Poly littles?

[DaddyDomSpanksHard]

Hello, I am not new to being a Daddy but I am new to finding out what its called and such. So I am still learning from the shared knowledge. That being said, I have been in several adult films with two women at a time in the past and its become a sexual need for me. I also have almost exclusivly always been in DDlg relationships my whole life. I am having a hard time reconciling the two. I have yet to find a little girl who is accepting of this. So much so, I am wondering if its built into the mindset of being a little. Just curious if anyone has any insights if they are not very compatible kinks or if I am just having bad luck finding the right little for me. And please nobody tell me to just do it secretly, that is not something I would ever consider doing to someone I am supposed to be caring for.

[Little Mouse]

I am poly myself and a little... Know how u feel... Its like being caught in the middle all the time... It takes time and trust but always be honest...

[Little_sub]

As a little I expect to be cared and cherished, as well pleased.

If i had a daddy who would like to see other people, he'd need to pay much attention on how treat me, so I won't feel neglected. 

i don't see myself in a fully dd/lg relationship sometimes, there's so many other things to sexually explore!

[Guest Prat]

You know cgl families are a thing, right?

[spaceprincess_]

I'm a poly little My Daddy and I have other partners (I'm married, and Daddy lives with his partner who is also my girlfriend) and we both see other people casually sometimes too. We've talked about it though and I wouldn't want him to have another little, just like he wouldn't want me to have another daddy or caregiver since that's a special thing we share. Most littles, even poly ones, won't want to share their daddy with another little, but there are always exceptions to the rule of course, you just have to keep unicorn hunting like any other poly couple looking for a third

 

My advice wouldn't be to find another little for yourself, but to look for a 'sister' for your current little. If they both have a strong relationship with each other then they're much more likely to be comfortable with sharing their daddy.

[Guest QueenJellybean]

As a polyamorous Little in a CGL-based family, the first thing I want to comment on is the fact that you say it's become a sexual need for you. I might be reading this incorrectly, but if you are presenting the idea of polyamory as a sexual need to your prospective Little when trying to explain why you'd like multiple relationships, you may be setting yourself up for disappointment. As some of the people have mentioned above, part of a DDLG relationship is trust and feeling secure. It's hard to feel that way if you are explaining your poly desires as a sexual need that has developed for you overtime. Maybe you aren't phrasing it that way to those you are pursuing, but that's the way it was presented to us, so I wanted to make sure you were aware of that.

 

Polyamorous Littles do exist, as you can pretty plainly see from the comments above. So do CGL family structures. I suggest that you decide what it is you want or like about being polyamorous, and make sure that it isn't just a sexual thing for you before you start trying to find ways to explain it to your significant others. Like the person above me mentioned, it's a lot easier to explain loving many people at once, and wanting to share that love with a brother or sister figure for your Little rather than trying to convince her that you just want to have sex with more than one woman at once. These are two really different things, and might make a person feel two very different ways. 

 

I just feel that the way you are wording your sentiment is not helping your cause. Referring to polyamory as a kink, suggesting that you need sex with more than one person, ect might not be the best way to go about trying to explain how you feel to someone you love. There's a lot of potential for hurt feelings here. 

[DaddyDomSpanksHard]

Thanks everyone for your feedback. It has helped.

 

BabyBelugaBelle - part of it is that I am open to sexual only or poly relationship. Either would satisfy me.

[Guest QueenJellybean]

Thanks everyone for your feedback. It has helped.

 

BabyBelugaBelle - part of it is that I am open to sexual only or poly relationship. Either would satisfy me.

 

Then say that instead of just saying you're poly. Because they aren't the same thing, and it changes the meaning of what you want. Seriously, it will help.

 

Just a suggestion. 

[Guest Littlepup]

after reading this and thinking about it, i want to say that maybe the reason you feel littles aren't compatible with you is because you are into sexual only relationships? well i think you'll scare away most littles this way just because a daddy is way more than a sexual interest to a little. a daddy is her everything, all the time, it's a very intimate relationship and isnt just sexual. 

so even though there are ageplayers and littles who are into sexual only relationships, i think most of us seek that very strong bond in our DD/lg relationship that is more than just sexual.

keep looking for what you want, just wanted to let you know how it feels from this perspective.