Little advice on a daddy

[Hellobunny909]

Hi everyone

 

As some of you may know, im pretty new to the ddlg lifestyle. I met someone a few months ago who has become a daddy in my life. The thing is, is that im not sure if what we have is legitimate, or if hes just using me.

 

When we first started to talk he wanted to spend a lot of time with me, and he would text me/ snap me all throughout the day. I dont want to say things changed after we started having sex and decided to have a ddlg dynamic, but, they did. In a bad way. I dont really get the feeling that he cares about me. sometimes he says he loves me and other times he says he adores me or just likes me alot. Im really confused about how he feels, and ive brought this up to him and told him that i didnt feel like he wanted me anymore/cared about me/ or gives me attention like he use to. He assured me that hes just busy, and that he does care, that he would talk to me more and prove that he loves me. But so far its just been empty words.

 

Ive grown very attatched to him. I worry that he may be using me, and not in a good way. Since ive never had a daddy before, im not sure how to compare this to anything.

 

And if its not healthy, im not sure how to cut myself away from him.

 

Any advice would be great. How can i tell if hes legit?

 

To be fair, he has shown ways that he cares. For example, i went to a concert on wed and he stayed up until i got home to make sure i was safe.

 

Im just a little confused and scared of being hurt. Am i being paranoid?

 

Thank you,

Bunny

[Antoinette]

If you have to question whether or not you're being used it's probably not a relationship you should be in. Do you really know this person, or were you eager to jump into a DDlg relationship because it was so new and exciting? 

 

It doesn't matter if he's a daddy or not, if you feel you're being used it's time to leave. Empty promises he's made make it all that more worse. You need to sit him down and tell him that you don't want to feel the way you're feeling anymore, and if he makes me promises ignore them (they've all been empty so far, why would anything change?) tell him you're doing this for yourself.

 

And stick by those words. Discover yourself as a little, do more research before jumping into a relationship. Make sure you know how to keep yourself safe and from getting hurt again. 

[Princess-P]

Have you considered that the honeymoon stage of your relationship is over?

 

You don't say that he's ignoring you just not giving you attention all day long. He's not being mean. He's not doing things to hurt you. He's not calling you names or verbally abusing you....

 

It really doesn't sound like he's done anything wrong. Maybe your just expecting too much? Relationships change. That's normal. He sounds like he's just more comfortable and when people get comfortable they don't always put in as much effort as they did in the beginning because they just don't have to.

[Guest Pastel.babybat]

Maybe he really is busy, and the fact it happened around the time you had sex doesn't mean he's using you. Maybe he just got busy on a bad timing.

 

If he was using you, I guess you'd only hear from him when he has physical or emotional needs. The rest of the time he would be using you or doing basic maintenance just to maintain you around.

 

Either way, you're not happy with the way things are working out and the best way to solve this is a honest serious conversation with him explaining how you feel. If nothing changes after sitting down a second time, maybe he's just not the right daddy for you.

 

Hope this helps

[gooddaddy44]

I'm late to this posting.... have things worked out between you and your daddy?