Being Spoiled?

[Antoinette]

I recently started dating a guy who wants to spoil me and get me heaps of things, like stuffies/binkies/anything that I'm interested in really. I wouldn't have a problem with this if it was just one thing once in a while but he wants to completely and utterly douse me in gifts and I don't know if I'm weird for finding it awkward that he wants to get me so much stuff.

We have been friends, before we started dating, for years. We always got each other birthday gifts and whatnot beforehand, so it's not like it's a novelty for him to give me things. 

 

The thing is I don't know why he'd want to give me so many gifts, could any DDs or Littles give an insight on why daddy's might want to spoil their littles, it's something that confuses me ;-; 

 

I'm not saying that I don't like it by the way, I do in a sense, it just makes me feel extremely awkward and confused. Maybe I'm an idiot, I don't know.

(Also, it may have something to do with the fact that he is new to DDlg? Maybe he's trying too hard to be a 'good daddy', I don't know) 

[stargirl]

Maybe buying gifts is his way of expressing affection?

[Antoinette]

Maybe buying gifts is his way of expressing affection?

That's what I thought but honestly I just don't get why he'd want to.

 

So much for my own self worth lmao.

[stargirl]

That's what I thought but honestly I just don't get why he'd want to.

 

So much for my own self worth lmao.

lmao aww don't worry, I think we've all been there

[Guest Zephy]

Why don't you have a talk and ask him? Try not to overthink things by yourself.

My own guess is he's just overjoyed and feeling happy with you and it's his way of showing you that.

[FawnKitten]

When I first tarted my relationship with Boss we were still in college so we didnt have a lot of money for gifts, but he would always do stuff for me and send me nice messages in the morning and I couldnt understand why he would bother doing such things, so I understand where you're coming from with the self worth thing.

 

I imagine that hes just so infatuated with you and wants you to be happy and feels like you deserve nice things because you make him happy and you're in the 'honeymoon' period of the relationship right now where everything is magical and your partner is the most amazing person in the world and can do no wrong, he'll probably chill a little bit after a while, especially if you explain to him how you feel about it

[DollDirector]

Might be a mood issue. But you have been friends,so hopefully you would have noticed if he had a tendency to manic phases ? Because some people at that time can act in the way he is acting. 

You say it makes you feel extremely awkward. To my ears it sounds like " I feel something is not all right ". As FawnKitten says,explain to him how you feel; Think of,and prepare in advance,a carefully crafted question. Littles do that,you know !

[annemarie]

maybe this is the only way he feels he can show you that he loves you. there is this test somewhere online called The Five Languages of Love. the reason i bring this up is because one of the languages described is the language of gifts. i think that this is just his way of saying he loves you and that you do have self-worth however, if it's making you uncomfortable, you need to tell him. problems at the beginnings of relationships only become bigger problems later on down the road.

[Littlest_Lushie]

Either he has the wrong idea about this kind of dynamic OR he's compensating for his lack of knowledge about how to be a Daddy.

 

My only experience in gift giving was when my ex-Daddy would buy me lots of things when he had the money- he was making up for his abusive behavior and his lack of physical/emotional affection. But, this doesn't really sound like the case here since you've been friends for so long.

 

Perhaps this is giving you bad vibes- I'd say just talk it out with him the best way you can. Ask, why do you give me all these things? or something along those lines. 

 

OH. But, perhaps the most important question you need to ask YOURSELF- is he giving you gifts that aren't material? His time, affection, loyalty... I'am the most spoiled little girl- only in non material ways though. I'am rich in love and dedication from my Daddy. I think thats the most important gifts that littles can be given!

Edited August 23, 2016 by Littlest_Lushie

[Antoinette]

 

 

 

OH. But, perhaps the most important question you need to ask YOURSELF- is he giving you gifts that aren't material? His time, affection, loyalty... I'am the most spoiled little girl- only in non material ways though. I'am rich in love and dedication from my Daddy. I think thats the most important gifts that littles can be given!

 

He honestly, despite his lack of experience, tries so hard and even though he works a lot and it's different time zones we talk as much as well possibly can. I'm honestly the luckiest person in the world.

 

I talked to him about it and he said he just wanted to spoil me because he had the money and he thought it would make me happy, he did say he'd stop if I didn't like it though. 

 

[: Thanks for everybody's posts here.

[Guest MissNMTX]

Everyone is correct. He's new, he's super excited, its how he knows how to show love.  I agree with Lushie, as long as he's showing you other things....time, effort, loyalty, love I say you enjoy it. He wants you to be happy and have things you enjoy. Obviously, you're not taking advantage.

[Guest Coyote420]

Well the ''showering with gifts'' thing isn't really my thing ... Sure I buy the girl something cute here and there, but this just seems over the top for me. I prefer doing small gestures , trips with the girl, and so on ... But everyone has different way of expressing their feelings. I have a friend that also buys his gf stuff all the time as well, and I know the girl as well (both are friends) ... She felt the same, she was just uncomfortable with him buying her gifts because all she wanted was affection from him and care. But well he liked her for ages so he was just so excited that he literally had to buy her everything xD I found it quiet adorable and funny. 

 

You aren't taking advantage of him, he just can't help it because he's so excited about finally being with you ^^