Looking for little's ADVICE...

[Shibumi]

I'm new to the DDlg world, and still amazed and excited that there are others who share my feelings and desires.

 

I am interested in any comments and suggestions littles have to a personal I am posting on a general interest site. I don't want to make any beginners mistakes and I tend to be blunt and direct...maybe too much so...

 

Thanks in advance!

 

 Daddy Seeking Daughter 

 

 

If you're not familiar with DDlg, either take the time to educate yourself or ask intelligent questions before offering up your opinions on the matter.

I am looking for someone who is interested in a full time/long term "immersive" relationship...in other words, not part time while we each work in separate careers. I have the financial strength to support us both, and I have a business because I think a man should. You will be very well cared for, both emotionally and physically, but this is NOT a SD/SB situation. I do travel a lot, both internationally and domestically, and would want you to come with me as much as possible. Don't worry if you are afraid of flying...I will hold your hand lol...

My primary desire is to offer the emotional strength I have to make you feel safe and secure...and help you to grow into your full potential. I offer my love and expect your respect.

Feel free to ask any questions you might have.

[Princess-P]

There's nothing wrong with stating exactly what you want. If this is it then go for it. Post exactly what you have. There is no reason to settle.

 

My only advice is to be aware. There are many many MANY littles who will abuse this type of relationship. The idea of not working and being taken care of and flying places that they normally would never have the means to go is more appealing then the actual relationship and feelings.

 

If it were me I would leave that part out but if you feel you are able to see through master manipulators and fakes then leave it as is. People can lay it on real thick to get the end means they desire and playing with your feelings will mean nothing.

[Shibumi]

H i Princess,

 

Thanks for your comment(s)...I thought about that a lot, but in reality it is an essential part of the dynamic. My paternal instincts are very strong and I am protective by nature, I would want my little with me wherever I go...and have the means to make that a reality. Because I have my own business, I have also seen those with nefarious intentions come and go, (and was tripped once as well...experience is a painful teacher). I also think it would be hard to pretend since the dynamic doesn't follow an exact format. The frauds would have trouble being authentic. 

 

Another aspect is that a little might read that and think she isn't able to live up to Daddy's expectations...doesn't know how to behave at a 3 star Michelin restaurant (for example) or know what to say when she meets Daddy's business partners...and, of course, these are all things I want to teach her. 

[Princess-P]

There are many believable users and fakes out there but as I said if you believe you can read all that and trust your judgement then keep the add as is. It is very important to make it clear what you expect rather then pussyfoot around the subject.

 

I hadn't thought about the little feeling they can't meet expectations, but that's a valid point. Quite a lot of littles suffer with anxiety and social disorders and it sounds as though that might not work for the type of dynamic you want and the life style you live. Not that I think your discriminating but that may be a real problem for some littles who just can't work through it.

 

It sounds like you have a clear idea of what you want your particular relationship to be like and the kind of little your looking for. Best of luck and hope you take the time to find the best partner for you.

[Guest]

Personally I would not say daddy looking for a daughter. That just bring up the whole incest thing (which is against the rules here. ) I would change it to daddy looking for : little / kitten / baby girl / princess ect... Seeing daughter just kind of grossed me out and I am sure a lot of others feel the same.

 

As far as wanting to support someone and have them financial depending on you maybe cool for some people but not everyone. I think you have a very clear idea of what you want ,which is cool. But be careful of when you get a little you don't build it up in your head so much. Every little (and daddy ) is different and everyone will make mistakes. Just take things slowly and get to know someone before offering such a serious life choose I guess would be my best advice .

Edited September 8, 2016 by Kitteny kitten

[Shibumi]

Thanks Kitten and Princess for your insightful comments.

 

I agree re the Daughter name...I hadn't thought that through and understand the implications and agree it is inappropriate. My apologies if I offended anyone.

 

As far as other choices, I had considered them but I want to avoid some of the connotations that go along with them...this is very real to me and has been my whole life...I just didn't realize it until a few days ago  To me, the Daddy Daughter relationship most closely defines the love and respect aspects I seek, not incest...which is a violation of that love.

