Confused...

[Toribabyyyy]

My daddy randomly stopped talking to me. Everything was perfectly fine and i recently got in trouble for lying about finishing a class and he ignored me for a week and then was all happy and loving on monday and all day yesterday wouldn't talk to me but he gets on here. Idk what i did:(

[Guest Prat]

You lied, that's something Daddies take very seriously. At least I do.

[lilsnoopy]

ok so the guy above me is being very blunt and almost rude. You need help and support, not that. yes lying was bad, but that punishment is over. I don't agree with his punishment, leaving a little is never EVER a good punishment it usually hurts the relationship and your trust. I don't like that he did that. But I don't know what he is doing now. It is not ok to just ignore your little. I don't think this is healthy for you. It sounds like a really stressful situation and he's not being a man about it. Not talking to you instead of communicating that he is upset or doesn't want to talk or even breaking it off if that's the message he's trying to send. There are better daddy's out there. If I were in that position I would consider just breaking it off, if he can't find a better punishment than the silent treatment (with is more like neglect to a little) then maybe he is just not an experienced or even a real daddy. I'm so sorry you're having to go through this. If i can help in any way feel free to message me. I'm also sorry if that is not the answer you wanted to hear, It's just my opinion. 

[Toribabyyyy]

I know i lied but i did my punishment of being ignored for a week and there's no reason he should be ignoring me now. I know that hurt our relationship but he should of ended it if he wanted too when i told him i didnt finish the class not wait and then end the punishment and act all loving just to ignore me again.

[Guest Prat]

Yes, I was blunt, I apologise for that. I didn't mean to imply that that is a good reason for someone ghosting.

[StefanC71_UK]

Just dropped in to echo what lilsnoopy has said. I don't agree with ignoring as a punishment either, not for any length of time, but a week is frankly a horrendous punishment.

 

However, even after going through that, he should have been straight back to you. If indeed he has gone ghost, you are unfortunately not the only person on here who has had this happen. 

 

Maybe something legitimate has come up and he will be back to you again, even so he should have said that he had something to deal with first. If indeed he does come back to you, I would suggest you initiate a discussion around acceptable and unacceptable behaviour from him. You have just as much right to put this to him, as he does to you.

 

If he does not come back to you, take some time to heal, and take some solace here, there are many people who can help. 

 

I hope it all works out for you.

[Toribabyyyy]

A week is a long time to be ignored by a daddy and he kept saying how he should find a new baby that wouldn't lie and such to make me feel bad. I only lied cause he was busy that day and I just wanted daddy time instead of finsihing my class and he didnt care. I just wish he would at least tell me what I did or whats going on.

[Guest]

Being ignored is not a punishment. It is abusive. I don't think it's right to cut off communication, it's very undaddy like. I would say as hard as it is, it's probably time to tell him talk the issue out or cut your losses and move on. You did something wrong but two wrongs don't make a right. He needs to talk to you or you need to find a better daddy at gives yous you proper punishments not ignore you for weeks, then tell you he will find some new little. He sounds like a total jerk (not to speak bad about your daddy but he is not being a daddy by acting like that )

 

Excuse my language but fuck that shit

[Toribabyyyy]

Im going to find a new better daddy because even though i got attached to him in the 2 months we've been talking i want a daddy that wont just ignore me and make me feel this way. Ive had daddys leave before but they at least say something and dont just disappear making me wonder whats going on.

[Guest]

Im going to find a new better daddy because even though i got attached to him in the 2 months we've been talking i want a daddy that wont just ignore me and make me feel this way. Ive had daddys leave before but they at least say something and dont just disappear making me wonder whats going on.

it's for the best you deserve way better. And it's good you see that. I wish you the very best. Just take it slow and find the right one

[Guest TwinklingSpace]

I agree with everyone else, that the relationship between you and your daddy doesn't sound very healthy/stable. I also agree that stopping communication is not a good punishment.

 

You said you were going to look for a new daddy. Before you do that, I'd encourage you to try and end on good terms with your current daddy. Try to talk everything out with him. Explain how you feel and why you're leaving. Don't just leave, without an explanation. You wouldn't want to mimic his behavior. Even if he refuses to speak with you, write him a message/email and send it to him.

 

Just because he isn't being a good partner, doesn't mean you shouldn't be either.

 

I'd also encourage you to maybe take some time before jumping into a new daddy/little relationship. Take some time to figure out what you want, what you're looking for and how you want to be treated. Maybe write it all down, make a list and when you're ready to look for a new daddy compare them to that list. This is a good reminder to always discuss punishments upfront. Maybe make a list of that too, what and what you're not comfortable with.

 

I don't want to put salt in your wounds, but there was a reason why you thought it would be okay if you lied. You justified it in your mind, and then later realized that might not be the best decision. I think there might be something there. That's why I encourage you to take time for you.

 

Sometimes we forget in order for a relationship to work good, we need to focus on ourselves.

 

If we're a mess of course the relationship is going to be messy too. Now sometimes a partner can help clear up the mess. But most of the time they don't.

 

And it's okay to not have a daddy. Who knows, you might be happier that way

[Guest MissNMTX]

Wait. Am I understanding correctly, he's not talking to you, but active on the forum?  Oh sweetheart! The two of you need to have a conversation desperately. Is he a new daddy? Maybe he doesn't know enough about punishments...ideas and the like. Regardless, ignoring you for a week was completely out of proportion. Personally, I like any punishments I have to be done in a timely manner so it correlates correctly to whatever mistake I made...Usually the same one!

 

You need to discuss acceptable behavior, communication, punishments...in short, I agree with the others that this is not a healthy or stable relationship with or without the DD/lg elements.  No matter what you decide, please try to use it as a chance to grow. Work on your own needs, communication, etc If you stay in this relationship, this work will be beneficial and if not you'll be healthier for your next relationship. *hugs*

[TheProfessor]

"I'd also encourage you to maybe take some time before jumping into a new daddy/little relationship. Take some time to figure out what you want, what you're looking for and how you want to be treated."

 

"No matter what you decide, please try to use it as a chance to grow. Work on your own needs, communication, etc"

 

What they said.

 

During this time it's important for you to reacquaint yourself with yourself.  You won't know what you're looking for until you know who's really looking for it.