Compliment?

[Turtle_Baby]

Does anyone else feel uncomfortable with being called words like beautiful and gorgeous? Or is it just me?

[AngeI]

I used to, back when I was depressed/hated myself/had super low self-esteem, but now I don't mind being complimented because I know the compliments are true ^^ It took me a little over 1 year to build up my self confidence, but I did it, and it's totally awesome. Do you know why you feel uncomfortable? Is it because you're self-conscious or does unwanted/harassing attention make you uncomfortable?

[Turtle_Baby]

I used to, back when I was depressed/hated myself/had super low self-esteem, but now I don't mind being complimented because I know the compliments are true ^^ It took me a little over 1 year to build up my self confidence, but I did it, and it's totally awesome. Do you know why you feel uncomfortable? Is it because you're self-conscious or does unwanted/harassing attention make you uncomfortable?

While I do have super low self esteem, it's not all compliments that make me feel that way, just those two.

[LoralieHaze]

It really depends on the context. Who is saying these words to you? Your family? Your friends? Random internet strangers? 

 

For me personally, I would much rather be told that I'm smart, funny, kind; things that you would have to get to know me it order to find out, if that makes sense. Someone just saying that you're good-looking isn't bad per se, but it's superficial and doesn't hold much meaning about you as a person.

[Guest QueenJellybean]

I absolutely identify with this.

 

Beautiful is one in particular. For me, I'm fully aware that it's because of my abusive past and the things I've been through in my life. It doesn't matter how many times I bring it up to my therapist, it may be a word that I have trouble hearing or believing for the rest of my life. I don't want it to be, so I'm working on it. 

 

If the word in particular bothers you, I suggest trying to identify why it does and working to change it. <3 

[Guest tempest]

It doesn't make me uncomfortable, but I don't believe a word of it. It would be great if we could look in a mirror and see the beauty that must be there, but, unfortunately, we pick our flaws apart....I wish it wasn't that way.

[annemarie]

i have bpd so when someone compliments me, i split. on the one hand: yes, they're right! i'm wonderful! on the other hand: they're clearly lying because i am a disgusting piece of garbage.