Asking for my brother

[Littleharleyq]

Hi ppls! So I got his okay to aski guys but he and I were talking and he was saying how he is kinda getting interested in guys. His been watching gay porn and is curious about kissing a guy and what it be like to have sex with a guy but he is still on the fence of trying it and is still idk kinda scared of the idea of being judged and what not so I told him if he ever wanted to go out with me and we could explore and what not we could and yea. Idk I guess my question is how can I help him cuz ik when I had those feelings i had no one helping me so I just wanna be there and as helpful as I can so advice?

[BabyGirl32015]

I had simmilar feelings and I am still what you would call "on the fence" in a way. Being Pansexual is always being joked as "not being able to pick" and other such things, but what I have found in 'mentoring' other people who are either curiouse about teh gay/lesbian lifestyle is that there is little you can do to prepare yourself. Start by talking to people on the internet about your feelings if doing anything in person is too scary, I know it was for me. 

 

Eventually it really comes down to HOW much you want it. Curiosity is a good thing, but you know what they say, "Curiosity kills the cat" so be careful. Talk to other openly gay people in your local community and I'm sure they would be happy to show you teh ropes and maybe even set up your first date! Be safe and know that not ALL gay people believe in the "I just found out im gay" thing. Some people have their stories start from when they were VERY young and arn't super thrilled that people are becoming "bandwagon homosexuals". Talk to your brother, have him read some of the responses and see where he is comfortable. 

 

Do your own thing and don't let people judgement of you change who YOU feel you are. Being yourself is one of the hardest things to do in this world today and no matter how much it's preached at you that you can "be whatever you want to be" those same people are the ones judging your every move. Don't let them get you down and shine like your going to die tomorrow because YOU are special. 

[Guest blah911]

I'm not an expert on this by any means, but I would guess at gay bars, assuming he's old enough, it probably wouldn't be a big deal for him to kiss a guy and then if he wanted to explore if further I doubt anyone would catch getting a ride from a gay bar to the man's house except for people who wouldn't care.  That would be my best idea and if he's not old enough maybe a gay club?

[Littleharleyq]

Thanks all!! I'll talk to him more and see what he wants to do. The more he was talking the more he kept saying how his not sure if it's just a phase or just the fact he hasn't gotten any lately so idk. I told him there's no shame in trying.