I don't know if I want to be a daddy anymore. And if I don't how do I go about this.

[daddydone]

Me and my little are in love, like completely. We have been since before we decided we wanted this to be our relationship dynamic. I know my little prioritizes my comfort as I do for my little so I'm pretty sure that they'd want me to stop if I stopped being comfortable with it. I just don't know how I would go about asking this. I don't want to ruin the relationship and it's not like the basis for our relationship at all. But anyways, if I did want to stop and I decided that is what I wanted to do, how would I go about it? we're not like super 24/7 d/l. We don't live with each other. It's very subtle unless it comes to spanking which my little likes or sexual things but our d/l relationship isn't purely sexual it's just not very on display I suppose. Could I just sit my partner down and tell them I'm not feeling completely into it anymore or comfortable anymore and I think I want to stop. How would you recommend it? I know it's an emotional role so I don't know how to do it without hurting them and I just need advice. 

[Guest ZenDD]

You're right, Being a Daddy is an emotional role. I don't really know how important it is to either of you, as you seem to be saying that it is only a small portion of your relationship. It's hard to know if they feel the same way about that, or if you're trying to diminish the role it plays in your relationship in order to convince yourself that it shouldn't be too big of a deal to back out of it. But the truth is that if it isn't making you happy, if it isn't something you want to do, you shouldn't have to do it.

 

There is only one way to approach this issue with your partner: you need to talk to them. Be open-hearted, honest, and be clear. You haven't given reasons here as to why you don't want to do it anymore, and that's fine. But it wouldn't be fine in discussing it with them. Make sure you know the reasons why and that you express that compassionately. Also be clear about what you do want to offer, and what you want and expect out of the relationship.

 

You seem to already have all the information and answers you need, so maybe you're just looking for some moral support to step up and deal with it, as opposed to questioning how to actually do it. You can do this. It's the right thing to do. Putting it off isn't helping anyone. You know what needs to be done. Set a time where neither of you will be rushed or disturbed, take a deep breath, and talk about it. You can do it.

Edited September 10, 2016 by ZenDD