Why We Need to be Single

[Ba4]

“Experience shouldn't be a collection. We shouldn't hold relationships like trophies. What we need to focus on is UNDERSTANDING and realistic expectation”

 

Yes!!

[Little Illy]

Bumping again for current trends

[Guest DarkLIttlePrince]

Excellent post. Seeing posts like this in this Forum is what makes me be certain I'm in serious, respectufull place. 

Thank you.

[Guest Looby-Lou]

Little llly you're so generous with the time & effort you put into your writing, to share your research/opinions/experiences with all of us! It's like you put into words stuff that I already knew and your words help me feel validated, or stuff that I kind of knew but hadn't fully conceptualised, and other times I'm coming across stuff that is like "wow, how come I never realised that before????!!!!"  So thank you again!

I know that even as a fully functioning, strong minded adult, I am still a vulnerable trusting eager-to-please person. And as a Little, those qualities are magnified 1000x and make me more vulnerable.  So thank you for reminding me to be careful.  About myself, and about others. I truly believe that the more we develop ourselves, the better we can interact with others in a healthy way, and the more healthy happy interactions in the world, the better the world is! 

[Little Illy]

I'ma just leave this heeeeeeeeeeeeere. Love yall

 

(Also thank everyone who has taken the time to read this!)

[Angel24]

I'm glad I read this:) I'll be honest, when I started out as a little I was a lot like how you described; I jumped into having a daddy right away and when I lost one daddy I would quickly move on to another. In hindsight now I see how emotionally draining it was for me and how it was time I would never get back. But at least going through that taught me to help any littles starting out to be careful of daddies taking advantage of new littles. We can only hope that newer littles will read this topic and be more aware of the need to take their time before jumping into this type of relationship:) well done!

[Guest Little Otter]

100% agree. Breakups are a good time to reflect. I try to take a lot of time to figure out why it failed, and learn from it before moving on. In fact, thats the reason I'm even here today!

[Little Illy]

 But at least going through that taught me to help any littles starting out to be careful of daddies taking advantage of new littles. We can only hope that newer littles will read this topic and be more aware of the need to take their time before jumping into this type of relationship:) well done!

 

That is basically where I stand - I kept seeing these littles being taken advantage by their CGs, AND CGs being taken advantage by littles. So *shrugs* I figured I'd say something. 

 

100% agree. Breakups are a good time to reflect. I try to take a lot of time to figure out why it failed, and learn from it before moving on. In fact, thats the reason I'm even here today!

 

I'm glad you are here, we are lucky to have you!!!! But you are 100% correct! Break ups, though extremely painful, can be a vital stepping stone to uncovering a major piece about yourself. Of course it isn't mandatory to go through a break up to figure You out, but break ups are like a hard slap to the face. They wake you up, so to speak. And with eyes open, you can do some great self-reflection.

[Daddy Dom France]

Thank you for your post.

To me before you're going to be a little or a daddy you should to be an adult first, you should to know who you're, why you need to be a little or a daddy.

Secondly if you're not happy being a single daddy or single little you're not going to be happy in a relationship.

Happiness first is to know and find who you're the second part of happiness is to admit and love the person you're, and then go all in.

Self-awarness is everything

[Guest ParanoidAsylum]

I'm so glad this was written, thank you so much!!

 

As someone who has done this in the past, bounced from one relationship's end to another's beginning, without really taking that time to really heal, I can easily admit I was quite selfish. Nearly three years single and with each day I continue to recognize what I want and need as an individual.

 

Again thank you very much for writing this.