Am I in a healthy DDLG relationship

[Babypenguin_1991]

Okay so I have been with this guy now for six weeks and last night we use kik to chat and it wasn't working and so me being me was trying to fix it and I deleted the app thinking I can re download it and maybe that it will work. Well if you have iTunes then you know if don't have money in your bank account then you can update or download anything I don't know why it does this anyways so I could not get a hold of him to tell him that so I ask led my friend to do it for me this morning she sent him a message on my kik account and gave him my phone number cause I still haven't got to ask him his yet since we use the app and I waited all day to here from him not a word finally my mom gets home and so I downloaded kik on to her phone seeing if he got the message and he flat out said that I was lying and I was just like his Ed girlfriend. I begged him to for give me and I was crying nonstop at this point and he finally does. To me that just doesn't seem healthy at all. Everything was fine until today now he is pissed at me when really it wasn't my fault at all I just don't know what I'm doing anymore. Please anyone give me advice on what to do

[stargirl]

This is the opposite of healthy.

[Guest QueenJellybean]

I think that if you are questioning if your relationship is healthy, then something is clearly wrong, and you have your answer. 

[Guest Prat]

If his ex bailed on him it's understandable why he responded in the way he did. Someone ghosting on you in an LDR can be quite a shocking experience for some. Traumatic experiences make us build barriers around ourselves to protect us in the future, this unfortunate event might have triggered his abandonment issues. Make sure he understands completely the situation you've found yourself in, you might need to work a little bit harder now to regain his trust, if you're willing. 

 

Ofcourse he could just be an insensitive dick and in that case it's unhealthy cause he's being manipulative and dishonest.

[Guest MissNMTX]

While its true that he could have trust issues and barriers. Most people do! and Ghosting is a terrible and immature thing. The fact that he didn't give you a chance to explain, when you clearly used a third party to contact him as a little rude. Not to mention it does him no favors either.  Also, anytime you have to ask yourself if something is healthy its usually clear you already know the answer. Six weeks and you don't have his phone number to contact him directly?  You're a smart girl. You know something is off.

[Babypenguin_1991]

I get the whole trust issues cause I have that big time but I was really giving him a chance and I felt we where going strong but one mistake on my part and it's a huge thing

[Guest Princessaj]

You painted an amazing picture by your actions. You became a techno

super hero. You went into the flames as if a life was at risk. Your life.

 

I want to give you a hug and tell you to value how committed you are

as a human being. Please really recognize that right now. This is a rare

gift. You have super powers that you own and only can be rationed to

those that deserve them.

 

Just stand still in your body and your mind to know that this is the truth.

You are already in possession of what you seek. Your experience was

not about him. It was about you.