Loosing my Lil one

[Under_Sir_Cosis617]

Me and my Lil one/babygirl have been having problems for awhile but neither one of us can't seem to let the other one go or already for awhile. I know slot is partially my fault but I'm not use to understanding ppls feelings and my communication skills are not the best. It's getting to the point we barely communicate. I know things change and ppl change but I do love my Lil one with all my heart and I try to change I'v seeked help for my temper but its to the point any Lil change or attempt isn't good enough. Things don't repair over night I get that. We work together which is where we met. In the beginning she tried the sub but is dom/lesibian but only heteroflexible with me. I'm use to being alone seperated from the world because just like alot of ppl I'v been threw alot. I'm trying so hard to hold onto the times I know we shared but it's a rollercoaster. I do love her and want this to be better. Maybe it can't be like in the beginnings, those are memories I will never let go of and will cherish always and forever.

[Trash Queen]

I think sometime a lot of people should realize is that ddlg is a relationship. It may be a special type of relationship, but it is still one. Relationships come and go throughout life. It hurts and it's awful, but that's a part of growing and developing as a person. You can not force a relationship. If you're finding you can not make it work out, it may be better for your emotional and mental health to let it go.

 

I want you to do what is best for your happiness and well being. If you are not happy in a relationship, then you need to find out why. If it's not something you can fix, then it may be best to move on. It's not a failure to realIze you have grown as a person and have developed different needs and desires for your partnership. There are oodles of Littles out there that can make you happy. It may take time, but you can find that happy relationship again.

 

I wish you the best and hope you do what is right for you.

Edited August 31, 2016 by Red Riding Hood

[Under_Sir_Cosis617]

She never recognized it as a relationship just as a ship she called it. I do truly love her but like this weekend to me was awesome spent the weekend with both our families meaning our kids together but still she said there's things I didn't see. I just don't understand it we played we wrestled we joked we laugh I even forced them out the house to go to the park so we wouldn't be cooped up in the house. I pushed Lil one on the swing for the first time and doing all the kiddos and Lil one on the merygoround and I even got on for a brief period which I let loose and played. Im not the smartest cookie and my Lil one us so smart and so beautiful but it's gotten to be we are both on the defensive. Like I said previously I have a anger issue things previously got to far and I got help meaning meds and it's worked alot. I know trust doesn't rebuild easily but I'm constantly under attack I feel so when ever we try and talk I'm always on the defensive I'v had to be my whole life. I just trying to work it out I try and talk but we both cut each other off in certain parts of conversation and when I do shut my mouth so to speak to let her talk and let it out the conversation dies. The beginning OMG I never felt so connected to someone so wanted so loved now it's just whenever and however I can get time. That's primarily my fault some things should of never happened she should of never seen that ugly side of me and im paying for it trying to put the pieces bk together trying to revive our once epic past of fun and happiness.

[Under_Sir_Cosis617]

I want to correct that one statement about the ship meaning at first she would call it a ship but didn't think or want it to be a relationship in the beginning.

[Guest Littlepup]

It sounds like she's not happy

I'm truly sorry but I was in a very long term relationship with a guy and after years.. it ended. I was too afraid to end it and I always felt guilty because he was so good to me and always said he would do anything for me to make it work.. but after so much I finally had enough.. Afterwards I met the guy of my dreams and I learned that I should never have been with a guy that I thought could be perfect if he tried for me, but that it should feel perfect from the beginning. I don't feel stressed out anymore about the future or whether things will get better because my current bf/Daddy is already my dream come true and I love him just as much as he loves me.

 

sorry, but I just wanted to give you an insight into my thoughts because you're gf/little might be having the same feelings and not want to leave you but also just not be in love with you and that can cause her to distance herself.

[Under_Sir_Cosis617]

I'm very happy for u and it's just we have two different views about alot. We have seperated before and she came bk. I would think she wouldn't stick around because she feels sry for me cause I'v known her awhile and know her views and if she doesn't want to do something she won't. I know I haven't been the best daddy but this is my first I'm still new to this so there's room to grown and things to work out. I'm territorial, I do get jealous, I don't have much of any social skills but I'm working and trying.

[Daddy'slittlegirl16]

I'm sorry you lost your little -hugs- if you want to talk we can