Punishments

[PrincessClara]

I'm curious what punishments your D-types give you for being bad or breaking a rule. My Daddy and I are still learning and so we haven't really established punishments yet. He spanks me when I'm bad, but he does that all the time b/c he just likes my butt so it's not REALLY a punishment....he always THREATENS to do something...but never does.

 

So I gues I'm asking...what rules break correlates to what punishment for you guys?

[Guest Prat]

The correlation is really up to you two to get a hang of as time goes by. Make sure he reads this:

 

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/51-general-advice-for-new-daddies/

 

I think there's even some lists of punishments in there.

[Antoinette]

It really depends on the relationship. The guy I am with now has only just been introduced to the DDlg dynamic so I'm getting him used to the idea of the role of a daddy, being called daddy, having a little etc.

 

A few punishments in old relationships I had were:

-No talking for __ minutes.

-Cold shower for __ minutes

-No electronics for __ minutes

-Earlier bedtime, if you have a bedtime.

-No cartoons

 

Really, the punishments can pertain to anything. The daddy can implement a punishment that is more suited to your interests rather than one's that could be suited to anybody. 

[Princess-P]

Also keep in mind that you don't NEED punishments or even rules. Your Daddy doesn't need a reason to spank your bum if you both enjoy it lol and punishments are a part of only SOME peoples dynamic.

[PrincessClara]

I COMPLETELY understand that not everything is for everyone. I get that your method may not be my method....All I'm asking for, are examples of what your D-types do to punish you. I want a frame of reference so I can talk to my Daddy and tell him that these types of things are okay or these other types of things are absolutely not. I know I don't NEED rules/punishments...but these are things I want and desire and yern for.

 

Nobody had an issue posting their rules...I just thought having a punishment thread would be interesting to more than just me.

[Princess-P]

My previous comment is based on your stating that your both new and still learning. Unfortunantly its a common misconception that there is a set way to participate in this dynamic. If rules and punishments are something you both want in your relationship then start with something simple. Rules generally are to better something about the little that they wish to work on for themselves. So if you struggle with procrastination maybe a rule about finishing a task before having app time on your phone or something. Punishments can only really be something that you dislike, if you like it then its not going to curb your behavior.

 

Writing lines

Corner time

Physical strain punishments like kneeling on rice, squating in a sitting position against a wall

 

Without knowing your limits/tollerance its hard to make suggestions. Anything that you truly dislike can be a punishment. The more you dislike it the better and can be used for more serious rule breaking.

 

As a parent I use the punishment fits the crime method, one standard punishment won't work. My suggestion is to come up with a set of rules you both agree on then a set of punishments. Go down the lists and match them up.

 

Lastly make sure to communicate your need for consistency. If he threatens to do something but never does then you won't get anywhere. Both partners have to commit. Let him know how you feel when he doesn't follow through. For many people with rules the punishments that follow, while not enjoyable, show that the other partner cares enough to administer them for the better.

[princesschibi]

We're also new but a few we've done are

 

Standing in the corner for X amount of time

Sitting on the bed (no devices) for X amount of time

Devices being taken away for a day(longer if Im being really bratty)

Early bed time

He only does punishment spankings if I've been horrible(not doing chores,not listing at all etc)

[WonderheartBear713]

My most hated punishments are corner time, early bedtime, and getting grounded.