"Retired" Daddy

[ObedientGirl]

So my potential Daddy that I have been training with has decided he doesn't want to talk about "this" (d/s) stuff anymore. At first, I felt like the babygirl in me died, but I am still willing to keep learning about him and seeing what kind of match we are. I told him he shouldn't feel guilty about any of the things we've talked about since he made me feel very safe the whole time. I'm just not sure what to do other than give him space in relation to naughty stuff. Any experience with Daddies that needed a break from being naughty?

[Guest ZenDD]

I'm sorry, that must be a very emotionally and psychologically difficult and confusing thing to deal with. Only he knows what is going on his mind, and maybe you have an inclination towards what he might be thinking. But it sounds to me like maybe he was experimenting with the D/s dynamic, and has realized it isn't quite his cup of tea.

 

Was he experimenting for his own sake? For your sake? If it was for his own sake, then maybe he felt that something was missing within him prior to trying out the D/s dynamic, and thought that this dynamic could be it. That would mean that something is still missing, and he still hasn't found out exactly what it is. If that's the case, maybe talk about it with him. If you care about him, praise him for trying, and encourage his continued search.

 

If he was experimenting with it for your sake, then it seems that his attempt was compassionate, and he should be thanked for supporting your interest and identity. However, if you feel that this dynamic is a concrete part of who you are, and a need for your heart, mind, and life, then that could mean that you guys may have a compatibility issue. That is, of course, if you feel this is genuinely a part of who you are, and it wasn't just an experiment for you, too, that you'd be fine without. I also hope he's being sensitive to how this is affecting you. I wish you both luck. You've much introspection to do, but you'll figure it out.

[Harley_Quinn]

My daddy needs a break sometimes. He can't always take being a daddy. So much so he has yelled at me for being too childish or too whiney. But usually this is just typical Dom drop stuff. I've never had a Dom that wanted to completely stop being a Dom

[ObedientGirl]

Thanks for the replies! Well he said he was experienced and always had D/s aspects even in vanilla relationships. I think he's just unable to talk about it for now, which sucks for me, but I think it's still my duty to be patient and accommodating while he works out his feelings. 

 

I have been consciously not calling him Daddy or bringing up anything naughty. Then, yesterday he asks me some naughty stuff...then shuts down again! A lil confusing for me

[TheGambler]

Sounds confusing, yes. Typically men, Daddies or not, can feel suffocated about the emotional aspects of a relationship. Or just tired :Too many work, family, etc..but taking a break from being naughty??? Its...strange. It's a LDR? Are you sure about him don't having more littles or a partner?

[ObedientGirl]

We have yet to meet, but live pretty close. He has a stressful job and he warned me that these weeks would be busy for him before he mentioned the not feeling naughty part later on. 

[littlelili]

You surely are an obedient girl ^^

It is very kind from you to be patient and try to be there when he is clearly having a confusing moment in his life. But as Bard stated, it is better to talk to him in an honest manner, to see if there is something that you don't know. Even when stressed or experiencing a drop, he should be honest with you and explain you what is happening and what he expects from the relationship. It is not fair for you to be wondering and worrying about something you are not fully aware of.

 

I hope everything gets better.

hugs!!