Daddy needs advice

[Daddyredbeard]

Hello littles, I need some advice. So I discovered my little was sending dirty texts and pics to another man. I'm trying to think of a good punishment but I've never thought this would happen so I'm not prepared. Can you tell me what you would think are some good punishments? Thank you.

[annemarie]

in my opinion, that's a form of cheating. you honestly should think of ending the relationship :/ if she's willing to send dirty pictures and texts to someone else, she's probably willing to do more.

[Guest]

Well for right now I would sit her down and ask why she did it. Find out what the cause of it was. That's a big red flag and you guys need to communicate and find out what's going on. I am not sure of a punishment for such a thing but I'd have a big serious talk with her for sure.

[Guest ZenDD]

I'm not a little, so i hope you're not only asking littles for advice. If so, please pardon me.

 

Had you previously spoken to this little about being in an exclusive, monogamous relationship with her? Are you being monogamous? Were the two of you clear about boundaries before embarking on this relationship? If this is a casual relationship, and neither of you are exclusive, then i'm sure you'll think of some fitting punishment, but only if it was clear that this action was against the rules: no sub or little should ever be punished for doing something that was never specified as being off limits.  If this is indeed supposed to be a monogamous relationship, then I'd say without some major communication, reevaluation of what commitment means to both of you, and a slow rebuilding of accountability and trust, this relationship should pretty much be over.

 

I'm perplexed as to why you seem so laid back about this, as though she's been lying about tidying up or bedtime. But again, maybe you two have some sort of casual DDlg relationship? I hope that's the case and this isn't a big deal to you. To me, this would be a pretty devastating breach of trust and devotion, and ultimately, a deal breaker.

Edited September 16, 2016 by ZenDD

[littlelili]

wow, that is like a huge red sign for you. Unless you're in an open relationship.

[little*girl*rosi]

In my opinion you should definitly talk about it as two adults.

[miss honey]

yes, this sounds to me like a miss-communication of boundaries. better speak to your little asap about what you two expect from each other. i have had daddies before who find it exciting for me to flirt with other men, but only when it is shared with daddy and to expect 'punishment'. be clear about your expectation. as a general rule, i think most littles like to have their daddy's to themselves, i like my daddy all to myself, and would've only flirted with other men for my daddy's pleasure. communication is key.

[Guest Littlepup]

Was there a rule stating that she could not do this? 

If you never made it clear that she should not do that then you can't punish her for something that you never said was not allowed.

my daddy is very territorial he makes clear that no one else should see me naked and that i only belong to him and not allowed to post pics of me in sexy things.

but plenty of relationships are not so strict

some guys like it when their girl gets attention from other guys, and some just allow it because she insist on having that freedom as long as she doesn't touch them, and some people are in poly relationships.

 

if this truely was against the rules which she knew was wrong, then punish away

but if you made clear that you want a strict monogamous relationship and she agreed but then did this behind your back, then I'd consider this cheating  

[Guest cottoncandyheart]

in my opinion, that's a form of cheating. you honestly should think of ending the relationship :/ if she's willing to send dirty pictures and texts to someone else, she's probably willing to do more.

I second this! Forget punishment, that's an awful thing for her to do to you