HOW TO GET OVER IT?

[Little_sub]

I know it's a very shocking way to start a new topic.

 

I'm in a very stable common/regular/not kinky at all relationship for 2 years now, my bf is a sweet, I love him with all my heart, even thought about moving on with him and start a life together. 

 

BUT I'M NOT SURE IF HE IS ABLE TO FULLY SATISFY ME

 

The last "relationship" (it lasted about 2/3 months) I had before him was a Dom/sub one, and I also had a foreign daddy simultaneously - we texted and FaceTimed always - (they knew about each other). They were my very first experience with this kind of sexual fetish, I cherish they very much because of it.

 

The fact is that I can't feel fully satisfy by my bf (whom is not as much as a sexual person as I am), and it makes me think very often about my ex-Master and ex-Daddy.

 

I fell horrible, because I love my bf, but I also feel terribly depressed for not being able to do what my body wants.

 

This willing, this very specific kind of desire, it changes you. I fell like negligecting a part of myself by denying it. 

 

But I also want to live with my bf and be able to set myself free from this pain.

 

What should I do?

[Guest QueenJaylen]

Talk to him thats the best thing you can do and tell him how ur feeling one of the biggest things is communication, communication is key

[Qwartney]

It's quite irresponsible to be with someone when they aren't satisfying you, if it's making you depressed.  I assume you've already discussed it with him and he's unwilling to make the effort to have sex with you in the specific manner you say you desire.  People are who they are, and all the waiting in the world isn't going to change him if he doesn't want to.  I suggest you move on to someone else who fills this "very specific kind of desire" you are after, rather than "feeling terribly depressed for not being able to do what my body wants."

 

Not everyone is going to need sex the way you do, then be depressed if they don't get it.  You should make an effort to make it EXTREMELY clear to your next partner that you get depressed from lack of specific sexual interactions, so you don't waste each others time.

[Guest QueenJellybean]

It's time to sit down and have a frank conversation with your partner.

 

Anyone who knows me knows that I say this a lot, but that's because it applies a lot:

 

"Yes, but have you communicated?" 

[Little_sub]

Thanks for all the replies, I knew i had to talk to him about it, just don't have the courage. I really love him and thought about spending my life with him, but not being able to be a little as I wish, kills me inside

 

Thanks again

Xx

[Guest Littlepup]

I was with a good boy who loved me and was going to marry me for 6 years before I finally had to end it because i just wasn't happy.....

i felt a lot of guilt because he was good, I didn't feel like i was allowed to leave someone who never did me wrong. but after such a long time it became painfully obvious that I would never feel completely happy with him.

 

I am with the person I love the most now, and I dont regret my past because I learned a lot, but it was a huge eye opener that I could find someone who was just as obsessed with me as I was with them and we are sexual compatible.

I never had full on sex with my ex, but from when we did play around, it was all very hard on me, we weren't compatible at all.

 

I think you need to really think about yourself for a while.. it sounds like you are struggling because you love your bf and don't want to hurt him.. (believe me I've been through this) but you can't forget about yourself. You deserve to be happy. It's really a disservice to the other person when you dont get to be your true self.

I hope you find the right thing to do and everything gets better.