely dominant, always pulling my hair and choking me, some spanking, etc. BUT I am absolutely terrified to try to introduce any part of the real DD/lg "daddy kink" stuff and I'm not sure how I can gently ease him into it... However we've only been seeing each other for a few weeks so I'm definitely going to wait a bit longer. Part of me is REALLY hoping he'll put it together on his own, or at least I'm hoping that he's into the "younger" aspects of my personality that he already knows. I can be whiny and giggly with him, I'm already so submissive during sex, I wear fairy wings around my dorm building, I love blowing bubbles and doing gymnastics outside, and he knows I have a Frozen blankie that I carry around and lay under when we have movie nights in the dorm.

 

*sigh*

[dlucian]

Apologies, I'm new and the daddy in my relationship.. But my suggestion is strike up a conversation, and talk.. You don't have to fully expose yourself yet, just talk. Another thing you could do is randomly call him daddy and see what he does/thinks

[LoralieHaze]

BUT I am absolutely terrified to try to introduce any part of the real DD/lg "daddy kink" stuff and I'm not sure how I can gently ease him into it...

 

I just want to politely butt in here and say that DDlg and daddy kink are two different things.