I can't get over him

[fatlittleferret]

A while ago I had my first Daddy that was actually in real life. It was a great experience and everything was just perfect to me. It was my first experience with DDlg in real life as I said and it was honestly kind of life changing for me. 

H

e suddenly just ended things and didn't give me any explanation and we haven't had contact. Since then I just don't even want to open up to anyone else ever again. I compare everyone to him and am constantly wondering WHY? I think about him all the time and can't even go into little space anymore without eventually crying for him or at least thinking about him the entire time. Everything from my favorite teddy to my favorite Disney movies reminds me of him. 

 

I have had break ups in 'vanilla' relationships and nothing ever hurt me like this even a relationship that was almost 2 years long. I think it's because of how much I opened up my true self to him and he is the only person I have ever been little and vulnerable around. Will I ever get over this? I feel so pathetic. What if I can never have a Daddy again?

 

Maybe I just get too attached. 

 

[Rune]

I honestly know exactly how to feel. Earlier this year things ended with my first IRL relationship as well. Its been months, but I still find myself thinking of her a lot and a lot of things remind me of her. It is hard sometimes to move on, but over time it will get a little easier. I am going through a particularly hard time right now, but I just remind myself that I will find the person for me one day and that if they were not interested in being with me then that's too bad for them. I know its probably even harder for a little losing her daddy then the situation I am in. If you ever need someone to talk to you can message me. I always have an ear available for anyone in need of support.

 

PS: Do not feel pathetic. Having feelings for someone even after a breakup is very natural. Even more so in a DDLG relationship.

Edited September 16, 2016 by Rune

[Guest ddlgkammie]

I went through a similar situation a while back. I thought that I would never get over it and move on until I did. I hope you do the same love  *gives you huggies*.

[Guest]

A few days ago I got out of my first (and only) ddlg relationship. And I know what you mean about it hurting more then a vanilla relationship ending.

Even though it didn't last very long in my case, I was used him being around. He made me feel like the center of his world. Like I was so loved and special to him. He went out of his way to always be there from when I woke up till I went to bed. I talked to him all day, everyday and was so attached and dependent on his care and having him around for me.

 

Now that it's over I feel like there is a hole inside if me. Like he took a part of my with him. It's really hard not to feel down but I am getting there day by day.

 

 

The most important things to remember is you were fine before they came into your life and you will be fine now. Keeping yourself busy with things that make you happy, like coloring , going for walks whatever it is that makes you happy. Over time you will heal. Just gotta take it day by day

[Stern daddy]

Not only did cherish the relationship, no daddy leaves our type of relationship without scars and pain. Why he left we may never know but I am sure he still thinks of you and treasure you

[Guest Zephy]

Well, I don't know, those who suddenly break-up without any kind of explanation its quite hard to believe if the feelings were really mutual or if you were being toyed with.

Break-ups are tough, even I am going through one. In my case I ended it even though I still very much loved her, but I ended things because I realized she didn't fully love me and could love me and had forced myself to get away from it. I told her upfront about it and now I am not only still experiencing the after-effects, but also the reason why I had to break things off.

 

But alas, try to focus on other things, spoil yourself, or surround yourself with family and friends. Everyone heals differently and in their own time. It's going to feel scary and whatnot at first which is totally understandable which is why exactly we need to take as much time to heal and figure things out with ourselves. I wish you the best!

Edited September 16, 2016 by Zephy

[smutk]

i'm going through this as we speak; how have you been, do you feel you've recovered a little? what are some things you've tried to do to help yourself? i get too attached too, im not sure where it comes from or how/why.

i'm at the lowest low, i think i've ever been in. im really scared.

[Novakane]

I just listen to music really loud and work out. It's not helping my mind shut up, but at least I'm improving myself instead of sitting around eating a bunch of ice cream like I want. I guess, time heals all wounds. We'll be okay