how do you handle long distance daddies?! :(

[Guest softbabyraine]

its really difficult to find real daddies anymore and even harder to find one relatively close to me ive done long distance before but its getting harder for me to have a long distance daddy its making me even more insecure......any advice????

[Guest weeniehutjr]

Long distance is hard. The best thing to do is be comfortable and trusting of your partner when it comes to your insecurities. Distance isn't only hard for you, but for your partner as well. Make sure you spend as much time with them as you can and make the distance seem smaller by having Skype dates or phone calls. There are plenty of things to do that make it seem as if they are right there with you. You two could watch the same thing on Netflix at the same time, for example. If you are serious about your relationship and so is your partner, the distance will be that much more worth it in the end. Things do work out! You'll be good

[atxDD]

It's hard! Long distance is hard for all kinds of reasons - not just with relationships.  Its easier to have a work colleague that sits next to you then one across town.  It's easier to be with someone nearby then really far away.  

 

It takes a lot of work and a lot of very careful communication - over-communication - to make long distance work.  Even then, it's hard.

[Antoinette]

Everyone is different, some people find it hard to be long distance and can't have a successful relationship because of it but other's can make it work some people even prefer starting a relationship and keeping it long distance for a while.

It is all up to you yourself and your partner, or someone you're interested in. If you're willing to accept that you can't touch the person you love, you can't be held by them or even physically see them face to face then you can probably make it work. It's not easy but when you truly love the other person it's worth it.

 

I'm in a LDR, and my last two relationships were LDRs (I have a thing for Americans - I don't know what it is!), my last relationship didn't work because we became distant due to lack of actual affection that I think was caused by not being able to see each other, but also because of our lack of communication. It's important that if you're considering a LDR you have to have amazing, and I mean amazing communication skills with that person, because you won't be able to show things through physical actions. 

 

Also, it's always nice to plan (even if it's just fantasy-planning) to meet one day. Speculate, make it seem nice, talk about what you guys would do. Sometimes it can make you more upset than happy knowing you can't do it yet but I find it nice to make a plan and know that one day, I will be able to be face to face with the man I love and tell him he means the world to me. 

[Guest QueenJellybean]

Hi.

 

I suggest checking out this:

 

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/10096-long-distance-ddlg-relationships/ 

 

I hope it helps!

[Guest softbabyraine]

all of the advice helps greatly but im struggling because i can be a bit needy at times and i dont want to be overly needy but like with my last daddy he didnt put as much effort into trying to communicate with me as i did with him i understood he had to work but he would go days without sending me anything and then got mad because i was upset i hadnt even heard a simple hello......i try to make things work and maybe its just that i havent had good ldr with certain daddies but im just scared because as a little i love that structure and safety that comes with being cared for by a daddy so i think thats my biggest issue

[MadameButterfly]

LDR can be very hard sometimes and other times it can feel very easy. I completely understand what you mean about being too needy. I'm almost always wondering if I'm being much too needy. Like is this how all Littles feel, or am I just overly needy? But my daddy is so wonderful and caring and perfect. We talk to each other every day and call as much as we can. We're 1,218 miles away from each other and some days are very, very hard, and other days makes me feel so full of joy and happiness, like I'm gonna explode lol. Me and my daddy make it work for us, because we love each other. You have to find what works for you.