Please help... Still living with my mom, slipped up!

[ronniexbunny]

I ordered my first paci and another onesie the other day. With out thinking I decided to get some diaper samples to see if I liked them... The problem is I'm still living with my mother so I can go to school and she doesn't know I'm into ddlg/mdlg. In her eyes I'm still a child and she is very weird about kinks and "those adult babies". I'm really not ready for her to find out and moving out is not an option. Please help. I just need a way to either hide/get rid of them, or a reason for having them.

[Guest MisterBrownEyes]

Can't you say they are for a fancy dress party?

 

And you're trying to be authentic by going the full hog, so to speak?

[Johnny Hammersticks]

Hey, Halloween is coming up, tell her its a gag gift for a Halloween party!

[Strawberry Sprinkles]

Possible solutions:

 

* Depending on their appearance, I use adult pull ups while I'm on my period if its particularly heavy. As a teacher, I can't reliably go to the bathroom and it helps avoid messy accidents. You could give her the same excuse.

 

* Throw them away in a crowded (or black) garbage bag.

 

* Cancel order

 

* Look at the tracker (if provided) and take a sick day the day they're supposed to arrive. Check OFTEN and then when they get here, chunk them!

 

 

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I would avoid practicing DDlg with obvious props (pacifiers, sippy cups, diapers) as they can be easily forgotten about or your mother will decide to clean your room! Edited September 29, 2016 by Strawberry Sprinkles

[GenuineEnglish]

Contact the seller & find out how & when they were sent.  Then contact the delivery company, say that you won't be home & see if you can collect the parcel from their office.  In any event they should be in plain packaging which, hopefully, your mum won't open.

 

I don't know where you are but in a lot of countries there are delivery companies that use local lockers or shops so that you can get parcels without them being delivered to your home.

Edited September 29, 2016 by GenuineEnglish

[Antoinette]

I know it's scary and you'll probably be judged for it if you tell her straight up, and well... DDlg is a part of BDSM, in my opinion parents don't need to know about your uh... Bedroom, or kink activities. 

 

But, well, if she asks you could lie, say it's something for Halloween, say that it's just a little dress-up gag type joke, but what happens when it you order something again, in the future? You can't keep using the same excuses.

 

When I first got into DDlg (at 15, I was non-sexual, no daddy, just exploring btw, 18 now) I lived with my father. He found out pretty quickly, and well, while I didn't say 'it's DDlg, it's a kink etc etc,' I did just say that I wanted these things because I found them cute, anxiety relievers. I told him why these things made me feel comfortable without incorporating the aspects of DDlg into the conversation. He eventually just said that while he thought it was odd that it made me happy and it had nothing to do with him, so he didn't care.

 

I'm sure you don't need to lie, it'd probably be more awkward in the long run to lie, and constantly having to hide things can't be good for your nerves either.

[Thequeen]

I have to agree with Antoinette, lying kills your nerves and honestly, if done enough makes you go basically numb from the guilt and grief of it all. So I highly recommend avoiding the excessive lying. I know you want to dive into it all but maybe you should try to play off the diapers this time then limit yourself to only buying things that could be understandable to a parent until you have come to such time as to move out. The onesie, yes may seem odd to some parents, but it is by no means incriminating nor suspicious of anything. The paci is more risky but I understand your want for one- my little is the exact same way and can't get over his, same as his radle.

 

So I get it you want to do all these things but your mother is your family. You don't want to lose her trust of you, it really hurts and takes a very long time to heal. I would know as it happened to me. They may love you through it all deep down in their hearts but they probably won't show it for awhile because of the hurt and betrayal and confusion they might feel when everything comes out as lies and deception and she sees you for who you are for the first time. It's hard for a mother to go through that all so please please please I beg you do not lie to her more than ABSOLUTELY necessary.

 

I hope everything works out for you, if you need a friend or so more advice you can always message me,

-TheQueen