Problems with Daddy

[Thisisme]

I know this is a space for Caregivers, but this question maybe better answered by the Bigs in the relationship rather than us littles (although I did post this in the littles space as well).

 

So, I'm just curious, how common is it for Bigs to have jealousy issues pertaining to their littles?

 

I have several male and female friends who I'm affectionate to (friendly hug, kisses on the cheek, etc.) all who I have known longer than my Daddy. I am very much gender fluid and slightly heteroflexible (only for Daddy). I identify as lesbian and Dominant, and have been having my own internal battle over this entire unexpected relationship. This is my first real experience being on the opposite side of the slash.

 

I feel like I'm doing something wrong when Daddy sees me being my "adult" self with these people because he gets attitudinal and off-putting. We have had issues pertaining to this in the past, and I thought things were getting better. I am not willing to give up any of my friends for the sake of another person. I firmly believe in loyalty and feel that if a friendship ends, it will do so because of the actions of the parties involved.

 

Does any other little have (or have had) this problem with their Big? If so, how did you handle it?

Edited August 20, 2016 by BabyGirlNay

[TheGambler]

These issues arent healthy and are uncommom. Why arent you allowed to be an adult with friends? No Daddy can expect that his little act childish all the time and in all places.. I mean...its a bit crazy. And the more friends you have, the better.

 

Got a friend that is Dominant and mostly lesbian  too. She is into the Domme side of bdsm and her partner is actually her pet/sub. Since that she is a lot into poly love she got a Daddy too and she dont have such issues. 

 

Did you talked with him about it?

[Poppet in Wonderland]

I know this is a dpace for Caregivers, but this question maybe better answered by the Bigs in the relationship rather than us littles (although I did post this in the littles space as well).

 

So, I'm just curious, how common is it for Bigs to have jealousy issues pertaining to their littles?

 

I have several male and female friends who I'm affectionate to (friendly hug, kisses on the cheek, etc.) all who I have known longer than my Daddy. I am very much gender fluid and slightly heteroflexible (only for Daddy). I identify as lesbian and Dominant, and have been having my own internal battle over this entire unexpected relationship. This is my first real experience being on the opposite side of the slash.

 

I feel like I'm doing something wrong when Daddy sees me being my "adult" self with these people because he get attitudinal ND off-putting. We have had issues pertaining to this in the past, and I thought things were getting better. I am not willing to give up any of my friends for the sake of another person. I firmly believe in loyalty and feel that if a friendship ends, it will do so because of the actionsof the parties involved.

 

 

I agree with Bard.  These issues you're describing aren't healthy even if it were merely a vanilla relationship.  I would have a talk about with your partner. See what's going on, my concern with this is they've had issues before this current one. 

 

Good Luck.

[Deimos420]

I'm a daddy who gets a little jealous maybe even to much at small moments but even I don't think it sounds nearly okay I mean friendly afecction isn't anything to argue over ever you should be allowed to be big at any time that you choosei and if he can't let you you need to leave