Middles, where are you? I'm one and want to learn from others, please.

[Guest Princessaj]

Hurray! I joined the forum a month ago and have been having a blast learning from everyone about everything DDlg. I want to thank all of you for being you, so kind, inviting, vibrant and flat out fabulous.

 

Now I want to go full immersion into middle space, but I need your help please. I have so many questions!

 

I know everyone is a different middle (IRL=In Real Life age doesn't matter), but hearing how you do your middle thing will be so helpful to me. BTW...I don't have a Daddy yet. 

 

Please answer what strikes your fancy. So, start your engines and middle away.

 

1. Besides the age play age range, what makes a middle different than a little?

 

2. What do middles wear, hair style, make-up....?

 

3. What do middles do in middle space?

 

4. What do middles do with their Daddies? If you don't have one, what would you like to do?

 

5.. What does your Daddy do for you, as a middle? If you don't have one, what do you want them to do?

 

6. What kind of rules are important to/for middles?

 

7. Other than this site/forum, have you found other middles elsewhere online, IRL?

 

8. Is there someone, celebrity/actress/singer - musician, role they play-ed...that is a great example of a middle?

 

9. What is the best way to talk about being a middle, other than talking about our IRL selves, when looking for a Daddy?

 

10. Any one with a mental illness, me being one, how does a middle talk about it to Daddies?

 

I hope that this will help other middles, middles that don't know they are middles, Daddies and anyone else that wants to know. It will be so great to meet all of you. Thanks.

[spaceprincess_]

Hi there! I'm new to the forum too but I've been with my Daddy for about a year and a half, and as we got started on our DD/lg adventures together it was clear I'm a bit more of a middle, though I do have little tendencies too ^^

 

1. Besides the age play age range, what makes a middle different than a little?

For me, I'm a middle because I enjoy things that are usually more preteen-teen as well as the regular little activities (though I do love colouring and pacis!). I think middles are usually a bit more independent (or at least we like to pretend we are, hehee) and can do things for ourselves, though I still make mistakes or need Daddy to help when it's all too much, or give me lots of praise for being such a big girl

 

2. What do middles wear, hair style, make-up....?

My favourite hairstyle is pigtails and bangs, and bows errywhere. Makeup is like my usual everyday makeup (filled in brows, flicked eyeliner, cute lipstick) though will usually be a bit lighter and with more pink/purple/glitter coz it's cuuute. I'm also much more excited by lipgloss when I'm in little/middlespace, especially things with nice scents/tastes and shimmer in them, and sparkly nail polish. As for clothes, I'm actually studying fashion design so I loooove designing/making things inspired by my DD/lg adventures! Lots of fairy kei/lolita/jfashion inspired things, pastels, white and black, glitter, short skirts, pinafores, peter pan collars, cardigans, thigh high socks, handbags/backpacks shaped like stuffies, butterfly hair clips, bows, the works. I think middles being more like tweens there's a bit more of an inclination to dress a little bit more teasy and flirty just like girls of that age do, especially if you're sexual with it like I am personally. In general I don't wear onesies or diapers or any of the things more associated with ABDL and I don't use bottles either, though I do like sippy cups, and I think that's usually fairly standard for middles though there are always exceptions to the rule

 

3. What do middles do in middle space?

As well as a lot of the usual little things like colouring, stuffies, Disney movies, crafts, snacks, cuddling cute animals etc, it's a mix of social/group things that I maybe missed out on doing when I was that age because I was an awkward lil loner (I'm in my late 20s now) as well as things which I did then too, like watching silly YA vampire movies/shows, doing quizzes online, reading fanfic, spending hours on Dolldevine, spending ages on my phone, that kind of thing. I reeeally love playing with other littles/middles, gossiping and giggling and playing dressups and shopping is so much fun, though if their little is very young I usually end up being like a big sister/big cousin which is cute and fun because I love taking care of my friends.

 

4. What do middles do with their Daddies? If you don't have one, what would you like to do?

 We're currently long distance as I live in a different state with my husband and he lives with our girlfriend, but we message every single day, usually a lot hahaa. We always have so much to talk about, and we skype nearly every week too. Daddy and our girlfriend were originally best friends with me and my husband and the relationship grew into more, so we have a really strong friendship as the foundation to our relationship. We have heaps in common and talk all the time about our various interests, he teaches me new things and I tell him all about what I'm doing at university. When we're together, as well as fun big girl playtimes hehee, we watch movies/tv together, do colouring, go on drives/adventures, go shopping or out to eat, go to cuddly animal farms, see friends, go to events, play games, all kinds of things.

