A small tip on proper social etiquette..

[Guest lancevance]

If you post your self in the personals section of a forum or otherwise advertise online that you are looking forthis or that, and you get a response/message/friend request, and that leads to the beginning of a conversation, please, if something happens, don't just ignore the person. Im not naming names, but I have encountered this several times from a variety of places. If you get a message and a conversation from someone, they are interested in you. And if said conversation is filled with smiles, laughs, jokes, and flirting, and ends on a good note ofpromises to talk again soon, they will think all is going well and look forward to future chats. And then you never read their messages again much less respond, what kind of message does that send to them? If there was an issue, tell them, if you aren't interested, then say so, but it's extremely rude not to mention bruising to the ego to suddenly pretend someone doesnt exist when last they knew you were having a good time together. Don.t get me wrong, life happens, and sometimes that's al there is to it, death in the family, work, family, etc, whatever. But when you post responses to others, ask for others to message you and claim that you wish to talk to, and get to know everyone, but ignore somone who has been trying to get in touch with you....

[Shimmy]

Cant love this enough for so many reasons...Well worded and thank you for posting  A good reminder for everyone to take note of.

[Guest MisterBrownEyes]

Good post, couldn't agree more. Treat others how you would like to be treated.

[Guest T-QREX]

Although I agree its quite disheartening to feel like someone just ignored you, it is also the internet. You are indeed chatting but social etiquette on the internet is nearly nonexistent. It was not a personal phone call, in person meeting for a cup of coffee, it was a message from a website community.

Yes, enjoying a conversation you might be expecting more responses and such but alas, the internet is the way the internet is. My opinion is to try and not take things to heart and just move on. There is not social etiquette on the internet and because of the fairly anonymous nature of the internet, one should not wholly expect it.

 

Just my opinion.

[DollDirector]

Hello there !

 

I have to partly disagree with quackers ,quote " there is no social etiquette on the internet ".

My vision of the etiquette is,that one is allowed to ignore a friend request or any 1st message. The person (usually male when you are talking personals) who has sent the message and has been ignored is allowed to send a second one if he really wants,but if ignored again enters stalking when attempting anything else.

 

This is of course different from what lancevance is talking about,which seems to be ghosting. 

When you have advertised something,it's like you have of your own will entered a bar of some sort; When you have written something to someone who was the first to address you,it's like you have accepted meeting their eyes,be it for a second only. I don't know of any bar anywhere in the galaxy that has no etiquette ...

[Guest T-QREX]

This isn't a bar. This is the internet. just because you talk to someone and had a good time doesn't require, guarantee, or mean you have the "RIGHT" of a second time or follow up response. This is not ghosting. Ghosting is entering a "relationship" and then disappearing. Merely talking to someone once, twice, whatever, does not imply a relationship. It sucks for sure, but, again, in my opinion, does not necessitate further communication. Courtesy would be nice but unfortunately not required.

[Guest MisterBrownEyes]

True Caged, it isn't required, but the OP wasn't dictating what anyone should do.

 

I'm with Lance 100%, a little bit of common decency doesn't hurt now and again; irrespective of it being the Tinternet or not.

 

Just my opinion btw!

[Guest T-QREX]

but thats the problem, its common decency, which you can't expect on the internet. you can't EXPECT it anywhere. you can HOPE everyone has it but the reality is, a lot don't.

it does matter that it is the internet. just look at "memes", snopes, etc. viral media.

[Thequeen]

I get it this is the internet you can't expect etiquette from people but I think this post is very true. If a group of us all go out and have great etiquette and are kind and curtious I believe it will spread so we all should do this and hope it spreads. I agree right now people don't do that but what's the point in lying about it? What's the point in giving false hope just to be torn away? That's not fair to anyone so we should all combat this however we each can. And if it's as something as simple as saying "hey things aren't really working out in sorry" what's the harm? We should all be the change in the world we want to see. I personally think I'll call you should go down with the ship so we can have a new generation of kind and curtious people fully A keen to people's emotions and feelings like never before