Never had a DDLG relationship irl ;n;

[Shelaesya]

Heelllooooo~ :3 
So. This be da dealio macarino.
I've been fantasizing about DDLG for a fuckinnng while, but have never found someone interested into it.
Everytime I get a boyfriend, I try to tell him the things that I like but they never actually done it :/ 
They mostly think a DDLG relationship is just the same but with rough sex and more domination, which, yes, I fully love domination, 
but it's not what I'm looking for.. 
n.n and I don't know where to find a guy like this either around my area. Fml. What do.

[Guest Prat]

I've been in LDRs since I was 18, I know your feels.

[Guest MissNMTX]

You are definitely not the only one! *waves hand* If it makes you feel better there are a lot of people who call themselves "daddy" that don't know the difference either. *shrug* 

[Guest Princessaj]

An educated & wise ~Wittle Babygirl~ will have

the best real Daddy Dom when she is ready.

 

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YOU ARE NOT READY TO HAVE A REAL DADDY DOM.

 

I am 2 months into being a middle, into the DDlg Lifestyle and into the DDlg Forum.

 

In that 2 months...I realized that I wouldn't know a real Daddy Dom if he tripped right over me.

 

Well, that was all I needed.  I STOPPED LOOKING.

 

Now, I have become amazingly calm about finding a Daddy because I AM NOT READY...

 

When I turned off the panic and chaos of not having a Daddy. I started talking/messaging

them and asking about their experience, like I was their sister. There are some amazing

Daddies on this site that really want to interact with others in the DDlg Lifestyle so they can

become better at being a Daddy..

 

I have taken all my frantic energy and used it for...

 

1. DDlg/BDSM research, reading, reading and more reading.

2. Making friends here, from every role of the DDlg Lifestyle, from all walks of life and across the globe..

Really being interested in them, interacting with them, listening to them, not just posing as a friend.

4. Becoming a very active member of the forum, you will see my comments all over the place.

 

Happy to chat about what I have written and offer you any of the resources I have found. Blessings, Princess

[GenuineEnglish]

I have been a Daddy for a long time & my Little friends have always said how rare it is to find a real Daddy.  A Daddy/Daddy Dom is very different to a "normal" Dom.  He has to be able to offer the control, the discipline & structure of a Dom but with genuine caring & affection.  Guys can fake the control part but you can't fake affection. If he doesn't really care & adore you, you will sense it.

 

Because of the way that we are scattered across the globe we do need to look further & start online.  You have to decide whether to compromise with a local guy or find someone that answers your DDlg needs & compromise that he is miles away.

[Thequeen]

I think most people in life rush into a relationship they dont know enough about just like princessaj said (what's up girl?? lol I see you on all the posts I read through). I mean, I've been with my current little for three years and we are both still very much still learning. We started as just boyfriend girlfriend and then he actually came to me about this life style which lead me to research and testig the waters. I am still learning just like him but honestly if I hadnt already been dating him I would have said no on accounts of not feeling like I knew enough. But because he knows I am new and still learning hes okay with it which makes me okay with it.

 

So if I had to give any advice, I would suggest listening to GenuineEnglish about what you want to compromise. Learn about what you want slowly over time from listening, researching, reading, talking to people, anything at all and find out what you actually do like and don't like in this community. Do you like this type of play but not another? do you need this one aspect but another is a hard limit for you? As well as personal aspects you look for in your standard partners- like I know I can not date anyone involved in military, police, fire department, etc. because it is too emotional for me or I want someone who is willing to travel a lot, or even personality aspects- do you want a comedian or a very serious person, or what?

 

Know yourself completely before commiting to anything or anyone. It is only fair to yourself and everyone else involved or affected by it. That's my best piece of advice. You can find your own personal happiness and inner peace just y being yourself, no need for a partner until you have found such enlightenment. Good luck with it all! and if you need a friend, hit me up.

-TheQueen