Obedience training?

[dawn]

Does obedience training have a place in Cg/l? Or is it more of a stand-alone?

[Guest Prat]

It has a place everywhere.

[LoralieHaze]

Anytime someone mentions training or being trained on here, it makes me cringe so hard. Littles do not need to be trained, they need to be nurtured and encouraged. I would say that this is just my opinion but a lot of experienced daddies have agreed wholeheartedly with me on this before.

 

Personally, the only type of BDSM relationship that I'm not at all interested in master/slave. If someone likes that, and wants to incorporate that within their own CG/L relationship, they're more than welcome to and it would none of my business. That said, I don't want new people automatically thinking that littles must be trained to be obedient or treated like a slave in any way just because they're submissive. 

 

Edited to add: notice that the person who loves it is now banned.*cough*wonderwhy*cough*

Edited August 31, 2016 by LittleKittenLo

[WalrusBoxer]

I do it, I love it.

Depends on the little but I find that most girls love it a lot.

[annemarie]

walrusboxer is wrong. most littles do not enjoy it. however, he is right that it depends on the little, and that's a very important distinction. there are some littles that absolutely love it and have a huge long list of rules because they enjoy it so much. however, i've also heard of a lot littles (like myself) that despise discipline or certain kinds of discipline because of their past or other reasons. it really just depends on how you and your dom feel if you want there to be an obedience factor to your relationship. 

Edited August 29, 2016 by annemarie

[*~PrincessStar~*]

I have certain basic rules and punishments that are pretty simple like- Don't tell lies. Take care of yourself. Etc. But no huge list of rules, and I've become a lot better little and submissive by just the nurturing and encouragement of my daddy. I personally feel like littles tend to thrive better that way.

[Guest Tag you're it]

I honestly love LittleKittenLo's description. It has been so hard for me to embrace my submissive side due to the concept of obedience training.

[Guest Littlepup]

 I like having a master but that's because I am a puppy girl. So I think of my Daddy as my owner as well. Also it was his Daddy side that made me want to be his puppy, I could tell that he was going to look after me, always and loved me the most. So it's a balance of things such as trust and happiness and love that make me happily submit to any dominance that Daddy wants to show.

 

I can't really imagine just purely little girls needing that kind of treatment though. They are just little girls, not slaves or pets. 

[Guest Sugarsnap]

I think it has a place, but it's not inherent. Obedience training isn't really the first thing I think of when imagining CG/l dynamics.

 

Like all other things it comes down to preference. It's interesting to think about how this type of dynamic shifts when other stuff is introduced.

[Matthew]

Of course it does, and of course it depends on the individual and the relationship. If a little enjoys obedience training, it doesn't make her any less of a little. Some littles are brats and enjoy being brats; some need a little guidance and assistance; others prefer a firm hand and some training. Every person is a fluid collection of varying aspects and degrees of kinks, and when two of them form a dynamic, it's up to them to understand what they need and what makes them happy. To assume that training must exist separate from nurturing or encouragement is a singular and simplistic idea. Obedience training is like ropeplay, stuffies, rules, polyamory, discipline: you're not any more or less of a Caregiver or a little with these included in your relationship. You do you.