Drunk Daddy... (TW)

[Antoinette]

I don't know where this topic would go. I feel really, really, really shitty right now. It's my daddy's birthday and we're a LDR so at the start of the day I was elated, I made him a bunch of digital gifts and just sent out some of the physical ones and I was probably the happiest I'd been in a long time.

 

He told me way in advance that he was going to have a birthday party with his family, which obviously I was excited for him. He's turned 21 so I suppose it's not really a surprise that he's getting drunk with his family. I've had problems with alcohol in the past stemmed from alcoholism in the family and whatnot so I feel uncomfortable even texting a drunk person. He said to me that he didn't want to drink and his family was kind of 'making him' but honestly I don't mind him drinking I just want to know if it's even possible for me to stop feeling so anxious about it. I feel really... I don't think there's a word to describe it, I'm happy that it's his birthday but I'm so afraid and I don't know what I'm afraid of. 

 

I don't want people thinking I have a problem with him drinking, I don't. He's his own person and he can do as he likes and I fully respect his decision to drink alcohol if he so chooses, I don't want to ban him from it or anything like that. I guess I just don't fully understand why I feel so afraid, other than my past with alcohol... I don't know I kinda just wanted to get how I felt out.

 

I don't really know what I'm asking here other than does anyone else have feelings like this when their daddy drinks? Am I a complete nutjob (yes, probably)? I should probably just calm down.

[~Lost_Little_Searching~]

I'm really sorry you're going through this.. while I don't have any advice.. I do understand where you're coming from.. though my dad didn't have any problems with alcohol..I still felt extremely anxious when he drank..so i know how you feel *hugs* i hope this gets better for you.

[Guest]

As of right now, I am so so so sorry you feel "uncomfortable" (as you said you are not too sure what you are feeling ). But it's understandable. I know it must be really hard feeling like this and wanting your daddy but he is drinking:(

 

The best advice I can give to you is take a wonderful bubble bath , put on your favorite movie and cuddle with your stuffies with a yummy snanks till bed time.

 

Let your daddy have his night and you have yours and tomorrow talk it out and it'll be okay. I am sure once you talk to your daddy when he is sober he will reassure you and you'll feel much better.

 

It'll be okay <3

Edited September 4, 2016 by Kitteny kitten

[Antoinette]

I'm really sorry you're going through this.. while I don't have any advice.. I do understand where you're coming from.. though my dad didn't have any problems with alcohol..I still felt extremely anxious when he drank..so i know how you feel *hugs* i hope this gets better for you.

 

 

As of right now, I am so so so sorry you feel "uncomfortable" (as you said you are not too sure what you are feeling ). But it's understandable. I know it must be really hard feeling like this and wanting your daddy but he is drinking:(

 

The best advice I can give to you is take a wonderful bubble bath have, put on your favorite movie and cuddle with your stuffies with a yummy snanks till bed time.

 

Let your daddy have his night and you have yours and tomorrow talk it out and it'll be okay. I am sure once you talk to your daddy when he is sober he will reassure you and you'll feel much better.

 

It'll be okay <3

;-; Thank you so much to both of you. Just getting this off my chest helped enormously and knowing that I'm not completely insane is good. I'll definitely take your advice and just try to relax though. 

[BabyGirl32015]

Edited September 4, 2016 by BabyGirl32015

[Guest Littlepup]

i'm sorry *gives you a hug* I cant say i know how to help because i also have terrible emotional stress about people close to me drinking.. my real father is an alcoholic and I definitely dont know how to handle the emotions that come up if my special person is drinking alcohol. i tried really hard in the past to accept that it is ok for others to partake in alcohol and i tried to be very logical about it but it doesn't change the feeling i get... 

i am really lucky and thankful that my Daddy doesn't drink or do drugs (he also has had bad experience like me but with his little sister struggles with drug addiction) 

 

im sorry i can't help ;n;

i just want you to know that i know how you feel and give you a hug and maybe later you'll tell your daddy in a letter how it scares you when he's drunk not because he is scary but because you are sensitive to the situation and maybe he will have an idea of how to make you feel better

[Papasprincettejynx]

[Guest MissNMTX]

Oh sweetheart! I'm so sorry you went through so much turmoil. What you experienced is quite normal, Often when you grow up around alcoholism you become....I'm going to say skiddish around it yourself. I used to be very much like this, never drinking myself and always looking out for my friends when they did. I was such a mother hen, just my nurturing nature I guess. Finally, in college one of my friends asked me why I never drank. I explained it too him, said it was genetics, that I was scared of a "repeat performance" in my family. He had known each other a very short time at that point, but he gave me the best advice and did the best thing ever for me that night, he looked me straight in the eye and said "you're not them."

 

Its so true, everyone is wired differently, there's nothing in what you wrote to say your daddy does or would have a problem with alcohol. The same is true of you. He was with his family...safe.  I've heard much much worse 21st birthday stories. Trust him and yourself! *hugs*

[MilkyUsagi]

I don't get drunk but sometimes my bf does with his friends (luckly they are concious they can't drive) but it's ok lucky I know it's rare that he gets drunk ;w; it's quite normal for boys I guess They chill out about it, it's ok if you do sometimes but not always ;w; don't worry he'll be ok!

[HeCallsMePrincess]

I think the issue is he's a caregiver and it's scary to think he wouldn't be capable of giving care if it was needed. On nights when he drinks you'll have to be a big girl and distract yourself for the night. My Daddy and I both drink but he stops after a couple if I'm drinking and vice versa. Sometimes CGs need a night off, I think. To recharge themselves.

[Dumbledork'sPrincess]

My Daddy had a problem with it a long time before I met him. He rarely rarely drinks now, much ot still makes me sad/nervous. I know addiction can be a slippery slope, even if you think you've beaten it.

I just care for him so much and want him to stay safe!

[littlecub]

Just because you are nervous about alcohol, doesn't less of a person btw. I thought for a looonngg time that just because I was terrified when Daddy went out for drinks with his mates, that I abnormal. Also, if someone is reading this and feels like this applies to them even though they haven't had the awful experiences with alcohol, it can still be awful. 

I hate when my daddy goes out for drinks because even though I know he will have a nice time, he will get drunk. And I can't control him, he scares me, especially if I'm in little space.

The best thing is to talk to your daddy and work it out between you too!