What should I do?

[Princess_Mica_18]

I'm kind of stuck in what I should do, my daddy/boyfriend and I have been split up for a month however according to Facebook we are still together (neither of us have changed it, I'm waiting to see what he does first). Half of me wants to try and move on and find a new caregiver because I feel like I really NEED help to get back in littlespace but the other half of me would feel guilty if I did and I want things to work between us despite him ignoring any calls or texts and not talking to me for a month after our split.

 

He was my first ever daddy (though he wasn't the one who made me realise my little side; that was my vanilla first ever boyfriend) and officially (if we were still together) we would have been together for two months, unofficially around 5 months so naturally I am going go still have strong feelings for him.

 

We split because of long distance and I don't know if the reason he doesn't want to be with me is because he's worried about that distance? :/

 

What do you guys think? Should I keep hoping and trying for things to work or is it a lost cause? :/

[Needy4neediness]

You could send him one last messege telling him how you feel and maybe set a deadline until when you still want to talk about your relationship with him. If he reads it but doesnt reply to you in the time you set its officialy over. I wish you the best for finding your ideal solution for your problem.

[Princess-P]

It sounds as though he's made up his mind. He's ignoring you completely for a month. While its really shitty to not give someone closure when you end a relationship that is a reality for a lot of people.

 

I think it's time you work on moving on. You can be sad about it for a while but I really wouldn't put any more effort into him. Clearly your not on his mind at all and he hasn't given a second thought about your break up.

 

Something about the Facebook status is odd. You say its long distance, does that mean completely? Have you ever met? Is it possible that his status hasn't changed because maybe he has someone new? Whatever his reason for not changing it it seems pretty clear from him ignoring you that he's not interested any more. And honestly even if he turned around today and said he'd take you back do you want someone who has such little care for your feelings?

[Trash Queen]

If someone wants to be with you, they will try. Stringing you along is not wanting you, it's wanting a safety net.

 

 

Don't wait around for anyone. It's hard and it sucks and it hurts, but we all deserve someone who doesnt play games.

[Princess_Mica_18]

We met after two and a half months of meeting but I guess the relationship was a little fast, I met his mum after two weeks and then went camping with him and his friends. We split up a couple days after being together in person for a month :/

 

I don't know what to do with the Facebook thing either

[WarDaddy]

I'll just repeat what others said. I think he wants to end your relationship but he has no guts to tell you that, so he expects you to make a first move. If you still have a slightest wish to save your relationship, send him a message and ask him straightforward is he still interested or not. He should at least answer you that. And don;t pay attention on Facebook or other social network statuses, it can be really annoying and misleading.

 

Hope this helps and that you'll resolve your situation soon.

[Princess-P]

I don't think there's any questions about if they broke up. She actually says they broke up a month ago but that she just still has feelings for him.

 

While its easy to say he's an ass or that he's stringing her along that doesn't seem to be the case. Both parties are aware of the break up but maybe didn't have enough closure.

 

I say try going through the stages of a break up however you usually do and let yourself move on. This relationship was over a month ago and should stay that way as he's ignoring you. Distract yourself with friends and the things you love to do.

[Antoinette]

I don't think it's right to seek out a relationship when you're clearly not over this person. It's not right to yourself or for the other person, rebounds aren't fair to anybody. He hasn't given you much closure clearly and I know how much this must hurt but the fact of the matter is you need to find a way to move on with your life. Not a way to get into a new relationship for the wrong reasons (making him jealous, little space, loneliness) you need to keep yourself busy and happy and eventually he'll either regret not being with you and you'll thank not being his. Everything happens for a reason, this is an opportunity for you to patch yourself up and learn from whatever mistakes were made and start anew. It hurts, it will hurt but it will also be worth it. ALLOW YOURSELF TO HEAL. All good things come to those who wait, well, not all... but a lot. So wait this one out, be strong.

Edited September 9, 2016 by xAntoinette

[Princess_Mica_18]

Do you think there could ever be a chance it works? ._.

[Princess-P]

Sorry but no. If he ever did decide to stop ignoring you then it would most likely be out of pure bordom. That's not how relationships work.

 

Its clear that its over, you have said so yourself that you broke up. Don't waste tour time chasing someone who doesn't want you.

 

Your young, enjoy being single. Learn to love yourself more, so you don't feel that you need him so much. You don't have to look back at the relationship as bad. I mean if you still desire to be with him them you must have good memories. Its ok to be sad when something ends but holding onto the past will do you no good. Be happy with what you had, but move on.

[littlelili]

Sometimes giving an opinion is difficult. But my advice from the is to talk with him. If he is ignoring you, write him about your feelings. This is a young relationship, if he means to stay and to care for you he will be there. If not, you are ready to go. It will be difficult but keep going! That will be the first step to something new.

Good luck!