New Little With Mental Illness

[Carolyn]

Hi everybody!! I'm a new little and I'm looking for a daddy. I know this isn't personals, but I'm just looking for advice. I struggle with depression, anxiety, and psychosis. So basically I have voices in my head telling me bad things and that a daddy will never love me and that any type of relationship is just a joke. I lost a relationship because I was constantly needing reassurance, and now I don't know what to do. I want to be honest with a daddy and tell him all my feelings, but I also don't want to scare him away. SOS!!! Edited August 24, 2016 by Carolyn

[Antoinette]

First of all, before you even consider a daddy I would suggest you get some form of counselling or therapy.

 

If you don't love yourself just a little, or if you're extremely emotionally and mentally unbalanced, it's not a good idea for a relationship. Relationships are emotional roller coasters, there are ups and downs. Throughout the ups you will feel fantastic, you will begin to depend on your partner/daddy and then throughout the lows you won't have yourself to fall back on if you don't love yourself and this is the recipe for something really bad to happen to yourself.

 

Get therapy, or some kind of help first and foremost. Learn to love yourself before you even think about loving someone else within a relationship - when you're ready, you will know but be patient. You are you're main priority right now and I know as a little it's hard, a lot of us (but not all) yearn for caregivers and not having one can makes us feel terrible. You just need to focus on yourself first though, it will be better for you in the long run.

Please feel free to message me if you ever need to talk, have questions or anything. This goes for anyone. I'm always there to give the best advice I possibly can.

[Carolyn]

Thank you!!! I know, I'm currently in treatment and have been for the last six months. I'm getting out soon though and will move on to outpatient therapy! Yay!!! I think I'm ready, I don't know!

[Antoinette]

Wait until you're 100% sure of yourself, I promise it's worth it. [: 

[Carolyn]

Thank you!!!!!

[Guest Prat]

Start with making friends, they'll give you support and send all the bad voices away. Who knows, maybe one of these friends becomes your future Mommy/Daddy/Caregiver/Mentor, those are the best kind of relationship developments. Rushing into a relationship is the worst thing you can do, check out the immeasurable amount of info provided on this forum, explore and develop yourself, make friends, then find a Carer.

Edited August 24, 2016 by Praetorian

[Spooky]

I 10000% agree with what xAntoinette said. 

Putting yourself in a relationship when you are not 10000% stable is incredibly dangerous. While some will be there to help you help yourself, there are many who would take advantage of you. 

 

I also agree with Praetorian, make some friends! This forum especially can help your find other Littles and Cg's who suffer from mental illness.

 

Please know that you are not alone. And please take the time to love yourself before you look for someone else to love you.

[Guest Prat]

Some Bigs suffer from such issues, myself included, having chronic depression and panic disorder. Though meditation and regular detoxing and yoga and stuff like that are helping me very well.

 

Welcome to the forum btw!!

Edited August 24, 2016 by Praetorian

[Lucas_drago]

If you need some one to talk to friend/msg me i'm here in need

[Carolyn]

Thank you everybody!! ☺️☺️

[TheGambler]

As people said, take your time. Wait until reach the point where you proudly feel that you can make someone happy or you can be hurt badly. 

 

Many people here deal with anxiety, depression disorders and such (basically this place is like as a pokemon gym to these things ^^) and you will find as much advice as you want. Good luck!!! 

[Guest softbabyraine]

*hugs super tight* i know how difficult it is struggling through with these issues if you ever need someone to talk to id love to help from one little to the next we have to stick together!