HELP! I'm scared my neighbours hear too much!! :(

[pizza-princess]

Hi everybody!

 

I'm hoping that I'll hear from other littles that have had the same issue/insecurity and hopefully get some advice so I can feel better about my situation...

 

So. This is something that has been bothering me for a long time, maybe about 7 months now. It is something that I worry about daily and the severity changes.. I live in an old apartment building that is made out of concrete and is apparently very noise proof. But, the problem is, when I walk up to my apartment, I can hear every little thing coming out from people's doors. TV, music, even the sound of cutlery against plates. And when people are talking at a medium-ish level. 

 

So, naturally, I get extremely insecure when I think about the things other people have heard coming out from my door. My boyfriend/Daddy and I have sex a lot when he's home and I am almost always very vocal and loud with my noises. But I mean, everyone has sex, right? That's not out of the ordinary.. What I'm scared people hear is the content of our words and our lifestyle in general. While it's one of my favourite things to do, I find myself unable to fully express my little side at a decent volume level. And I am nervous to hear Daddy speaking to me either in a loving way or an assertive way because I am scared and embarrassed about what people may think if they hear what goes on with us as they pass by our door.

 

I've always been fairly self-conscious when it comes to other people's opinions of me and I know that it's a terrible way to go about life, but it just kills me to think that other people may hear my voice, or daddy's voice and what we say to one another and laugh and tell other people about. I don't want to be a story that someone tells their friends and gets a response like, "holy shit man thats so fucked up!". The image of someone mocking me and laughing about what I do or how I talk and live makes me want to... I don't know. It just embarrasses me and makes me very antisocial and scared to face people in the hallway. 

 

I've been trying to get myself to think that other people's opinions of me don't matter and deep down I do believe that but it's just the real world stuff that gets to me. Does anyone have experience with something like this?

[Trash Queen]

I mean to be honest people probably just giggle when they hear someone having sex. Unless your neighbors are super conservative, they probably don't really think negatively. Just more funny to hear someone having sex.

 

I'm not sure what to tell you. Options are be quieter (sound proofing doors as well), move, live with it. There isn't really a magic solution.

 

Maybe have sex on the floor or on the couch so there is less bed movement. Stuff a sock in your mouth or whatever you all enjoy. Do whatever to quiet the noise.

[DollDirector]

Sorry I can think of no ready-made solution,just wanted to acknowledge the situation,say that your concern is very understandable,and respectfully contradict a bit,what Red Riding Hood says: Yes,most people would just giggle,some would up the level of their music,but unfortunately you can find the odd one who is going to actually listen and even creep close to your door. It happens.

[Guest TwinklingSpace]

I want to reiterate what DollDirector said. This is a very valid anxiety to have. It's okay that you feel this way, and I'm so happy to hear that you're trying to work through it. That's awesome!

 

You said noise comes from under the door?

 

Is there a way to put something there to block it? Maybe a towel or a blanket. Maybe go to the craft or hard way store and see if there's something you can find. Maybe a foam that can outline the door?

 

Also, maybe put on music or the TV. Maybe that would make you feel better? Trick your mind into thinking the people in the hall will hear the noise and not you.

 

Or, if there is someone you trust or feel safe with. Ask them. Ask if you can hear in the hall. That might help with some of the anxiety.

[PrincessClara]

The only thing I can say is....just don't worry about the other people. They aren't family or friends they are not important. If they were really concerned then they would knock and check on you. Everyone has sex, everyone has sex in their own unique way. I thnk you are focused too much on the outside world, just focus on you and your Daddy and having a good time with him while he's home. The neighbors probably don't even pay attention becuase they are use to the random noises of the apartment complex.

 

I know you said you struggle with other peoples opinions of you, but you really need to let that go. I use to do the same thing. I still do sometimes, but when I catch myself I always stop to think WHY I care what the store clerk thinks or WHY does it matter if the movie ticket man looked at me funny. They don't matter in my life. Their opinons, don't matter. A lot of the time when I think the odd look is directed at me, it's really not.

 

I know it's easier said than done, but try to stop caring what other people think. Live your life for you and what makes you happy and you will be just fine.

[Guest Littlepup]

I get nervous about the idea of my neighbors hearing us too but Daddy doesn't appear worried at all and to be honest just being with him makes all my worries fly away. So when that little thought does come into my head I just remember that Daddy is okay with it and he likes my noise, so there's nothing to worry about. A few times I said something to Daddy about it but he says it's no big deal.   However I naturally have a "who cares about everyone else" attitude so it may be easier for me to dismiss this concern. At the same time I am very shy and loud sounds embarrass me, that's why I get worried about it. AND I do wonder what that delivery man must have thought when he knocked on the door and I had to shout "DADDY" and run and hide because I was naked. 

[pizza-princess]

Thank you everyone for your replies! They made me feel better. I'll maybe look into something I can do about my door. But for now I've found a temporary solution which is to turn the radio on so it cancels out some, if not most of my noise And I'll keep working on not worrying so much about what others think of me! Littlepup, if that happened to me I would've died on the spot! Lol. 

[Guest TwinklingSpace]

 AND I do wonder what that delivery man must have thought when he knocked on the door and I had to shout "DADDY" and run and hide because I was naked. 

 

I don't mean to diminish how this situation must have made you feel. Can't imagine how I would feel if that happened to me.

 

However, that sounds extremely adorable   And such a little thing. So cute!

[Guest Princessaj]

When I am screaming, I am on another planet where everyone wants to have what I am having.

[DollDirector]

Sounds curious to say this,when on this forum we also have a recent topic about suggestions for dirty talk during sex,but other ways to express yourself could be used that can be pretty hot too. I am aware that it may not be at all your thing,but I have good memories of circumstances where others could not see us but could have heard,was part of the thrill. The way you look at someone says a lot,doesn't it ? The way you touch, ... stroke, ... grip, ... ... grab ...