How did you discover your role?

[ConstantMouth951]

I didn't see a feed about this, hopefully I didn't just miss it.

 

I'm interested to know (especially from more experienced members) how did you discover ur role within the BDSM/ddlg community? Did a partner get you started or was it something you had curiosity with all along? Did you try multiple roles or variations of the role before you found when you felt comfortable in?

 

For me I started exploring about 3 years ago, a partner had some interest in exploring BDSM in general and wanted me to look into it for myself as well. I started out strictly a little, a bit of a brat at times (who doesn't like to push Daddy's buttons) but for a long time never a dominate. Through different experiences and exploring both with a partner and better getting to know myself I have learned that I also enjoy being a mild Domme. I now identify myself as a switch, leaning slightly more to the sub side.

 

I think for a lot of people starting off new into the ddlg community this might give them both some insight and help all of us to better understand what goes into a person finding their place.

 

 

Excited to hear how others have gotten to where they are!

Edited August 24, 2016 by ConstantMouth951

[AngelLove]

My ex got me into it, I've tried being a dom/caregiver but I never felt right playing that role.

[Guest Tag you're it]

My first girlfriend turned me from naive vanilla to a sexually confused switch. She had me call her daddy. I was 13, she was 15. It was really awkward. And we were WAY too young to know what the hell that was. Later on I had a little. Didn't work out due to being incompatible but I totally miss that feeling. Ready for another.

[Guest Prat]

I've always been a DD/Cg type of a person, didn't know it was a thing inside BDSM or what BDSM actually was till I was 17 or so. When I did search around on the internet and stuff I figured it out. 1st BDSM test I ever took gave me a 99% Daddy / Mommy score.

[Guest Coyote420]

Well I have treated my exes as littles subconciously before I even knew what DDLG is ... Then I had a BDSM (master-slave) relationship and I LOVED it, but I missed that care and affection ... So after doing some research I discoverd that DDLG hits my relationship g-spot xD ... As for my role (a daddy) , that's natural, everyone has either a dominant personality or a submissive one ... Offcourse there are also switches, but I think even they are either dom or sub , they just like to swith things up a lil ... But that's just my opinion, I could be wrong (statistic shows that there's a 99% chance that I am wrong xD).

[annemarie]

i got into it because it did and still does feel like the right thing for me. i got into it because i learned it doesn't have to be inherently sexual and that i can be little without also having to want to constantly have sex (which was the perception i had). i always knew i was a little, right from the beginning of coming into the bdsm community a month ago. i'm glad i found this forum cause i've learned a lot.

[Cuddly Bumblebee]

I have always been sub and little (I have always had littleish behavior and persona etc.) And I have been only in vanilla relationships (except this relationship kinda) It has been super uncomfortable, when I always tried and needed to be as much in control as partner and being also kind of dominate. I felt so insecure and unhappy in those relationships, they just were not for me. This was more about the sub part. But the point was, that no one actually accepted me as I am. And if I showed more my little side, I was annoying, weird and I should not behave like that... that's what I heard. 

 

Almost 2 years ago I found about ddlg, when exploring the internet and I notice it fits to me so well. Now I have partner who accepts me and understands me. 

[Antoinette]

Ever since I started being sexual I was into 'little' things. I'd always been lucky to date guys who were Daddies too (before I even knew about DD/lg) I can't specifically remember how I found DD/lg but I'm very glad I did find it. It opened up a whole new world for me and I was able to fulfill my sexual needs fully as well as... Just my everyday needs. 

 

Many people don't realise that DD/lg is so much more than a 'kink' or a 'fetish', honestly it's a way of life and I'd have been so lost without it. [:

[Guest Queen Of The Damned]

I got into the BDSM scene after I had sex with my first boyfriend when I was 15 I discovered my tastes and found out I was a natural dom in the bedroom I have been in the scene sense and loved it. I went to my first BDSM convention when I turned 18 and that's where I met my girlfriend who turned me onto MDLG I loved the nurturing aspect of it and being able to fill the playful side of myself as well threw the year we spent together I learned so much more about my self and how much I love being able to give discipline but also guidance love and care it definitely created a bond like no other i've ever had when I had to move and had to break up with her it took a piece of me with it i'm still recovering from having to leave her but life is hard and sometimes we really can't have something no matter how much you try to life throws all plans and idea's to the wind and sometimes you just have to let go a realize what is mean't to be will be and what isn't won't and just hold on to the good times. 

[princesschibi]

~Dramatic music~ My journey began all the waay back in the fall of '06. I was just a youngun still in school...

 

All joking aside I found out about BDSM when I was 16 from a friend who was at the time in a D/s dynamic. She told me all about her and her Dom and introduced me to a few BDSM websites. I'm not proud of the stupid shit I did but it did help me find that I liked being a sub. Fast forward 10 years. My husband and I have been playing around with BDSM things, nothing too serious our whole relationship. I stumbled apon a DD/lg site while browsing tumblr. Digging around and reading more about it the more I find that this is what I've always wanted from a dynamic.And how it allows me to express myself better. So I showed my hubby and now he's my Daddy. We're still extremely new but figuring it all out together!

[Guest pumpkinpatchPrincess]

Oh geez, where do I begin? lol

 

I met my ex boyfriend when I was 16 and I actually didn't sexually identify with an attraction to males at all. I had felt romantic but was sexually disgusted. And in my experience with women, I was the more loving one, the "top" if you will, and could not imagine myself with a man.

 

Him and I began to kiss and makeout and he started to pull my hair. Very vanilla, but I liked it and craved more intense things. Months passed and I became a sub/slave, and I had partially tried pet play. I did have a slight domme said to me which I exercised once or twice but it wasn't my thing. 

 

Around 7 months into the relationship, I found an interest in calling him Daddy. And I received a reward in which, for a short period of time, I was allowed and I LOVED it. I discovered little space and regression. We exercised it often and he seemed to enjoy himself. But, it turned out to be a bad relationship and he cheated on me several times that I chose to leave him.

 

In November, I met my current Daddy. I portray as being a little, and though I act more little versus ABDL, I identify best with ABDL. I perform acts of a slave and submissive, and no longer have much interest in being a domme, but ultimately, I am a little with ABDL preferences and my dream BDSM lifestyle has to be an ABDL one with pastel colours and cribs and diaper changes.