Daddies and Littles.

[Antoinette]

I've saw a trend recently with little's who complain about not getting enough attention from their daddies or mommies or feeling sad about something they've done or just generally things along those lines. Only once have I ever seen a cg complain about feeling like he doesn't get a lot of positive attention or feeling as though his little doesn't have enough time for him.

 

It's led me to believe that maybe, littles (including myself) possibly don't realise that daddies/mommies sometimes need just as much attention as we do, and can be just as needy. I feel like it's something that isn't talked about nearly enough and something that daddies/mommies don't want to talk about in fear of feeling less big. It's seen as a little trait to be needy but I don't think it should be. I think littles should try just as hard as their daddies/mommies to make them feel happy and give them just as much attention too. 

 

I feel as though a lot of the time daddies/mommies being distant can be as a result of feeling upset from not getting enough attention from their little and their little doesn't even realise it. SO I though this would be a good place to just add some ideas on how we as littles can make our daddies/mommies feel more happy and wanted! :3

 

-Asking them how their day was.

 

Sometimes it goes a long way just to sit and listen to how the other persons day was, just to sit and talk about themselves for a moment can make the other person feel really wanted. 

 

-Baking them a special treat/making them dinner

 

Now I'm not saying become a housewife but I'm sure (if you don't work, or if you get off work earlier than your cg) it would make them feel really great to come home to something baked/cooked by their little prince/princess! Especially if it had it own personal touch to it (their name on baked goods, placing the food in a face... etc) 

 

-Taking interest in their hobbies

 

You know how caregivers always take interest in our stuffies even though deep down they probably doesn't care thaaat much, or how they always knows which Disney movie we wanna watch? How they always knows what games we wanna play. Learn all that about them too! Instead of stuffies you could learn about their favourite video game characters and talk as though they are real (sounds odd, but it happens!), what's their favourite movie? Put it on for them one night and get some popcorn ready for the two of you! Know their favourite video games and even if you suck play with them! Little things go a long way.

 

-Making sure you tell them how much they mean to you. 

 

Now I'm sure this is probably something none of us have an issue with, but maybe, we've had a busy day and it slips our minds to tell our caregiver that they're the best cg in the world or that we love them, or that we care for them and hope they're okay. Once again, little things go a long way.

 

-Their health.

 

Some caregivers don't have perfect health, even so much as being worried about them and making sure they take their meds or asking if they've eaten throughout the day will make them feel cared for. After all, if they don't take care of themselves how are they gonna take care of us?! 

 

-Making them things/gifts.

 

Now I know not everybody has the money to go out and buy expensive things and that's okay. Sometimes little, DIY projects are more personal and cute. You could draw them a picture, colour them a picture, write them a song, make them a bracelet, the list really is endless. Just make something that you think they'd like! 

 

 

I'm sure there's a plethora of ways that littles can make their cgs happy, many of which ways can be by just being themselves essentially. I just think it's important to keep in mind that daddies and mommies need a lot of attention too sometimes. 

 

[sweetlilone]

Great topic and very important to remember! You're soooooooo right that the little things matter and really make a difference.

[Spooky]

I love this!!! I think it is really important to thank our CG's for all of the wonderful things they do for us!

[Princess-P]

Thus is great. I think some littles forget that its important to care for their big just as much.

 

Another thing to do is make this life easier. Weather your a stay at home, working, or student you shouldn't heap loads of responsibility on your big. If they are so busy doing things for you they won't have the time they desire to do things WITH you.

[A Cuddly Dom]

 Great post! This is one of the things I really appreciate with my own little. Even though we both have a ton of stress and responsibilities, we find ways to support and care for one another. My little is always supportive, affectionate, and thinking of ways to help me unwind after work. She often asks about my eating and especially my sleep, making sure I'm taking care of myself. It really helps to cement our love, because I know she truly loves and cares for me just as much as I love and care for her. I really couldn't ask for more.

 

 We often have discussions about littles and their needs, but Caregivers have needs as well. Sometimes we just need an extra hug, a simple complement, or to be thanked. Sometimes, we get overloaded and just need a bit of space. This one is critical because many littles are very quick to assume they've done something wrong to warrant their Caregiver needing some time alone. It is up to the Caregiver to explain that everything is ok, but it falls to their little to respect the fact that sometimes, we just need a short break from things. Of course, just as in all other things, communication is the key. The same is true for Caregivers that sometimes experience Dom drop after an intense scene. This is another issue that is often overlooked, but I do see more posts on social media sites addressing it nowadays.

 

 As with any other kind of relationship, CG/l and D/s in general are dependent upon open, honest communication and a willingness to share responsibilities and give care and love to one another.

[Needy4neediness]

For me as a cg it is important to feel cared for and loved and little things do that just like getting a morning messege sometimes. I think getting attention and being cared for is always important no matter if its vanilla or not. Cgs need their littles neediness.

[princesschibi]

This is a great post! I love doing little things for my cg. And it does go a long way in making them feel care for and wanted. Which makes me happy and wanting to do more things

[Guest LicklePrincess]

fantastic post, nice to remind people that it isn't all me me me 

[Guest ZenDD]

While caring for a little is a labor of love, it does involve a lot of self-determination, focused emotion, and dedication. My little gives me lots of acknowledgement, but it's also nice to get it from the community as a whole. Thank you, littles! 

Edited September 10, 2016 by ZenDD

[HeCallsMePrincess]

it's important for both partners in all kinds of relationships to remember to show how much you appreciate the other person.

[Guest Juliette]

Great post! Gonna make my daddy an little surprise now

[howdy12]

This is awesome and very accurate. I don't want to share with my little when I'm upset because I know I can deal with it and don't want to cause her any undue stress or worry. 

[MySubsDom]

Thank you for this. I often feel needy and it never seemed right. It's nice to know I'm not the only one who feels like that. I don't get much private time with my baby girl and it drives me nuts. I made a rule about lots of cuddles as much for me as I did her.