Just TALK to him/her!!!!

[Guest Coyote420]

Sooo, I have literally seen DOZENS of posts where people have some sort of problem in their relationship, and so far the anwser always was ''just communicate with him/her, tell him/her how you feel'' , and it always will be!!

 

There is no big secret to making a relationship work. You communicate and that's that. Offcourse relationships are a give and take, so if you reach out to the person , but the before mentioned person doesen't reach back then you are bound to suffer if you persist in this relationship. That's why it's key to know when to just give up. Yes you love the person, yes you can't immagine a life without him, but you will only suffer if you keep going on like this...

 

I myself have hopelessly tried to talk to one of my previous partners, to fix things ... but in the end I just didn't get through to her, and I knew I had to end it, everyone around me knew I had to end it, but I was a fool in love so i suffered for a good time (even tho the girl really did love me). Since then I have grown as a person and I know when it's time to give up. I hope this post gives some of you the same enlightenment, tho I highly doubt that it will. Everyone has to learn from their own mistakes.

 

 

[LoralieHaze]

[Guest]

I agree with this alot. As you said though people learn from their own mistakes. Sometimes it takes a long time and alot of heart ache for people to understand what they truly want and need in their relationship.

 

(Also there could be more going on in the persons life then we know thats preventing them from leaving and maybe they are not comfortable sharing that information with us. I have learned that a lot of the times they post part of the story and alot of the details they don't share play a huge role in why they stay but we would never know up front.)

 

I just try to give people the best advice (pretty much like you can do this or this and here are the possible outcomes ) and hope they pick which ever they can do.

 

It's easy to get good advice but following it is not always as simple.

[Guest Zephy]

Yeah you're right. Communication is always the right answer when it comes to relationships, but some people just need that extra encouragement to follow through it, because they feel they have no one else to talk to or could rely on.

Most of these threads are just a little cry for help and hope there would be other alternatives in fixing a relationship.

Sometimes people can give different perspective to a situation as well. Leaving is not always the right answer to everything.

[Fighter-Wolf]

Communication is key, completely agreed with it.

 

Sometimes, as Zephy says, it's also good to see another point of view. Maybe sometimes one has donde wrong this that one doesn't recognize or didn't knew it was something important. Or just maybe didn't thought of the advice some of the people here gave them.

And to be heard is something soothing whenever one has a problem. Just knowing someone listened to you when you were feeling bad, helps.

Also, Arya has a point too, we don't know the whole background, even sometimes we're friends we don't know it. And sometimes they just need their time to accept the relationship won't work before leaving it.

 

Of course, there are times when the relationship is so worn-out that there's no other thing to do than break-up. Or when one of the parties just lets the other may the relationship work (and fail, because not for a thing is a "couple"), and even after talk about it, won't change... Then, yeah, it would hurt, but will hurt less than being on a relationship like that.