Guide for babysitter?

[MacroBro]

My girlfriend is trying to teach me the DDlg lifestyle, but now her second boyfriend (she and I are still together, it's a long story) has been her daddy since they met, and he's making me her babysitter. She thinks it's because there can't be two daddies (aren't there gay couples that can legally adopt?) but I think the other guy is just trying to dictate who to stick with for life (as she had previously considered leaving me last week). I think I could still get him to give me examples directly to my feminine persona so I can use the knowledge as my male persona (my core persona, I'm bi-gender) but maybe I can learn babysitting here too?

 

Honestly I feel like I only made an account on this forum to complain about how it feels like she's cheating on me rather than just having two boyfriends...

[LoralieHaze]

If you don't want to be with a polyamorous partner and feel like you're being cheated on, then break up with your girlfriend.

[Guest ZenDD]

I don't get the feeling that you think there are many positive things to come out of this situation. It seems you shouldn't be wasting your time concerning yourself with how to be a babysitter when you don't want to be one. You obviously have deep feelings for this person, because you are willing to sacrifice your own personal happiness, and possibly your dignity, so that she can have everything she wants. But you shouldn't be trying to convince yourself that you're a hero for that. It's going to be difficult, but you've got to move on. You can do it. Don't be a martyr for a cause you really don't believe in. You're worth more than that. 

Edited August 27, 2016 by ZenDD

[Guest Prat]

Leave, you're being used.

[Guest]

It's up to what you want to be in your relationship. If your girlfriend and her daddy are only controlling what you are and you don't like it, talk about it. If you want to be her daddy too and your comfortable sharing then cool. As others have pointed out though you don't seem to like the idea of sharing her. So maybe tell her or leave for your own good. You can't be happy when someone else is calling the shots for you.

[✿♛Princess✿♛ Harley Q ❣]

I feel really sad for you, I think you have low self esteem, I do too, so I understand sometimes things that are the right decision aren't easy. I think that it does sound like a negative situation you have yourself in, but what do you really want? If you are really truthful to yourself, do you feel comfortable sharing her? If you do then you need to address the issues and she and her other Daddy need to be okay with things, or at least you all need to meet on a mutual level. I feel though, that perhaps it is more your love of her that is keeping you in this position and that you aren't really okay with it, as much as you are tolerating it for the fear of losing her. It sounds as though you don't really have her, especially as she was considering leaving you last week. It sounds like there is a lot of manipulation going around and it may not be intentional, I wouldn't like to judge, but ultimately only you can decide what to do and what you are okay with. You really should be true to yourself, but I feel you know that already. It sounds like it's not going to last forever anyway if she is doubting what you have so perhaps you should cut the ties, so to speak, and if you want to be a Daddy, find someone who is truly right for you, and matches your compatibility. There are lots of littles out there that need someone so don't cut yourself short. Stay strong

[Guest Zephy]

All I want to say is don't try to become someone you'd feel uncomfortable as - you'll never be happy and nothing good will come from it. Besides I think that relationship as runs its course already.

I want to tell you to be strong and end it, and move on. Don't try giving yourself reasons to stick with her. She can make her own decisions and she did try breaking up with you.

As harsh it may sound she may not have the same feelings for you, or look at you the same anymore and you probably just feel like the third wheel in the relationship.

 

Don't try to make the best out of something at the expense of your own happiness, instead find someone who will really appreciate, love, and respect you.

[Antoinette]

A polyamorous relationship isn't supposed to make you feel like you're being cheated on. It's supposed to be something you want. Either tell her how you feel and that you would like to be monogamous, if she doesn't want to then you should leave and move on from her. It's not healthy to be in a relationship that you don't enjoy. Especially if it's a polyamorous relationship and you feel like it's cheating, all people involved in the relationship should be okay and comfortable with it. 

 

Don't sacrifice your emotional health because you love someone - you have to keep yourself safe and happy first and foremost. There will be someone out there for you. It sounds like you have low self esteem and probably should work on yourself before being in another relationship. I wish you all the best, you came to the right place here by the way - there are a plethora of amazing people who would be more than willing to talk to you if you ever needed somebody, myself included.

Edited August 27, 2016 by xAntoinette