ddlg destructive potental

[Lil' Miss Dolly]

Lol for the record, I had to scroll up to see if LittleBree wrote this. She's our resident deep thinker!

 

I honestly cannot add anything meaningful to this as anythimg I would have said has been said already!

 

Kudos for Free Thinking!

[Guest softheartbruisedknees]

I definitely agree with OP. My belief is that people need time to grow out of childhood (even teenage years) and get a handle on independence and adult life before diving into kink (especially DDlg). 

 

DDlg can absolutely emotionally stunt a person if they are looking for an enabler, complete provider, and "protector" from growing up and adjusting to adulthood. 

 

The reason I don't encourage "underage littles" is because a certain level of maturity and life experience needs to be reached before DDlg can be as beneficial as it should. Not to mention the extra vulnerability to predators. 

[meligirl]

I agree, but its not relegated only to DD/lg relationships. Any relationship with a D/s dynamic has the same potential to be detrimental to both parties. You have dominant persons who use their position to excuse abuse under the guise of BDSM. You have codependent persons who use both sides as a means to not be alone. Its not just a DD/lg issue, though I can definitely see how it could be easier to regress away from adulting in this dynamic. Part of the reason I ADORE this lifestyle is because I can just NOT adult while i'm in my baby girl headspace. I don't have to be in charge of anything, I don't have to control anything, etc. But I am far too stubborn of a woman to stay there too long. I find that if I stay too long in either headspace, I start needing the other. 

 

However, having said all this... just because you claim something is a "fact" does not make it so. If you cannot back it up with peer-reviewed scientific research, than it is opinion. Even then, when it comes to behavior, there is RARELY anything that can be labeled as a "fact" because there are far too many personality anomalies that affect the choices of each individual. This is part of why Psychology is still fighting to be seen as a full-fledged science (Yes, I am a psychology major).

 

Just my 2 cents. Can I go color now?

[Little Illy]

@Lil'MissDolly - I hadnt realized I was the resident deep thinker XD 

 

But I am loving this thread and the discussions within!

[poppi]

I would like to add that the role of a daddy is to guide and train, which to me should be supportive of your little in the big word. Face it, there are very few households out there with only one breadwinner. Littles should be encouraged to work and put their big boy or girl panties on and get out there and get an education or job training and share in the responsibility of having a home. The underlying foundation for this lifestyle should be s two way street one where you are there for each other in every way. Physically, emotionally, sexually even including financially and all that entails.

[Guest Ginger Step]

I have to agree. Seeing many 18-25 year olds,that should be finishing their milenating mastering adult risk and opportunities in these years. Seeking a DDlg after venturing and walking in the adult world brings the experience wholely beneficial to partners in the Dynamic. Hard to see a early 20 something as a Daddy and 18 something as more than is refusing to grow up. A well rounded life experience will give a better grasp of the lifestyle or dynamic.