 

The financial thing is the most difficult to elucidate. Money has not been an issue for me (at least since college lol) and it represents the opposite of CONTROL...that is FREEDOM. I don't need to work anymore and have already gone through whatever thrills money can buy. Having financial freedom means i can do what I want and answer to no one.   I want my little to experience the same freedom, but within the framework of love and care. I know this sounds a bit contradictory, but I guess life isn't always clearly defined. If my little wanted to go to school or even work, it would be fine, but she would have that OPTION of not having to do those things.

 

Again, I appreciate all the constructive support I have received. I will take another attempt at the ad and report here...please let me know what all of you think

[Guest Princessaj]

Hi Shibumi,

 

Good on you. My motto is "If you don't ask for what you want, you won't get it."

 

I am new to the DDlg Lifestyle, a middle, new to the forum and have a background in Branding, Advertising, PR,

Marketing and Digital.

 

I have written specific notes to you below about the draft you shared in your query.

Also, I included a post/link you might be interested in regarding writing a successful personal ad.

 

1. You wrote this in your "Dom" voice. Better to use your "Daddy Dom talking to his little" voice.

Really give them a first hand virtual experience of who is going to be their prospective Daddy. Go into Daddy

space and write to them, tell them a story incorporating the specifics that you desire. This heightens the esthetic

of the little experiencing you.

 

2. Your headline.

This is the sizzle and the meat/meeting of minds. Use "little" bait. Say what you want with language that they use.

"Strong Caring Daddy Seeks Precious little of a Lifetime"

 

3. Asking for your little to have a DDlg education.

I would remove the first line. Instead, incorporate your reason into asking for a little with a certain number of years experience, kind of experience...talk to what you are specifically asking for instead of a bull horn blast that will send

the little's running.

 

4. Make the body of the ad a love story to your little.

Now is the time I recommend taking a wander through the master post I wrote.

 

How to write a Daddy Dom looking for a little/middle personal ad.

A strategy to optimize your personal ad for the most productive results.

 

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/11936-how-to-write-a-daddy-dom-looking-for-a-littlemiddle-personal-ad/

 

Please feel free to contact me with any comments or questions. I wish you all the "little" luck in the world.

[Michael]

I think you should talk more about yourself, what are your hobbies, your personality traits, etc. You claim to have "financial freedom", but in my opinion, true financial freedom is when you reach a stage where you don't let money define who you are. It comes across to me that you care a lot about being seen to be "rich" and expressing your love in the form of having someone financially dependent on you.

 

Another aspect is that a little might read that and think she isn't able to live up to Daddy's expectations...doesn't know how to behave at a 3 star Michelin restaurant (for example) or know what to say when she meets Daddy's business partners...and, of course, these are all things I want to teach her. 

 

No little is going to read your personal and immediately start worrying about not knowing how to behave at a 3 star Michelin restaurant. They're much more likely to worry about things about you, like if you two are personality compatible, or if you are someone she could see herself being with. 

[Guest MissNMTX]

Given the points others have already made I think the biggest improvement would be to talk more about yourself if you can. for me personally, this is hard, but I do know what I'm attracted too and if I saw it...Like the travel, I love to travel, my curiosity would be piqued.

 

This might help you avoid those with no interest in a relationship.

[Shibumi]

Thanks to you all, SG, Michael and Miss...

 

I appreciate your feedback...in particular the idea of adding more of my background and more specificity in what I am seeking.

 

The financial aspect has come up more than once...as Michael pointed out, financial freedom means freedom from worry or want. In my mind, providing a safe and secure future is THE essential Daddy Duty...but one I would prefer to have in the background. Actually, I think a Princess should never have to even think about money...her needs should be anticipated and met as a matter of course. Even more important for a little.

 

I'm going to mull this all over and give it another try. If any of you have any ideas conveying financial security without appearing pompous,   I would appreciate it.

 

Cheers, and thanks too for the wonderful resource this website provides...