Rules (Or Guidelines) For Daddys

[Angel(Daddy)]

What are the rules or guidelines you've set for your daddy's?

[IchigoHime]

Daddy doesn't really have any rules, except to be respectful of me and my family and to always take both of our well-being into consideration for everything.

[Guest Princessaj]

I really want this thread to light up! Rather, Enlighten me please.

[LoralieHaze]

For me personally, I don't like the idea of Daddies having rules. I said this to mine just yesterday: "You're my Daddy, and as such, you're a responsible adult who knows what to do. I'm just a little girl, who is irresponsible, forgetful, and often lazy, so I need you to tell me what to do and keep me on track." (I'm an adult too, I was just being facetious.) OFC I want him to get enough sleep every night but he can handle that on his own and I don't feel it's my place as his little girl to tell him when to go to bed. The only guidelines I have for him are the same guidelines I have for myself in all my communication, and that is "always be honest". If something is bothering him, he should tell me. If I'm doing/saying something he doesn't like/agree with, he should tell me. I made it clear from the beginning that I prefer hard truths over comforting lies. 

 

One caveat to the above is that my Daddy is older than me and has his life so much more together than I do. If someone's caregiver is the same age as them, or younger, the chances of this are less likely. However...

 

I also don't like the idea just on principle because it seems to go against the point of having rules in a Cgl/DDlg relationship dynamic. I'll rephrase what I said here in this topic: Part of the purpose of having rules is so that the Dominant(caregiver), can exert a certain amount of power over their submissive(little), while the submissive can receive a certain amount of satisfaction from obeying their Dominant. The other purpose of having rules is to show how much the caregiver wants what's best for the little, ie going to bed at a certain time so they get enough rest, drinking enough water so they don't get dehydrated.

 

I completely understand a little wanting what's best for their caregiver, because I feel that way too, but a caregiver needs to be able to care for themselves before they can care for anyone else. It's almost inevitable that they will put their littles' needs before their own but self-care needs to still be high on their priority list, if not for their own sake, then at least for the sake of their little.

 

TLDR: I don't want to give rules to my Daddy but this is only my opinion. If two people (or more, in the case of poly) are in a relationship and mutually agree that they both want rules, they're more than welcome to have them. Rules for caregivers are not a requirement though, and neither are rules for littles. It really all depends on personal preference.

[Guest sirslittlecupcake]

I only have a few like be respectful of me I may be your little but doesn't mean you can be a dick to me no hitting or talking like curses to me. NO means NO even if it in play and I don't use my safe word. Also just to check up on me to make sure I'm doing ok

[Angel(Daddy)]

For me personally, I don't like the idea of Daddies having rules. I said this to mine just yesterday: "You're my Daddy, and as such, you're a responsible adult who knows what to do. I'm just a little girl, who is irresponsible, forgetful, and often lazy, so I need you to tell me what to do and keep me on track." (I'm an adult too, I was just being facetious.) OFC I want him to get enough sleep every night but he can handle that on his own and I don't feel it's my place as his little girl to tell him when to go to bed. The only guidelines I have for him are the same guidelines I have for myself in all my communication, and that is "always be honest". If something is bothering him, he should tell me. If I'm doing/saying something he doesn't like/agree with, he should tell me. I made it clear from the beginning that I prefer hard truths over comforting lies. 

 

One caveat to the above is that my Daddy is older than me and has his life so much more together than I do. If someone's caregiver is the same age as them, or younger, the chances of this are less likely. However...

 

I also don't like the idea just on principle because it seems to go against the point of having rules in a Cgl/DDlg relationship dynamic. I'll rephrase what I said here in this topic: Part of the purpose of having rules is so that the Dominant(caregiver), can exert a certain amount of power over their submissive(little), while the submissive can receive a certain amount of satisfaction from obeying their Dominant. The other purpose of having rules is to show how much the caregiver wants what's best for the little, ie going to bed at a certain time so they get enough rest, drinking enough water so they don't get dehydrated.

 

I completely understand a little wanting what's best for their caregiver, because I feel that way too, but a caregiver needs to be able to care for themselves before they can care for anyone else. It's almost inevitable that they will put their littles' needs before their own but self-care needs to still be high on their priority list, if not for their own sake, then at least for the sake of their little.

 

TLDR: I don't want to give rules to my Daddy but this is only my opinion. If two people (or more, in the case of poly) are in a relationship and mutually agree that they both want rules, they're more than welcome to have them. Rules for caregivers are not a requirement though, and neither are rules for littles. It really all depends on personal preference.

And this is how I feel also! But I know that some don't feel the same way, my little has tried to give me rules and I told her that's not how it works. So I am trying to get a consensus on if I should have rules or not. I told her that I'm an responsible adult and will respect her without being asked or told.

[Kitten(Little)]

And this is how I feel also! But I know that some don't feel the same way, my little has tried to give me rules and I told her that's not how it works. So I am trying to get a consensus on if I should have rules or not. I told her that I'm an responsible adult and will respect her without being asked or told.

 

But I don't want respect, that's not a rule I wanted to give you. Just that you have to hug me every time you see meeeeee

Edited September 10, 2016 by Kitten(Little)

[phoenixpixie]

I don't set rules for my Daddy; he sets rules for me.

 

He has instructed me to add a section of Daddy's Responsibilities to our Agreement (My Rule's page), but it was an activity geared toward me realizing all the stuff Daddy does for me after I had gotten bratty. Daddy's Responsibilities range from stuff like thinking up punishments when I'm bad or taking the time to pick out my clothes, to never being abusive, to making the decisions even I don't like them, to picking out movies for me and making up bedtime stories. They aren't rules; they're just things Daddy does for me to make me happy and take good care of me. Writing them out on the Agreement wasn't to tell Daddy what to do-- it was to remind me of all the things he does for me so that I'm reminded that Daddy loves me very much and that following his rules is how I can show him that I love him too.

[Guest Littlepup]

Daddy doesn't have rules

 

he already acts perfectly

 

if a little thinks her daddy isn't doing the right thing, just have a talk about you're feelings and let daddy know that you need him.. 

but you can't force someone to be a certain way, not even if they are your SO, you dont want to be controlling, so sometimes two people just aren't compatible and you shouldn't try to force someone to be compatible with you. you can communicate your needs but the actions should be more than less natural