Brand new to this

[Demonicwolf64]

Basically, my girlfriend just came out to me that she was into the whole daddy-little relationship thing. I don't have a problem with her being into that, and we already have a Dom-sub bedroom relationship, but it's not something that I've ever really looked into. So, after her explaining a bit and me looking around online, I'm feeling like I at least get the general idea behind it.

 

The biggest thing for me is that it feels very unnatural/uncomfortable for her to be calling me Daddy, not in a particularly bad way, just...not comfortable. The rest of the whole caretaker role I'm willing to give a try, but the daddy thing is what is holding me back from giving it a shot. I'm honestly not sure why it bothers me so much, but it does...

 

Well the best way I can explain how I feel about it is, in the past, if I saw a Daddy-little relationship in some kind of porn or something, I would move past it. It's just not something that I would try without my partner being into it.

 

I'm just looking for thoughts/advice from those who have more experience than myself, since I still know only the very basics.

[lilsnoopy]

My dom, when we first started getting close he took up a more care giving role and liked it. But when I tried to bring up calling him daddy it was shot down almost immediately. He had his reason, he thought it was kind of weird, he had some issues with his father, things like that. So we continued being like we were, me being myself and him being a dominant caregiver. You could try doing that, telling her you aren't comfortable with her using that title but will take on the role. 

For us, he had me try it more and now he loves it and encourages me to call him that to the point it feels weird to us anything other than daddy or dada (if i'm really little). So you might grow to like it or maybe not.That part will take time. I personally think it's more important that you're comfortable being a caregiver. It is not a small task, it's like a full time job and a very committed relationship. It requires a lot of communication, patience, understanding, and openmindedness. She will rely on you a lot, probably a lot more than she has let herself to this point because that is how the dynamic is. Her world will probably revolve around you and you'll probably need to be very stable for her. It's not something that should be faked, if you don't naturally find yourself in that role then it might not be for you. That is completely understandable, this type of lifestyle isn't for everyone but it can be extremely rewarding. 

[LoralieHaze]

If the word "daddy" makes you uncomfortable, that's easily fixable in my opinion. Think of something else that you would prefer to be called. How do you feel about Dada or Papa? A very common one I've seen here is Sir. Does she have any special name for you now, like a cute variation of your actual name? Those are just some ideas, you know yourself and your relationship better than I do. 

 

You also said that's the biggest thing for you, which I interpret as you having multiple issues with this but the title being the most prominent one. What are the smaller things that might be holding you back?