New to being a little.

[Babygirljenna]

Hi, I'm Jenna. Im new to being a little. I was wondering is available to help me learn some things and where to meet proper dd versus bad ones? Thank you. You can message me.

[IchigoHime]

The most cliche advice I can give is to follow your heart. If you feel a DD is bad, then he is. Be safe and stay aware of your feelings and intuitions.

[Guest fehrret]

Good luck. I am new as well and if you want we can be friends. I only use Skype or Msgs on here but if you need someone to talk to, feel free to message me.

[Antoinette]

Be open to anybody and everybody that may interest you romantically.

 

The goal isn't to look for a DD, but rather someone who you want to spend time with, who you want to invest in. The DDlg dynamic isn't nonexistent simply because there is no DD in your life.

 

You should be looking for someone who you genuinely want to be with, who you find interesting and amazing... Who makes you happy. Yes, this may be things that for you, you find in DDs but that doesn't mean you need to find a DD precisely. If you find someone you love, introduce them to DDlg and then try it out to see how it works you'll be much happier than finding someone who you kind of like and having a 'perfect' DDlg dynamic ('perfect' because 1. that doesn't exist and 2. it wouldn't be as emotionally fulfilling, a huge part of DDlg imo) 

 

Rather than looking for a DD, or anyone in fact, just work on yourself. You don't need anybody but yourself. Actively searching for a relationship, most of the time, won't bring you a fulfilling one.

[lilsnoopy]

Finding a daddy dom took me a few tries. To be honest I attract all the kinky people, usually, it's just how I am I guess. Most of my friends are kinky and most of my ex's have been. I kind of agree the advise given above this but I what I look for, that amazing and interesting type of person is exactly what I want in a daddy dom. For me personally, you might be different, if he does not even have the characteristics of a daddy then i usually won't think twice... That's just who I am, I need someone to take care of me and love me and I don't want to waste my time chasing someone who can never step up and be the full time caregiver with a deep understanding, love, and respect for me and our relationship. I didn't do flings because I wanted a long term relationship with a dominant father like figure.  

So the main key when looking for a guy as a little is to know what you want. Are you ok with a good normal guy who might not be able to be a daddy dom? Knowing what properties you want in a guy. Think about physical attributes: height, age, race if that is a factor for you, where they live. Also other things: how much experience they have as a daddy dom, if you care if they are a daddy or not (you can be a little on your own. but if you do want a daddy then maybe looking for that at the start isn't a bad plan. I know a few of my past relationships were with guys who I did like a lot but they won't get into dd/lg and that caused the relationship to fail. I want a relationship where I can be my little self and be embraced and encouraged, not having to be alone in little space because that is just who I am and that is what I want. you might be different so it's really important you know what you're looking for.), if what you are in a relationship lines up in what they want, what kind of relationship you want vs what they want (long term or not, poly or not, ex, this is very important to find out) Just set out a basic profile for what you want. It might sound silly but it helps get your thoughts in order and will help you get what you priorities are in a guy. But if you have a gut feeling that he is just not for you, move on. If a guy doesn't match up perfectly I am not saying to brush them off. Getting to know people before starting or dismissing a relationship is extremely important, kind of obvious but thought I'd clarify. 

 

 

just as example, not that you'll probably really need it, I'll use myself. I knew I wanted someone tall and older. Mature, fatherly, ok with not having kids. ok with raising me. could be dominant, could be a daddy. would accept me and my issues and my kinks. wanted long term. Not long distance. I kept all of those factors in my mind when looking for a relationship. Any guy I saw potential in or showed interest in me, I compared him to what I wanted and went from there. I was lucky enough to find my daddy dom that way. I saw the potential of being a daddy in him. Keep in mind that just because a guy is a daddy dom doesn't mean he'll be the type of daddy you want. Some people 'advertise' as a dd without really understanding it, and every daddy has slightly different thoughts on how to be a dd (like how they feel about punishments, rewards, day to day things like reading bedtime stories, hanging colored pictures on the fridge, giving you baths, making you food, spoiling) it might take a few daddies before you find your forever daddy who is everything you wanted and more. I am wishing you the best of luck!! 

Edited September 25, 2016 by lilsnoopy