 

5. What does your Daddy do for you, as a middle? If you don't have one, what do you want them to do?

My Daddy is amazing, eep ♥♥♥ First and foremost he provides stability and unconditional love to my life, which as a very ambitious and independent but easily overwhelmed person, is something I really need. He's 13 years older than me and has a lot of life experience so he always has good advice and a perspective which I value tremendously. If we're together he might pick out outfits (though I also like to surprise him sometimes too), or order for me at restaurants, he'll take me out for special treats if I'm good, help me jump over puddles or get down from whatever I've inevitably climbed up on hahaa, and he makes sure I hold his hand when we cross the street and do up my seatbelt. He also helps me stay on top of scary grownup things like doctors appointments and assignments.

 

6. What kind of rules are important to/for middles?

BEDTIME!! As a uni student who has ADHD and is constantly distracted by shiny things on the internet, I've been late to class a lot this term so now I have a bedtime so I don't stay up too late because sleep is important for little girls to grow up big and strong and do their best! Rules like remembering to be kind to myself and always tell Daddy if I'm feeling bad or worried is important too. If we're together IRL I also have to have good manners and not poke my tongue out and things like that, and if I don't I get spankies We've been pretty light on the rules so far as we've been starting out, but we're starting to add more as needed.

 

7. Other than this site/forum, have you found other middles elsewhere online, IRL?

All the ones I know I met IRL actually. One is my husband's girlfriend, one is an old friend, one is my brother-in-law's girlfriend, and one I met in line at a Melanie Martinez concert! XD I've always been the one to ask someone if they are a little, after observing very little-ish behaviour/interests, and I'm luckily in that so far my instincts haven't been wrong

 

8. Is there someone, celebrity/actress/singer - musician, role they play-ed...that is a great example of a middle?

Melanie Martinez is one of my favourite singers and is suuuch a little. Miwako Sakurada from the anime Paradise Kiss is a bit of a little as well I think in her attitude.

 

9. What is the best way to talk about being a middle, other than talking about our IRL selves, when looking for a Daddy?

My situation is a bit different since I never looked for my Daddy he just kinda happened, but I think just be upfront about it. A lot of littles are quite young in littlespace and a lot more dependent on their caregivers, and while I do like depending on Daddy I also like being a bit more independent and if you're the same communicating that with a potential caregiver is important. That's just part of finding a partner in general though, especially when there's a kink dynamic, is that you have to be really upfront and open about your needs and expectations. For instance, if I was talking to a potential caregiver and they were insistent on having a little that wears diapers then we probably couldn't have a relationship, since that's really not something I'm personally interested in.

 

10. Any one with a mental illness, me being one, how does a middle talk about it to Daddies?

As I mentioned I have ADHD and also a long term chronic pain injury, and it's something I talk about with Daddy a lot because it's an important part of who I am and impacts my life a lot. I'm lucky that my Daddy is also not neurotypical and has a lot of perspective and advice to give me on the slightly different way we perceive and experience the world. Again, that is just something that needs to be talked about and talked about early for any kind of succcessful relationship, not just a kink one. If a potential partner isn't respectful and understanding, then there's really no point in pursuing it further. Especially if you want a Daddy, you should be able to depend on him to love and understand and support you unconditionally.

 

This has been really fun, I hope it's helpful! :3

[Guest Princessaj]

Wow, OMG, brilliant, sparkly, glittering, fabulous, amazing, kind, gracious, giving, caring

 

Thank you so much for your enthusiastic, complete and detailed reply.

 

You have really touched me by your authentic answers. I have sent you a friend request.

 

Ok you middles, I know there are more of you out there. Pwetty Pweeze.

[spaceprincess_]

Awwww you cutiepatootie!!  

 

Happy to help with the middle visibility, there isn't a huge amount of posts/engagement for us. Maybe because it's even more nuanced and dependent on the individual than when you're specifically a little, I guess coz half of the point of being that tween/teen age is that you're suuuuch a special snowflake and so very definitely grown up, yup, definitely totally grown up 

 

The important thing I think though is that before you're a little or a middle or anything else is that you're a you! No one will ever be exactly like you, and you should enjoy whatever it is you like to do. Trial and error will be the best way to work out what makes you happy and enjoy your little/middlespace to the fullest. That's how I've been approaching it and so far the results have been good. Though ho'damn, try hanging out with another little or middle irl and go on adventures, almost nothing gets me into it more than having half squealed/half whispered gossip/world domination hangs with other littles!

[Little_Ori]

I'm also new so this has been sooo helpful! Thanks for the post and the answers!